Hello.. I would be glad to receive some advice. Thank you.
Me (31) and my boyfriend (53) 3 years together. I knew before he wanted theesome while he was married. He said, probably he wanted because he lost sexual desire for his wife. When he met me — he said that he happy about our sexual life and he doesn’t need 3 person. And I told to him clearly — I’m against 3some. Period. Now I have few month when I was luck of attention from him. Luck of intimacy with him. He started to find excuses to not come to me (we leaving in different county of Europe, before we met every month). So he left me alone to celebrate NW while he knows it was important for me him to come.(I can’t come to him because of visa). But he says that he loves me.
So cherry on the cake: Yesterday we had talked about sex and he wrote about my 19 years old friend: “It makes me hard to think that you ask me to satisfy her. And you watch and kiss me while I’m doing it“. Because he saw my photo of her. It was light nude for my photography exam. So… I don’t know how to react. I was in completely shock and hurt by this and I said “it gives me discomfort”. Especially he knew my thoughts about 3some. And she is my friend… His answer “you always bring some negative. It’s just fantasy”. He apologized, but said things like “I thought I could trust you”. So now he is offended and we are not talking and looks like it’s the end. And I blame myself. After lovely NW, after for month questioning myself about his love… Im just confused. Am I too sensitive because it’s just fantasy?… Or… I don’t know.