NoLongerAlone21 Posted December 28, 2019 Share Posted December 28, 2019 If I were to sum up my experiences with dating thus far, I would say I was focused on learning how to date (how I like to date), experiencing different personalities romantically, becoming aware and taking ownership of my own patterns, getting comfortable putting myself out there while upholding my standards, and learning how to navigate expressing my needs and wants. My approach was a bit aimless, like I thought something magic would just happen while I was open to even not the best experiences for the sake of figuring things out. But as I come in to 2020 I am more prepared and ready than ever to date with the intent of finding my partner for life. For the first time in my life, I am writing out what I am looking for in a relationship, the qualities I find most attractive in a man, and my deal breakers. I have a clearer sense of my own needs, an appreciation for everything I bring to the table within a partnership, and I know my standards. In the past I was hesitant to walk away from good men that weren’t good fits, but now I want to date and be picky about it. Friend zone people more quickly at the first signs we aren’t compatible. I’m 34 and live in NYC. A lot of people have a negative slant when it comes to dating in NYC, especially as a woman, but I’ve always held out hope that something would work out for me. I want to keep my positive attitude up. I’ve yet to date with this much intent to find my guy and be his girl. I would love a masculine man with his own passions and interests who has self-awareness and understands how to care for a relationship in his own ways. I welcome all and any advice! I welcome personal stories and helpful tips as to what worked for you, what didn’t. For some reason, I feel a bit apprehensive taking this direct of an approach - I’ve always enjoyed the fun of dating, but I feel some men misinterpreted that fun-loving spirit as not serious material. I still want to be my playful self - but stay open to all possibilities until the right man steps up. How do I do this? Link to comment
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