luvjasminee Posted May 12, 2019 Share Posted May 12, 2019 Hi, I am currently new, and this is my very first post! Currently I am dealing with a toxic friendship, (sometimes I question if I really am, I am having on and off thoughts about my friendship with my "friend" and I am too afraid to confront her) So ever since the start of my school year, I have moved to a new school. I made friends quite easily, and I instantly had a close bond to a girl named "May" (fake name for privacy reasons) May and I always hung out aside each other and trusted each other quite well. It was just her and I until another girl, lets call her "Anna", came across to start conversations with us. She was very kind, and I was quite excited to hangout with her. I started getting bad feelings when she started to act quite harsh. I took her harsh statements as what she would call "jokes" when in reality Anna was making me feel upset. I did not, at the time discuss to May on what I felt. She had bodyshamed me, insulted me a couple times, pointed out my acne, constantly torn down my image. When it came to me defending myself, she would pull out the "victim card" and act like everything she said was a joke.. She was also quite self absorbed, which of course there is nothing wrong with loving yourself, however sometimes she would constantly talk to me all about herself and whatnot. Then, when I would try to speak up, she would go on her phone and act so uninterested. She just seems to not listen to what I have to say. She even had the urge to take a selfie of herself when I was speaking upon a serious topic. Whenever it came to making groups on assignments (our teacher allows us to pick a classmate) it was always a race on whoever would have May first. It was either me or Anna. It was just so obvious that Anna chose May over me. I didn't care, but when she would take it to another level, thats when I seriously did. Anna used to also hold grudges on me and May whenever we did something that she did not like. For example, I decided to sit with May on a bus seat rather than sitting with Anna, during a field trip. She overreacted and stopped talking to us for a good day?? May and I decided to ignore her, if she would constantly ignore us in stupid situations. She came back, begging for forgiveness and got mad at us for ignoring her. She then proceeded to complain about how apparently, May and I like our friendship more than hers?? May started to realize the "friendship" we gotten ourselves into with Anna, when I admitted that I had bad feelings towards her. May told me how when her and Anna were facetiming, Anna said how she liked her more then me. So, thats why Anna was acting so rude against me. Months go by, and everything kind of seemed to stopped. She stopped the insults when I confronted her, but still gives me this bad vibe. I really want to avoid her but it is hard, because I am in a really small school; and I have a overnight trip coming up, where I have no choice but to share rooms with her and May. I really hate the "friendship" I have with Anna. Does anybody have advice? School is almost over, so maybe I can wait it out a bit, however I have this constant urge to confront her. I feel like it is a bit too late, and I dont want any awkward incidents,(for example, if I leave her, we might end up being in a group together and I dont want to let any teachers know about how I feel, because it can cause huge reactions) She also has been really racist, she swears a lot and even a teacher has heard her do that around me. It made me feel really embarassed. I know this whole situation sounds incredibly stupid and immature, which you are right, it is! But before the school year ends, I need advice to gain confidence on confronting her, without any awkward intentions. A lot of people don't like Anna also, and she would of been likeable if she hadn't insulted me, and brought jealously over our whole friendship between May and I. What should I do? I really appreciate some feedback! P.S, sorry if this is quite long! x Link to comment
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