Rozhni Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I’ve noticed that with girls that I REALLY like, I truly want to start off as friends. The first few months I don’t even think about them sexually. (After a few months I tend to wander off in thought.) But when I really like a girl I want her to be my best friend before anything else. Before I kiss a girl I want to feel like we are really close as friends and ready to become more. I feel like with most girls it doesn’t work like that because I lose the mysterious points which are pretty important when dating and getting a girl to stay interested in you. I was really close friends with a girl for 1 year (no touching, kissing) before we finally had sex and lost our virginities when we were 18. We had sex the same night we kissed for the first time. We finally had a place to ourselves so I took advantage of the moment. It was amazing because of how long we waited. We never talked about waiting. I just never made the move and she was shy. Plus we hardly saw each other. She ended up leaving me 6 months after the sex. She told me she lost the “spark” and ended up dating her 34 year old high school track coach... she never told me she loved me though. We are still close friends even though it’s been 4 years since our breakup.. so my question is, is starting off as friends first and later becoming lovers a bad way to go? What’s wrong with being in the friend zone? I’m confident that I can go from friend zone to sex zone when I’m ready and feel like she’s ready. Link to comment
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