ZeddsDed Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Basically, my partner had been acting emotionally abusive towards me and my children for the past 3 years of our relationship. At first I blamed myself, tried to get mental help, was put on anti depressants for my depression and anxiety. I began to see his behaviour as abusive and with the help of a women's shelter and the police there was an emergency protection order put against him. He's not allowed to see me or the children. Next week, there is a court date to either confirm and extend the order for a year, or make amendments to the order like supervised visits for him and the children. I'm torn whether to allow the visits. My counsellor advises against it and says the amendment should be him receiving counselling for a year before seeing the children. But my father is pressuring me to allow it and says I'm being spiteful in not allowing it 2 weeks ago, my partner broke his order and showed up at the house. Crying, begging and pleading that he sees the wrongs in his ways and vows to change. I felt terribly guilty after seeing him. My counsellor worries that if I open up communication between him and our children, it gives him a chance to manipulate me and guilt trip me into getting back together. I'm torn because I don't agree with taking children from their father, they are as much a part of him as they are me. But I worry what it will cause as iv been very happy since not seeing him and the children's behaviour has improved 100% since him not having contact with them!! Any advice? Link to comment
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