kokoto Posted May 24, 2019 Share Posted May 24, 2019 Hello everyone. I want your advice on how i can forget and get over my relationship with this girl. She is a classmate in my first year at college ... she was cute and friendly but i really wasn't so much into dating her or making a move on her. Slowly we were becoming friends and she seems to enjoy my company. She asked for my phone number, asked to hang out sometimes, offered to work on homework together ... It was clear that she liked me more than my other classmates, and some of them even asked me if i was dating her ... She becomes touchy and flirts sometimes with me, rests her head on my shoulder when we are sitting too close to each other. I started to like her back more but i wanted to play it slowly, see what her true intentions are since i don't know her that well. For 3 months, we were always interacting with each other and rumors about us being a couple started, and from her behavior i could only conclude that she really likes me and i started to fall for her ... but i should not have ... I found out that she has a boyfriend already. He came to see her in an event in the faculty and seeing them together really hurt me. I felt like i was an idiot for thinking that i'm the one she likes and wants to be with. But now when i think about it, it wasn't totally my fault ... She was leading me on. She never mentioned him before despite the huge amount of conversations we had. She had the chance to bring him up more than once, but she didn't, she hid it from me and avoided telling me that she is in a relationship. I was mad, angry and sad at first, but i stayed patient and silent, believing that this was my fault for falling for those mixed signals. If i could, i would have cut all communication with her, but she is a classmate and i will see her everyday in the faculty so i have nowhere to run and there is no way to avoid her. Even if i did, that will make me feel like a jerk, and more rumors will start. So we stayed friends. I was there for her and helped her just like i did with any other friend, and she showed that she cares about me and shows concern. Now a few days are remaining till the end of the year, and we are still friends but colder than the beginning of the year. I don't know about her, but for me, sometimes i feel like i got over it and forgot all what happened and that being friends with her is okay for me and i don't care about her boyfriend or whatever she did to me. But sometimes, here i am, still thinking about all of this, wondering what the hell was going through her mind when she gave me all those mixed signals and flirted while being in a relationship. I wanted to date other girls so i can forget about her and that is the best solution for me, but i didn't find a girl that likes me more than her. What are your thoughts on this, guys ? Thank you in advance. Link to comment
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