mhowe Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 You are a couple. And I think (my opinion) you having to ask is going to seem like you are very, very insecure. He speaks to you daily. Do you think he does that with other women. He tames you to meet his friends, his ex...do you think he does that with other women? Link to comment
Batya33 Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 I think you want to know if he sees this going somewhere more serious or if this is a Miss Right For Now situation. There's a huge difference between him not seeing other women right now and telling you he doesn't plan on keeping his options open. If his friend offered to set him up on a date with a super hot woman tomorrow would he say no because he is seeing you exclusively? Link to comment
missmarple Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 There's a huge difference between him not seeing other women right now and telling you he doesn't plan on keeping his options open. I agree. That's why people need to learn how to ASK. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 If you can have sex I don't see the big deal about talking about a relationship. Sex is the far bigger deal to me. And if I couldn't talk to a guy about my fundamental needs in dating, I would stop dating him. Link to comment
Redabc123 Posted April 15, 2015 Author Share Posted April 15, 2015 If you can have sex I don't see the big deal about talking about a relationship. Sex is the far bigger deal to me. And if I couldn't talk to a guy about my fundamental needs in dating, I would stop dating him. Update: We went to a Bbq at his friends house. I was so nervous all night because I knew I was going to have the talk with him. When we got back to his place I finally asked him where he saw this going between us. He said that he was really happy with me and looked forward to seeing where this would be going. I then asked if he considered us a couple and said that he did and that it was weird to say GF because he hadn't said it since high school lol but he did say that he thought they we were together before I mentioned anything. So its official. We both said we were excited to where this would go Link to comment
fifregister Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 Great news! Now you can relax a little bit. It's tough when you place hopes into a relationship and have no idea because 50% controlled by the other person, but it's so nice to walk on the same road together! Link to comment
Redabc123 Posted April 15, 2015 Author Share Posted April 15, 2015 You are a couple. And I think (my opinion) you having to ask is going to seem like you are very, very insecure. He speaks to you daily. Do you think he does that with other women. He tames you to meet his friends, his ex...do you think he does that with other women? I did ask because we had never had the talk before and I wanted to know if we were on the same page. I don't see how that makes me look insecure. I feel like if we did have the talk and I asked again then that would make me look insecure. Once we had the talk I had no reason to doubt anything which was a huge relief Link to comment
Redabc123 Posted April 15, 2015 Author Share Posted April 15, 2015 Great news! Now you can relax a little bit. It's tough when you place hopes into a relationship and have no idea because 50% controlled by the other person, but it's so nice to walk on the same road together! Thank you, Im glad we are too Link to comment
Redabc123 Posted April 15, 2015 Author Share Posted April 15, 2015 Thank you all so much for all your advice and answering all my annoying questions lol . It really helped me out so much!!! Link to comment
mhowe Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 I then asked if he considered us a couple and said that he did and that it was weird to say GF because he hadn't said it since high school lol but he did say that he thought they we were together before I mentioned anything. I am happy for you. And as I said at the beginning of the thread -----the "are we a couple" at later life dating is implied. However, it is good that the clarity and title are making you happy. Link to comment
missmarple Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 See that you were worried for nothing?! Happy for you Link to comment
Batya33 Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 Great news that you two are on the same page! Link to comment
sophie274 Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 I did ask because we had never had the talk before and I wanted to know if we were on the same page. I don't see how that makes me look insecure. I feel like if we did have the talk and I asked again then that would make me look insecure. Once we had the talk I had no reason to doubt anything which was a huge relief Great news! I'm glad that it turned out you were worrying over nothing. Imagine if you hadn't asked, you could still be fretting about this for weeks! Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 Yay ... so glad you asked! A little communication goes a long way!!! Link to comment
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