Mrswhite Posted May 2, 2017 Share Posted May 2, 2017 I've been with my partner for 4 years and sadly I don't feel in love with him anymore. It absolutely breaks my heart as he is the sweetest, most beautiful caring person with the biggest heart but I just don't think I feel the same way I did. He was never my type from the start but looks don't bother me as much, his personality made him attractive. We moved in together quite early on in the relationship, I moved in with his parents and brothers and eventually we went travelling for 6 months and came back and moved in with my mom so we could start saving to rent a house. I'd been feeling this way for quite some time, how I almost feel at the young age of 21 I'm not sure I want to be tied down too early, I wouldn't mind if it was someone I was madly in love with but I just don't feel it anymore. Since we've been together I've put on some weight and have working so many hours I just don't feel me anymore. I've really lost this spark I used to have and I really have lost the spark in my relationship. I don't find my partner attractive so we don't have sex often at all, if ever as we still live with my mom also but even if we lived in our own place, I don't think I'd be too bothered about sex. If anything, I fantasise about sex with other people quite often and much prefer masturbation than intercourse as he's quite small in the downstairs department and doesn't last long. I'm quite stuck as I feel I don't want to be without him as he's all I've known for the past 4 years as we've spent every waking minute together (practically) but I also don't want to be with him. It's hard because he's still madly in love with me and he says I'm the only one for him etc. His biggest fear is rejection and he has bad anxiety so I know this would damage him so bad if we split but I feel it's unfair to him and myself if I keep stringing the relationship along when in my head I think I know it isn't going to play out. He's now moved back into his moms house so that maybe I will start to appreciate seeing him because currently I can't wait to have alone time to be honest I never get excited about seeing him as he's just part of the furniture now and I thought him moving out would change it but it hasn't. I'm just not sure where to go as of here and would really like some advice. Link to comment
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