Danno Posted February 2, 2018 Share Posted February 2, 2018 I’m 30, in a 5 year relationship with my girlfriend (also 30) which is not going well. Deep down I know we are probably one more conflict away from the end. About two months ago, at work we recruited a new girl (she's 24) who I don’t work with directly but we initially sat quite close and got to know each other. We clicked straight away and got on really well. A month on, she kept steering our conversations towards relationships, I think trying to gauge if I was single or not. I kept avoiding this topic until once she told me how her parents keep asking her if there's a new man in her life, therefore implying she's single. She then asked me straight about my relationship status, and I told her that I'm in a long term relationship. Now, we've never expressed any romantic feelings for each other, but based on the signals I'm reading, I think she's either interested or maybe just curious. Her behaviour didn't change after knowing that I'm in a relationship as in she keeps making an effort to catch up with me after work every now and again. She also never mentions my girlfriend. I really like this girl. As sad and ungrateful that it sounds, we connect and enjoy each other's humour to an extent that I haven't experienced in the past 5 years. My question is, what can I do to avoid being friend zoned by the new girl? Knowing this tends to be the prospect for guys who don't act when a girl expresses an interest. Infidelity is a no go for me. I also don’t think it’s wise to jump from a long term relationship straight into a new one. What options do I have to declare an interest for the future? Should I just be upfront about it and then reduce the amount of time we spend with each other to prevent it turning into friendship? Thanks for bearing with me. D Link to comment
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