Careerchoice Posted February 24, 2018 Share Posted February 24, 2018 I was with my recent ex for a month and a half. It progressed fast. We had a few arguments, the last of which ended us. I mailed and dropped off at her work all of her things shortly after the split and texted her to mail me back my things as well. She ignored the two text messages. I could care less about the clothes, but the garage door opener cannot be written off. So I politely messaged her yesterday through Facebook Messenger letting her know that I would be sending her a prepaid envelope for her to mail back my garage door opener and she could send back or drop off my clothes at her convenience. She responded that she would drop my stuff off this weekend. My mind is racing. Why not just mail my stuff back? It's definitely out of her way (30 minutes) to come to one of my offices on the weekend. Will she just drop my things off and leave? Will she want to talk? Is she expecting me to say something? We are both prideful and stubborn. Both of us think we did nothing wrong. I don't understand her motives. For background, I could sense one weekend that she was treating me differently. She wasn't as attentive and it felt like she was taking me for granted or making me a second priority. I brought it to her attention and she went into complete denial about it. I wanted to talk to her some more about it, but her response was to text me that she needed to think things (us) over and that she was going to bed. I found it unacceptable that she would drop a bomb on me like that and then run off to sleep (Why even make the statement? Why not just think it over and talk the next day? It was inconsiderate to me.), so I told her either we talk now or don't bother calling. She refused. I gave it a coupe of days to calm down and contacted her. We argued for a moment and she wished me the best. I said good bye. She has a history of avoiding conflict, or even just calmly discussing things. In her 14 year marriage, she fought with her ex-husband only three times. I don't think that's normal as I like to air out every issue. She likes to sweep things under the rug whereas I look under the rug. I do still love her and would be open to working things out, but I am very hurt by her actions and I couldn't see things working out between us if she's going to treat me this way. Maybe some guys are good with being mistreated, but not me. I would rather be single. Link to comment
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