justinfan12 Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Im not entirely aware of the proper etiquette of relationships, only that you shouldn't cheat or be decetiful or disloyal to your partner. In my eyes that is the code to live by. With that being said. I cant help who decides to message me/email me. Last night at 1-3 am my best friend (he recently moved from the city to america) texted me and emailed me. He was just telling me how it was there since I have not heard from him in months, of course I replied back. This was all happening while my boyfriend was looking for movies to watch for movie night with me. I quickly looked at from accross the room and he was staring at tme the entire time. I saw his jaw tense and I asked if he was okay and than he got silent and nodded his head and continued to look for movies. And then my phone rang and I answered it, was a quick call. I got back and my boyfriend was on the bed sulking. I curled up to him and saw him twitching his leg (which made me think he had an issue of some sort) then he starts asking "Do I make you happy? Are you happy with me?" I said "Yes where is this coming from?" he said "Who is texting you at this hour? Its 2 am. Who called would call at that time?" He looked at my phone and asked "Michael? Who is Michael? What does he want from you at this hour? Babe seriously.." I told him "Michael is my best friend. He just wanted to talk for a bit, he moved to the States. No big deal. He just wanted to ask me something, What's the big deal? Why are you getting like this?" He said "Nothing. It's cool." We dropped it.. or so i thought, and thwn he said "I'm going to bed. You can continue to talk to Michael." (sulking) I said "What's wrong? I'm not doing anything wrong. Im not hiding anything from you." He says "Babe, why is he talking to you now? Why can't he talk in the morning? Do you see me talking to my friends infront of you in bed like that? No. Because I respect you. If I did it you would be asking who I'm talking to" - actually I wouldn't ask because I don't care and I trust him.. but overall i dont think you should care about someone texting you.. who cares? Then he starts getting upset "Becareful and don't do something you will regret/don't do anything you should not be doing" I asked "Ok do you have a problem? Do you want me to stop talking to guys?" he said "No babe. It's cool. I want you to be comfortable in this relationship" Did I seriously do something wrong here? I was not disrespecting him, my attention was on him at all times. I can't help if someone messages me. And if it bothers him which it does why can he not just say it does? Are you discouraged to not have any friend of the opposite sex when you are in a relationship? is that the code or something? He just seemed really sad about it, which I do feel bad about. Can anyone here tell me if you are not supposed to have friends of the opposite sex when you get into a serious relationship with someone? How can i broach this conversation with him without him denying it? Link to comment
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