Alice1984 Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 Hi all I'm sorry for the intimate nature of this problem but I need some help. So I have been seeing a guy who I have known as a friend for some years, for about four and a half months, he is a great kind and considerate guy who thinks the world of me and we have been taking it slowly not rushing things. We had only slept together three times until last night. We had a few drinks last night and I decided to stay over and we started to get heated. We were in his bedroom with the lights off.Before our clothes came off I said to him that, as I have had to come off my pill recently due to it causing me problems which he knew about already, we needed to use a condom.he said ok so we kept kissing etc and as our clothes came off I repeated this. He agreed and said we can use something and got up to go out the room to lock his front door before bed and went into his drawer. We returned to what we were doing and I thought he had put the condom on as he reached for his lube And used it which I assumed was to make things easier. We had sex which only lasted half a minute which I'm guessing was down to the drink and as he finished he pulled out and ejaculated outside of me . It happened very quickly and , I was shocked and said to him I thought he had used a condom and he said don't worry because he pulled out well before time.afterwards I excused myself to go down to the toilet and was sick, I'm not sure if it was through fright or alcohol,but all I know is I felt fine just tipsy, like I hadn't overdone it, and suddenly started feeling sick when we finished. I felt annoyed at the fact he hadn't worn anything but we went to sleep for whatever reason not saying anything to him. When we woke up in the morning it became clear we might begin to have sex once again. I said to him we need to use something this time and he said ' do you want me to put the condom on?' To which I replied yes. He went and got the condom out the drawer and opened it .we kissed for a while again and he proceeded to try and initiate sex with me again without the condom, albeit not forcefully. to which once again I told him look we need to use it as I didnt feel safe without it. He replied again ' do you want me to wear it? I will pull out before time don't worry!' I replied that this was not safe so he put the condom on after stalling from doing it up until now , but after five minutes of use we gave up as he was getting into all sorts of a muddle trying to get inside me with it on. He later declared that he didn't mind wearing them but preferred not to. I'm not sure how to feel. He eventually did put it on. He didn't force me to do anything that isn't an issue, but am I wrong to feel slightly disrespected because of this? Or is this my fault for not realising he hadnt put the condom on due to having a few drinks? Regardless now I am left having to go for emergency contraception. Yes I'm sure it is partly my fault as I, after a couple of drinks,( but nowhere near unaware of my senses) didn't realise and trusted that he had went to get a condom. But am I overreacting when I say I feel regardless of this he shouldn't have assumed he could stick it in bare that night after I voiced my wishes to use a condom? I'm so confused and would appreciate any advice . This is messing with my head.Thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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