TheUMan Posted February 25, 2017 Share Posted February 25, 2017 Okay. Here goes nothing. Me and my ex dated for about three years. We went through the ups and downs of a relationship. Started out great. Hit rough patches here and there. Broke up a couple of times. Got back together. She's 21 and I'm 24. We were each other's first real relationship. We lost our virginities to each other. Did a lot of firsts together. Like traveling together, holidays. Etc. So long story short. Back in September. We broke up because we both had busy work and school lives and failed to put any effort into the relationship. It was a rough breakup. Basically I saw her. We started making out that night. And she told me she wants to have a real relationship again. Where we put each other first. I told her that I want to be with her. But that she isn't always fair with me in the way she sets unrealistic expectations out for me. She broke up with me and said it was because I don't seem to care about her anymore in terms of romance and effort. Within days she starts dating another guy that she's been friends with for weeks. I get pissed off about it. But ultimately respect her decision and stay friends with her. This is where it gets tricky. We see each other here and there. Like twice a week. Movies. Dinner. Etc. Nothing serious. Just hangouts. She keeps her distance for the most part. For the next four months she moves incredibly fast with him. Talking about moving in, marriage, telling me about how amazing he is. Granted we reached a point where things like that are cool. I'm totally nonchalant and reacted totally cool. Even though it bothers me here and there. She basically keeps this up for months. No sign whatsoever of wanting to get back together with me. Until this past week...... So on Friday. We hang out the whole day. We go to this really nice city. And instead of getting out the car she wants to stay in and just chill. We're just laying there and she gets really close. I kind of push her off and play it off. Her boyfriend is texting her and they're having some sort of fight. I don't really pay attention. That night I go home and she texts me "Hey. Why did we break up? Can you tell me the reasons. I just want to know." I respond with. "I think it doesn't matter anymore. And we shouldn't bring it up." She doesn't respond. So three days later. She asks me to watch a movie. Nothing is out so she downloads something on her laptop and suggests we watch it at a nearby coffee shop. I agree. But the place is too crowded so we decide to watch it in my car. While watching it she's texting her boyfriend. And eventually. He calls. They talk playfully and she tells him she loves him. Ends call. By the end of the movie she tells me her back hurts. I offer to give her a back massage. One thing leads to another and we end up having sex in the car. She initiated it by moving my hands around her body and getting really up close and person to my face. Before she leaves she tells me that we're not going to talk about it and hasn't texted me going on four days. Some other tidbits: Her boyfriend is super insecure about us hanging out. His last GF cheated on him. She made out with someone while being drunk at a party. She's dated another guy for a month during one of our longer breakups. Same thing happened. Cheated on him with me. She's a genuinely great person who has strong morals. Questions: Am I the rule or the exception? Does she have feelings for me? Does she have feelings for him? Is this worth pursuing? Should I tell the guy? I do want to try things with her again because time part gave me a fresh perspective. Link to comment
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