aroud Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 I recently broke up with my wife. It's been over a month now, and we live separately. During that time I have been trying to rebuild myself mentally and with regard to my job, plus adapting to living by myself for the first time in many years. As part of this next phase of my life I would prefer to have ownership of facebook again. Whilst my ex is not on FB at all, some of her friends and family are, and I'm still FB friends with them. Consequently they can see what I post, and if my ex wanted to check up on me, she could. I am friends with her best friend, who I am certain would tell her in passing of anything significant they saw on my FB account. I don't feel okay with that. I feel like I want my life back in my control, and do not want any of her friends or family connected to me on FB. If I ask my ex I am quite sure she will ask me not to do anything, because she has a propensity to lie to close friends and family about the truth of situations, playing them down. I suspect she will not want me to unfriend anyone because then they will know what's going on, and she will not feel comfortable with that. So in a sense, I feel like my digital identity is part controlled by my ex. I do have compassion for what I feel her position will be, but at the same time I am struggling with the issue. I do not have many friends (we moved country, so I am quite isolated) and as absurd as it might seem to those who are not fans of FB, having control over it is important to me. The way I see it I can either ask her and risk her saying no until a time when she will be comfortable with it, or decide myself. Link to comment
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