Sophielolly Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 My boyfriend is perfect soba but when he gets drunk he blacks out and don’t know what he’s doing so I don’t trust him when he’s drunk there has also been certain times where I’ve caught him eyeing up girls or he’ll be out and ignores his phone or don’t come back when he says he will Link to comment
ForeverLearning Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 3 minutes ago, Sophielolly said: My boyfriend is perfect soba but when he gets drunk he blacks out and don’t know what he’s doing so I don’t trust him when he’s drunk there has also been certain times where I’ve caught him eyeing up girls or he’ll be out and ignores his phone or don’t come back when he says he will I think that’s a huge red flag. You should you able to trust your partner 100% regardless of the state they’re in. So I don’t think this relationship is healthy for you. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 4 minutes ago, Sophielolly said: My boyfriend is perfect soba but when he gets drunk he blacks out How long have you been dating? Cut your losses. Don't associate with people who get black out drunk. Check out the Al-Anon quiz to understand why t you're with someone like this: https://al-anon.org/newcomers/self-quiz/adult-quiz/ Link to comment
Rose Mosse Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 22 minutes ago, Sophielolly said: My boyfriend is perfect soba but when he gets drunk he blacks out and don’t know what he’s doing so I don’t trust him when he’s drunk there has also been certain times where I’ve caught him eyeing up girls or he’ll be out and ignores his phone or don’t come back when he says he will I thought you were going to talk about how your boyfriend makes perfect soba noodles. This is no good at all. I agree with engineerchick. How long have you two been together? Link to comment
gamon Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 He's probably not ignoring your calls, odds are he's unconscious. Link to comment
Sophielolly Posted January 22, 2021 Author Share Posted January 22, 2021 3 hours ago, Thatengineerchick said: I think that’s a huge red flag. You should you able to trust your partner 100% regardless of the state they’re in. So I don’t think this relationship is healthy for you. I know! Every time it gets brought up we fall out then make up because I believe it when he says it’ll change! 🤣 Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 2 hours ago, Rose Mosse said: I thought you were going to talk about how your boyfriend makes perfect soba noodles. This is no good at all. I agree with engineerchick. How long have you two been together? So did I. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 11 minutes ago, Sophielolly said: I know! Every time it gets brought up we fall out then make up because I believe it when he says it’ll change! 🤣 If he has shown you repeatedly that he will not change, why do you go back for more? Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 How often does he get drunk? Link to comment
Sophielolly Posted January 22, 2021 Author Share Posted January 22, 2021 12 minutes ago, Hollyj said: If he has shown you repeatedly that he will not change, why do you go back for more? Cuz I do love him Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 Then either you accept it, or move on. He has shown you he won't change. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 How old is he? How often does this happen? How long have you dated? Has he cheated on you? Link to comment
Sophielolly Posted January 22, 2021 Author Share Posted January 22, 2021 1 minute ago, Hollyj said: Then either you accept it, or move on. He has shown you he won't change. I do wanna move on but in the end I always up end back there , I know it’s toxic just keep going round in circles Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 22, 2021 Share Posted January 22, 2021 Just now, Sophielolly said: I do wanna move on but in the end I always up end back there , I know it’s toxic just keep going round in circles Sometimes we have to love ourselves more. Do you think that you could raise children with someone like this? Does he drink and drive? How would you advise your best friend or sibling in this situation? Link to comment
Sophielolly Posted January 23, 2021 Author Share Posted January 23, 2021 39 minutes ago, Hollyj said: Sometimes we have to love ourselves more. Do you think that you could raise children with someone like this? Does he drink and drive? How would you advise your best friend or sibling in this situation? I’m currently pregnant with his baby it came as a shock but we’re both happy and excited, it’s just that’s the only flaw and it’s harder now because I do want to make it a family and want it to work, it’s so hard knowing he can be the best most the times then it’s my thoughts when he goes out as I’ve seen him under the influence before and I don’t trust it. Link to comment
Sophielolly Posted January 23, 2021 Author Share Posted January 23, 2021 44 minutes ago, Hollyj said: How old is he? How often does this happen? How long have you dated? Has he cheated on you? I have never found out about ang cheating but when we do split up it has been known him taking girls back on nights out not very often but he did. Link to comment
Sophielolly Posted January 23, 2021 Author Share Posted January 23, 2021 Just now, Sophielolly said: I have never found out about ang cheating but when we do split up it has been known him taking girls back on nights out not very often but he did. Obviously since lock down clubs aren’t open but he don’t find it hard to find a kitchen party somewhere then he’s gone for the night and I don’t here anything Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 23, 2021 Share Posted January 23, 2021 I think that you need to think about what is best for your child. Currently, he could be exposing himself to Covid, by going to other people's homes and drinking. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 23, 2021 Share Posted January 23, 2021 How old is he? How often does he drink like this? Link to comment
Sophielolly Posted January 23, 2021 Author Share Posted January 23, 2021 1 minute ago, Hollyj said: I think that you need to think about what is best for your child. Currently, he could be exposing himself to Covid, by going to other people's homes and drinking. My exact point to! Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted January 23, 2021 Share Posted January 23, 2021 So I ask once again, how often does he get drunk? Once a month? Once every two months? Once every 2 weeks? How often? Link to comment
Sophielolly Posted January 23, 2021 Author Share Posted January 23, 2021 Just now, Hollyj said: How old is he? How often does he drink like this? He’s 22 I’m 23 he drinks once a week but he does dissapearing acts Atleast once a month , calls it a “blow out” Link to comment
Sophielolly Posted January 23, 2021 Author Share Posted January 23, 2021 Just now, Capricorn3 said: So I ask once again, how often does he get drunk? Once a month? Once every two months? Once every 2 weeks? How often? Once a week but does his disappearing acts and ignores me like once a month Link to comment
gamon Posted January 23, 2021 Share Posted January 23, 2021 5 minutes ago, Hollyj said: I think that you need to think about what is best for your child. Currently, he could be exposing himself to Covid, by going to other people's homes and drinking. And cheating. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 23, 2021 Share Posted January 23, 2021 Clearly he has a problem with alcohol. I think you really need to start to put you and your baby first. Hanging at people's homes on a weekly basis during the pandemic is dangerous and risking the life of your child. Also, how can you move forward with someone who has to drink to excess. Honestly, you should have considered this, before getting pregnant with a kid. He does not sound responsible. Link to comment
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