90 Days No Contact Log

[rosecolored108]

Good...definitely suggest it. It has helped me.

[Viceroy]

Hey Andrew, I am really sorry to hear about this It's good that you recognize what needs to be done, you need to heal and move on, she's no longer in your life anymore. I would suggest you focus on positive actions; journaling would be a great place to start. Journaling will allow you to organize your thoughts and feelings, and it's something tangible (meaning you have something where you can physically see how you've changed overtime and can see your progress). Furthermore, anything you want to say to your ex can be said in the journal.

 

I know tomorrow is Christmas, but as soon as possible you need to spend time exercising. If you're able to, get a gym membership. Exercise will help you physically and mentally, and the gym will make sure you're getting out of the house. Also, the gym is full of people with a common cause, and you'll feel better being part of a struggle (so to speak). I was dumped for someone else 5 months ago, and journaling and exercise have been the big tools to help heal me. I would also recommend heading on you-tube and watching some videos for breakup advice, it can also help you.

 

It's tempting to analyze what her new boyfriend said, don't listen to the jerk. Focus on you, whatever issues you have/had, work on them, strive to be a better man than in your last relationship. Also, (in the same boat here in regards to thinking about the ex having sex) recognize that she can do whatever she wants, it's her life, and she can make whatever choices. I know it will hurt your feelings, but just recognize that there is nothing you can do about it, the less you worry about that the better.

 

Lastly, try and focus on things that you like. Perhaps you're a gamer, you can have a lot of fun playing multiplayer games, and it's always nice to be around people who can make you laugh. Try and do things that you couldn't do during the relationship, perhaps do some reading etc.... I know tomorrow is Christmas, I know you're going to be sad, but remember to take a moment to be thankful for all the things you have in life (whatever they are)

 

Hang in there Andrew, be strong and remember that a breakup is a process. Enjoy your holiday

[Andrew626]

I like to have people on here that help me and give advice and I know they are looking out for me and know from experience what is best to do.

[Andrew626]

Day 24. Merry Christmas to everyone

[katara42]

Day 24. Merry Christmas to everyone

Merry Christmas to you too!! I hope it's a good one.

[Shadowbite]

Day 24. Merry Christmas to everyone

 

You too man.

Making some great progress bro!

Keep chugging along

[rosecolored108]

Day 12 for me and feeling good!

[Andrew626]

Day 25. I still feel a little sick today

[Melodymelody]

Wow day 25! That's progress...

 

Keep going you're doing very well...

[Andrew626]

Wow day 25! That's progress...

 

Keep going you're doing very well...

thank you!

[luisannalui]

Did you blocked her From everywhere? Congrats for going this far

[Andrew626]

Did you blocked her From everywhere? Congrats for going this far

Yes I have her and all her family blocked on everything. And thank you

[Andrew626]

It is definitely one of the hardest things I've had to go through. Talking to her all day everyday for 2 years and then completely cutting her out of my life...I'm staying strong with all of your support.

[rosecolored108]

Day 25...impressive! It is very difficult to go from talking and seeing someone every day to then never talking to or seeing them, but it does get easier with time. I know you probably hear that a lot, but, with the proper mindset, it is true!

[Andrew626]

Day 26. Starting to not feel as sick. Also going to work. Just gonna keep the NC fire burning

[Andrew626]

I honestly don't see myself ever talking to her again. She never deserved me. I was and always will be too good for her. Day 26 and I'm mostly just mad at myself for ever trusting her.

[katara42]

Huge cyber hugs. I know that feeling!!! Comes and goes for me...

 

But hey, Mr inspiration, I'm about where you were when I found your forum. You are one of the things that have kept me going. Big happy wishes to you.

[Andrew626]

So she just called me about 4 times and left a voicemail crying and texted me this: ]

[Andrew626]

I have ignored all of it.

[katara42]

Good for you. Ugh that's brutal sorry

[Andrew626]

Well she apparently wants me back. Its tempting to send that picture to her boyfriend. But I won't... Just gonna stay no contact.

[Shadowbite]

Good job for not going with the temptation. That would be going back in contact imo, and would cause drama which you don't need.

 

She seems like she's getting more desperate. Make sure you stay firm.

 

3 more days and you hit the big three-Oh, Congrats m8.

[Andrew626]

Yeah I at least have to make her squirm for awhile. I don't think I can go back... It just wouldn't feel right.

[mandeelove]

When she reached out what did u think/feel? Say to yourself? What gave u the strength not to give in and respond? Thats a tough thing to do.

[Andrew626]

When she reached out what did u think/feel? Say to yourself? What gave u the strength not to give in and respond? Thats a tough thing to do.

I thought about what she's put me through. All the pain. And what her boyfriend said to me "stop obsessing over her" "I'm better than you". and I was pretty shocked when it happened and still am shocked.