mandeelove Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 I thought about what she's put me through. All the pain. And what her boyfriend said to me "stop obsessing over her" "I'm better than you". and I was pretty shocked when it happened and still am shocked. Wow stay strong. It isnt easy to go nc especially if they write to you like she did. You deserve better and it would be nice to show her new bf what she said but keep healing. Just ignore that..it would only cause drama and interrupt your healing. U are doing great. Wish u luck with this! I had a breakup a while back and I kept answering them every time they wrote to me. Set me back 6 months total post break up. I honestly wish I kept nc like you are but its tough. Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 Andrew, this may come off as weirder than I mean it to... but you seem like an awesome guy! I know the internet doesn't show everything, but if I met you IRL, I imagine I would find you attractive. Your strength and confidence and honesty is admirable. I'm not telling you this to try and pick you up - just to let you know that a stranger on the internet can see your attractive qualities so I'm sure there are plenty of women who will see it, too... when the time is right. Link to comment
kbbcoop77 Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 So the grass wasn't greener for her booohooo..honest breakups and reconciliations are one thing but when you're dumped for someone else and then ridiculed and have to see that new relationship plastered all over social media...screw her. It's extremely hard to go back to someone who dumped u for another, back in the late 80's I had a girlfriend come back after that crap and even though she broke my heart enough time went by I was able to see with clear vision we could never be what we were so i told her forget it. Link to comment
rosecolored108 Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 That's good you are not feeling as sick! Link to comment
membername Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 It is definitely one of the hardest things I've had to go through. Talking to her all day everyday for 2 years and then completely cutting her out of my life...I'm staying strong with all of your support. This exact thing for me was the hardest. And it's when I thought about it, the only thing I missed it seemed. I was in constant contact with my ex for the time we were together and then nothing... it is an adjustment. But it is for the better.. You're doing wonderful Andrew! Happy holidays everyone! Link to comment
katara42 Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 Hey. Hope you're doing something fun / uplifting. Link to comment
Loralora Posted January 2, 2017 Share Posted January 2, 2017 Where did you go? Did you break no contact..you were doing so great.. Link to comment
Shadowbite Posted January 3, 2017 Share Posted January 3, 2017 Where did you go? Did you break no contact..you were doing so great.. Well, whether he did or not.. Look at it this way. If he's not on here, We could assume he is feeling better. Would love an update tho! Link to comment
luisannalui Posted January 3, 2017 Share Posted January 3, 2017 Yes, where is him? Hope he's okay Link to comment
x17c6 Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 I would love an update on your NC Link to comment
mandeelove Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 Maybe they reconciled for the new year. Link to comment
membername Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 Good lord, let's hope not...he was doing so great.. would hate to see the kid go back. Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted January 19, 2017 Author Share Posted January 19, 2017 Yeah I made the mistake of going back. I really regret doing it 😓 now she randomly says she wants to be alone and work on herself. Basically being cold to me. I'm going back to NC and won't be making any more mistakes. Tomorrow is day 1 NC sorry guys 😳 I was stupid Link to comment
Vivi0476 Posted January 19, 2017 Share Posted January 19, 2017 I just read this whole thread start to finish. Don't be sorry...I'm sure at least half of us would go back if our ex was that persistent. I know I would struggle. Today I broke NC too. And I was really beating myself up over it. So we'll be day 1 together. Link to comment
Crystal Clear2 Posted January 19, 2017 Share Posted January 19, 2017 It happens. Just start all over again, this time you know. We are dumped for a reason. Anyone who loved us, wouldn't dream of being without us. Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted January 19, 2017 Share Posted January 19, 2017 Good news - by going back your heart will probably have an easier time healing now. Especially since you regret it! So don't beat yourself up. You're doing great! Link to comment
membername Posted January 19, 2017 Share Posted January 19, 2017 Yeah I made the mistake of going back. I really regret doing it now she randomly says she wants to be alone and work on herself. Basically being cold to me. I'm going back to NC and won't be making any more mistakes. Tomorrow is day 1 NC sorry guys I was stupid Don't beat yourself up. We've all done stupid stuff.. I continued contact with my ex after I ended it in hopes he would change..and it bit me in the behind ... he didn't change and then picked up some girl... that's when I totally cut him off and went NC.. Had I gone NC after I ended it would have been better... It's a lesson, now there is no doubt she's not for you.. it still stings but now it will give you the determination to move forward... So just reignite that NC fire... if you feel like contacting her post here first or talk to someone who will help you stay away from her and on the right path... that's the best advice I can offer. But coming from someone now 70days in... it gets better.. Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted January 19, 2017 Author Share Posted January 19, 2017 Thank you guys. This is a new start for me Link to comment
katara42 Posted January 19, 2017 Share Posted January 19, 2017 Andrew!!!!! I'm happy to hear an update It's all good, you had to do what you had to do. Now you know. Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted January 19, 2017 Author Share Posted January 19, 2017 Well in other news I started my own carpet cleaning business so that's something I will be putting my all into. Link to comment
luisannalui Posted January 19, 2017 Share Posted January 19, 2017 Tell us more. Why did you went back? How did you felt? Things were different? How do you feel now? Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted January 19, 2017 Author Share Posted January 19, 2017 I felt pretty good. I thought she learned to appreciate me more. She said she was stupid and I was the best guy ever (obviously lies). But when she comes crawling back again I won't have it anymore Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted January 20, 2017 Author Share Posted January 20, 2017 I felt pretty good. I thought she learned to appreciate me more. She said she was stupid and I was the best guy ever (obviously lies). But when she comes crawling back again I won't have it anymore I feel like total crap. A part on my business van went bad that costs $3000 to replace. And I've been lied to, used, and ignored. I have no friends and my life is spiraling out of control 😣 Link to comment
membername Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 I feel like total crap. A part on my business van went bad that costs $3000 to replace. And I've been lied to, used, and ignored. I have no friends and my life is spiraling out of control Take a breath... $3000 is quite a hit...just deal with the immediate woe at hand... the car.. Block out (as difficult as it maybe) the other noise... friends, the ex... Right now.. focus on you and only you. Everything else will fall into place. Things happen.. what you should to work on is your reaction to the things. It's hard and takes time... You will be ok... hope you can fix the van.. Link to comment
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