I can't believe a woman asked me why I like my job

[tarrel]

So many women want to know if a man like his job and when I told this girl from a dating site I work for state government as a eligibility specialist for childcare subsidy her response was......."you like that? So now I am telling a woman I am employed and love what I do and then that;s the response I get? This is exactly why I don't like to date because its all so judgmental and fake and it wears me out mentally. I guess she responded that way because her job is executive management so of course I had to end the conversation.

 

I guess I will say I am unemployed and looking for a job in the future.

[imsuperman]

I'ts hard to tell if she was being rude or just continuing the conversation to be honest.

 

Either way. I think you might be better served not taking something so benign so personally. As long as you like your job who cares what anyone else thinks?

[tarrel]

I'ts hard to tell if she was being rude or just continuing the conversation to be honest.

 

Either way. I think you might be better served not taking something so benign so personally. As long as you like your job who cares what anyone else thinks?

 

That's true but I just found it funny all these years a woman will ask "do you like your job?" And when you say yes they want to know why

[Batya33]

I find it funny that you would generalize to this extent from a conversation with one or a few women who have had rude responses to what you do for a living.

[tarrel]

I find it funny that you would generalize to this extent from a conversation with one or a few women who have had rude responses to what you do for a living.

 

That's because it's a question that most women love to ask. I been asked that by so many women I lost count.

[Batya33]

That's because it's a question that most women love to ask. I been asked that by so many women I lost count.

 

As in the rude "you like that" or variations that are merely curious? I still urge you not to generalize based on experience with a small group of women, relative to the whole population. I was asked more times than I could count about tired stereotypes about my job. But, I let it go as long as the person asked other appropriate questions.

[notalady]

What's wrong with being asked if you like your job? I get asked that all the time when I meet new people (including on first dates). It's just part of getting to know someone, taking an interest.

 

Sure this woman might have been rude, or maybe just continuing the conversation (I can't tell either without the tone). But why does it bother you this much? You've let something negative from a person you're meeting for the first time negatively affect you and really, what good does that do you? Remember that almost everyone in every profession has been associated with one stereotype of another and been asked questions about it (eg oh you're an accountant, must be boring. You're a tax agent? Can you do my tax, ha ha? You're in IT? Oh I know who to call next time my computer needs fixing!), most people just laugh and let it go. If you choose to let stereotypes and every negative experience get to you then you're going to live a very unhappy live.

[Moontiger]

I get a lot of questions about my job because I'm in a weird field that a lot of people find interesting. I take it as an opportunity to start a conversation and to dispel myths about my field.

 

Honestly I think you are way over reacting. It sounds like this women simply want to keep the conversation going. They didn't ask how much you make or anything like that which would be rude. Rather they solicited more information from you, that's how conversation are suppose to go.

[alli]

Was this conversation in person, over the phone or in a message? It really depends on how she said it. I regularly ask people if they like their job because I really want to know if they find it enjoyable/fulfilling. But it could also be meant more like they find it surprising that you would enjoy a job that they think would be horrible. It's easy to tell by the tone of voice which sentiment was intended. But is it possible if this was in a message that you misinterpreted what she meant by that question?

[tarrel]

She asked me over the phone

[Lisii]

(ignore me I deleted what I wrote - read post incorrectly )