dudeman1 Posted March 11, 2018 Share Posted March 11, 2018 I've never come across a situation like this before. I've been on a few dates (and had sex with) a woman who has a man in her life who she describes as "the most important man" in her life, but they aren't a romantic couple. They tried having sex a couple years ago but mutually decided the relationship would be better if it stays platonic. She is attracted to him, but he is either not attracted to her, is gay, or is avoiding sex deliberately for some reason. It's extremely confusing. They just decided to move in together, but will have separate bedrooms. She wants to continue seeing me, so long as I "respect their relationship." She denies any hint of polyamory here, but she says she loves him. This woman is very honest and a great communicator, so I have no reason to believe I'm being lied to about anything. I have no problem dating a woman with a male best friend, but this seems different. I told her I'd like to meet him and perhaps all three of us could be good friends, but she isn't comfortable with that. She says that she'd only bring a man around this guy "if things were super committed." They have a sort of unspoken rule that they don't talk about their dating lives with one another. I don't know how to invest in someone under these circumstances. She describes their connection as being extremely profound and they spend enormous amounts of time together. But at the same time, she's fine having sex with me and wants to continue doing things together with me. What is one supposed to make of this? I have my theories but want to hear the perspective of outsiders. Thanks. Link to comment
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