Natkyri Posted February 9, 2018 Share Posted February 9, 2018 Im feeling so defeated. Ive recently had a sudden break up. Despite it only being 7 months, im really upset. I liked him a lot and thought we were going to get over anything. Long story short, i met a guy through some friends of ours. I orginally wanted to keep it low key and take it easy, but within weeks everyone knew because he told a friend (it seemed he was happy to have met me). His close mates seemed stoked for us and saw us as two peas in a pod and we were gettin on great. He was the first to ask about our status and we both agreed that we were exclusive. 2-3 months into dating he had a bit of a turn (i think he was freakin out about it going too fast). He was really drunk one night and a bit mean too me. He was saying that he didn't like his living situation, didn't earn enough and couldn't give me what i wanted ect... The next day we talked things through and i made it clear that i wasnt going backwards so we either ended it or we continued as g.f/b.f. I also told him i was going to take a few days off and i took some of my things home with me. I gave him the opportunity to get out. It didn't take too long before he messaged me and after a few days we met up and agreed to stay together as b.f/g.f and to take things at our own pace. Things were back on track again and ive never been happier. He invited me to spend xmas with him and his fam (knowing my fam is on the other side of the world). The family were lovely and it felt so easy. Unfortunately, after of late his efforts became less. I was assuming it was because he was just comfortable and didnt need to impress anymore.. however his efforts towards me became less and less and his wanting to hang with friends & drink excessively was getting more and more. Somtimes he would be 100% in and want me to join with his friends but it was gettin less and less. He was also gettin snappy at me and seemed unhappy in his work and life situation. But i let things go aside. The thing that broke me was this; I needed picking up from a staff party as it was in the middle of nowhere. He had agreed and because id been able to drive him around the weekend before, he was returning the favour. Unfortunately, he decided to go out drinking himself instead and i got a last minute text to say he couldn't. Luckily i was able to stay there, but i still felt let down. And i told him so. I said i felt let down and that drink means more to him than anything. At the time he was apologetic and asked to talk later. I snapped back, 'that there was nothing to talk about as he got drunk and cancelled, end of'. Maybe a bit harsh. The next day he didn't contact me. I waited for another day, and still nothing. This angered me even more... long story short: We have ended. Im devasted, but half know i deserve better. He admitted he must not be ready if thats what he did. He still wants to remain friends (but is this just what guys say??). Admittedly i did get a bit more needy as i felt him pull away too. So i know this Probably didn't help. He has been very apologetic and admits he needs to sort out his life but he hasn't asked to give him another go, as guessed he wasnt ready anyways. so im assuming he is done. Do i just walk away? I feel very used and upset he didn't tell me months ago when i he had the chance. Why lead me on? Guys, am i right in sensing he is done & walk away or is there hope we might get back together if we just have a breather ? Its only been 4 days, but im hurt. Link to comment
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