Sizzles Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 Thanks for taking the time to read this just looking for third party opinion My girlfriend wants me to admit to something I didn’t do, it’s petty, I did not do what I am accused of and told her that I didn’t nicely. She then tells me that until I come clean and admit to this petty event, that our relationship is at a crossroads and that we are in jeopardy. Here is her words: “I have no problem with accepting your little white lies about where you buy a shirt or etc. but when you Don’t admit things such as the this situation you are calling me a liar or basically making me think I’m crazy. A relationship is built on trust it’s a huge part of a loving relationship. I am disappointed you did this but that’s far less worse than you saying you didn’t when it’s so obvious you did. I hope you come clean about it” I didn’t do what she think I did. It’s so petty, my friend told me just to suck it up and admit too it for the sake of the relationship, and this made me even more upset, because I don’t want to admit something I didn’t do. Advice? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose Mosse Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 What is this petty thing she's accusing you of? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sizzles Posted November 20, 2020 Author Share Posted November 20, 2020 I’m accused of using touch up paint that was specifically for her house in the kitchen. I know it’s ridiculous but she’s making a huge deal out of it because she had a hard time matching it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pippy longstocking Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 I’m accused of using touch up paint that was specifically for her house in the kitchen. I know it’s ridiculous but she’s making a huge deal out of it because she had a hard time matching it. Is this for real buddy ....she gave you that long speech over a bit of paint .......or was it the last straw in a chain of mammoth lies . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose Mosse Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 If you're being honest, let her know that you're not lying about it. It doesn't seem like she trusts or respects you with those comments so I'd be a bit more wary about this relationship, if I were you. It may sound petty with the paint but the whole picture doesn't look so good. Be more honest with each other. These sorts of squabbles shouldn't be happening. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sizzles Posted November 20, 2020 Author Share Posted November 20, 2020 Yes this is for real, we are a couple that got back together after a year off from each other, again it was over petty lie about where I bought a shirt, I bought it from a thrift store but didn’t want to tell her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SarahLancaster Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 Take the paint to Home Depot. Even if you have just a little bit, they can match it perfectly and give you a gallon of paint. Sheesh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnrun Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 What about this relationship is worth "sucking it up"? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pippy longstocking Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 Yes this is for real, we are a couple that got back together after a year off from each other, again it was over petty lie about where I bought a shirt, I bought it from a thrift store but didn’t want to tell her I don't want to sound like I am against you buddy lol I AM NOT ...honestly ....but her reaction is so well ..full on ..extra , extra with cheese that I can't help wonder what there is hiding in your dirty laundry lol ...aww and the shirt from the thrift store .... I can't help but laugh ... I am not much help right now am I . Seriously please don't just suck it up and agree ... you might as well leave now for what you will be setting yourself up with in the future ...you will be admitting to allsorts . Someone just robbed a bank ..oh it will be Sizzles Don't own it buddy . Has she got a past that involves been told a lot of lies and has built up a huge mistrust of men ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pippy longstocking Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 You remind me of a poster from many years ago called Tomato ... he always had me in pieces with his short spurts of life events . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melancholy123 Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 Dont ever admit to something you didnt do, you'd never hear the end of it if you do. Plus she'd never believe anything you say in the future. What a silly fuss over some touchup paint. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sizzles Posted November 21, 2020 Author Share Posted November 21, 2020 I’m no Tomato 🍅 but yes it’s life on life terms!! 😂 my life Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sizzles Posted November 21, 2020 Author Share Posted November 21, 2020 @ melancholy Exactly!!! Thanks you 😊 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pippy longstocking Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 I’m no Tomato 🍅 but yes it’s life on life terms!! 😂 my life Hahaha yep , it's your life and I am trying to find an answer for you . There just seems so much more is lying under the surface . Look just tell her you wont admit it and try and ask her why this is affecting her so dramatically , she has so much on this , she feels her love and dedication mean nothing in this relationship without your honesty ... it is so deep ......for a bit of paint . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sizzles Posted November 21, 2020 Author Share Posted November 21, 2020 Well it’s made me realize that I don’t want to live that way. So I will not participate any longer, it’s been fun but it doesn’t work for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tinydance Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 I’m no Tomato 🍅 but yes it’s life on life terms!! 😂 my life However this does sound like sour grapes lol I wouldn't probably continue this relationship if I was you to be honest. It didn't work the first time and it's not working again. Maybe it's just not meant to be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pippy longstocking Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 Well it’s made me realize that I don’t want to live that way. So I will not participate any longer, it’s been fun but it doesn’t work for me. I have to second your motion ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sizzles Posted November 21, 2020 Author Share Posted November 21, 2020 However this does sound like sour grapes lol I wouldn't probably continue this relationship if I was you to be honest. It didn't work the first time and it's not working again. Maybe it's just not meant to be. I just don’t understand this one I’m pretty cool but she always needs the drama Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 Maintain your self-respect and never stoop to her level. Take her off that pedestal and move forward with your head held high. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lambert Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 I would not admit to something I didn't do and I would not appreciate her lectures. I say dump this one and for good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sizzles Posted November 21, 2020 Author Share Posted November 21, 2020 I ended it tonight, life is too short and it’s not working Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pippy longstocking Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 I ended it tonight, life is too short and it’s not working Did you tell her why ? Just curious Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sizzles Posted November 21, 2020 Author Share Posted November 21, 2020 Did you tell her why ? Just curious I did but didn’t blame her. I said that it’s not working for me, I been in AA for 6 years and I have a fairly solid program and spiritual side to me, she is a good woman but some of the resentment of the past relationship is still there along with some trauma she endured with her father as a child, she like to say that I was just like her Dad and that irritated me because he was a cheater and I am not. Lots of red flags but I forego it because of high physical attraction just being honest. I want the whole package and now is the time to look forward. Wanting and getting your ex back is not all it’s cracked up to be, I wished upon a star and the universe brought her back but the song remained the same, heed my warning ⛔️ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pippy longstocking Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 I did but didn’t blame her. I said that it’s not working for me, I been in AA for 6 years and I have a fairly solid program and spiritual side to me, she is a good woman but some of the resentment of the past relationship is still there along with some trauma she endured with her father as a child, she like to say that I was just like her Dad and that irritated me because he was a cheater and I am not. Lots of red flags but I forego it because of high physical attraction just being honest. I want the whole package and now is the time to look forward. Wanting and getting your ex back is not all it’s cracked up to be, I wished upon a star and the universe brought her back but the song remained the same, heed my warning ⛔️ I am a great believer in the universe , the law of attraction and spirituality as well and you are spot on ...... getting an ex back is not all it is cracked up to be is it . I think you have a great attitude , handled it well and actually very kindly and just got on with following your gut .....you are a refreshing change , hope you stick around and offer a word or two to others who come here . People come through these doors in awful desperate states and it sounds like you have your head screwed on . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnrun Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 I had a feeling you put up with it (and your buddies advising you to "suck it up") because she's "hot". I'm sure you know there are plenty of attractive women who don't insist on creating drama out of nothing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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