indea08 Posted November 24, 2017 Share Posted November 24, 2017 Hey guys, happy Thanksgiving to all of you! This is too long to type out so I will bullet point the situation. If you want/need more info or clarification, just say so. And thank you for your insight. -Brother was a major player in highschool, back and forth between two main girls ("Ashley" and "Amy") for years. -He got one of the girls "Ashley" pregnant in highschool. The boy is now 6 years old. -He joined the military after highschool, came home on leave and intended to marry "Amy", changed his mind about a week before he came home and married "Ashley" instead (I assume he wanted to marry for $$$ benefits, and he chose "Ashley" because he could trust her) -Over the next few years they had two more boys (Now 2 years and 6 months) -Brother is stationed in Alaska and was intending on doing three months of training in the field so his wife came home to Ohio, ended up not doing the training so they've been apart for the last year or so. Brother calls to talk to kids maybe 1-2x a week for 5-10min, has been going out drinking 3-4x a week, blowing money at the bar and getting huge, expensive tattoos. (He's living the bachelor life) -Brother had an affair with wife's best friend, wife found out, they went to counseling twice, stayed together. -Brother has now asked wife for a divorce, will be coming home for Christmas for 3 weeks, and is leaving the military in about 10 months. -Brother plans on going on a three day trip to Nashville with his military friends (whom he's been with in Alaska for the last year) for New Years celebration during his 3 weeks at home. -Says he's planning on moving to North Carolina when he gets out of the military. So, I finally told him off. He's been an absent father for atleast two years now, and a terrible husband for the entirety of his marriage. His oldest son has become a complete jerk, to the point that my husband and I really don't like him around our daughter. His two year old wouldn't recognize him. I told him that going on a guys trip when he should be spending time recreating a relationship with his kids was completely irresponsible. I told him that his kids are in Ohio so that's where he needs to be, not North Carolina. I'm pissed that he chose to bring two more little boys into the world but will not accept the responsibility of raising them. I don't like him anymore. I feel like I don't know him anymore. Does anyone here have military experience? Can anyone help me understand his point of view? I'm trying not to hate him, but I really can't stand that he puts himself before his kids. I cannot fathom not seeing my kids for a year, and choosing to leave them again for a guys trip. I don't even want to be around him, but he's my brother and I love him. Help me understand...please. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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