fmfan08 Posted May 7, 2017 Share Posted May 7, 2017 We went out on two dates and everything was great, she'd initiate 80% of the time, be really into the conversation, send emojis and ask questions, etc. She was positive even after the second date. We had a third date arranged, then she cancelled the day before saying she got an email off her tutor that she has to stay extra on her work placement (as a teacher) and attend parents evening so I acted aloof and was like okay maybe another time. She told me that was a really weird text from me, I guess because I acted aloof rather than my usual upbeat self. Then she suggested the following Wednesday, so I agreed. Anyway, she seemed different that week, she wouldn't initiate much. We spoke a little bit a couple of days later, but when I text her she didn't reply straight away. Then I saw she posted on facebook that she got the job she applied for. So I congratulated her on her facebook post, THEN she replied to my text. It was like I had to "encourage" her to respond, yet the week before she was really eager. Later that night, she drunk texts me (she's done this 3 times overall) that her friends want to invite me to their party on the 20th to meet me. The following morning I agree to it but she laughs it off saying she was drunk and told me not to book that day off just yet and she'll talk to me about it on our date. So a few days later, on my birthday, she texts me "Morning What did you get up to last night? Can I ask you a serious question; as I'm new to this dating thing. Are you seeing any other girls besides me?". I did have a few facebook statuses of me tagged in locations and saying things like "enjoyed tonight", don't know if it came across as if I was dating others, but she knew I was with a friend as I told her when she asked. I told her that "You're the only girl I'm seeing at this moment", so she wished me happy birthday and said "Okay, that's all I wanted to know". After that, she wrote on my wall saying "Happy Birthday xx". We then texted a little bit and her response times were like 1-2 mins, back to how they used to be. Then the morning of the date she calls me by my pet name and texts saying she's not well, been up all night being sick and not slept, she's having the day off work and going to try sleep it off and that she can't come tonight and that she'll try and make it up to me (second time she cancelled). I asked when she was next free (probably should have left it) then she said Saturday. So I suggested 8:30pm as I was working before that. She said "That's late on, you working during the day?". Then she sends a second text saying "Can't do half 8, just spoke to my dad and he wants to take me out for a celebration tea for me getting my job. Sorry... I am just so busy at the moment, going back to my teaching placement and SATS coming up, etc. I might have to cool this off for a while. I don't want to be messing you around because you're a gentleman and I don't want to come across a , because I'm not like that. Hope that makes sense?" So I just went in agreement and said a few things, wished her luck, etc. Then she said "I don't think I can put the time in and don't want to feel guilty for putting my degree first. I enjoyed the time we spent together and just think it should stop there, so it doesn't get even messier. I sound so selfish 😞 just need to put me first and concentrate on 1 thing! And that's my degree. So sorry for being a and selfish, I hope you can understand where I am coming from." It's odd how she goes from being really eager to being distant. Is that just an excuse because she's not interested? As I believe even the busiest person makes time for someone they like. She does live 23 miles away and takes her 30 mins to see me though. Girls I ask say even if they prioritise their work and it's really important to them and would rather focus on that, if someone is special to them they'll still make the effort. So just an excuse to say she isn't interested or possibly legit based on her explanation? Why did she suddenly go from eager to distant? And why did it take her two weeks to finally send me something like that? I'm just annoyed my time was wasted but I'm talking to other girls. Guess I just wanted a different set of opinions on this. Link to comment
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