redrose85 Posted January 4, 2012 Author Share Posted January 4, 2012 I don’t want to, but she is slowly killing our friendship. When we do hang out, she’s texting one of her two f-buddies. If she wants to go out, it’s because the one guy will be playing a gig. I cannot hold a conversation with her at all. She just doesn’t LISTEN. Her mind is completely one track and I figured by now it would be better. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Dropping her may be the kick she needs. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted January 4, 2012 Author Share Posted January 4, 2012 I’m just going to reduce contact. When she finds herself alone, she might come to her senses. Link to comment
hers Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Sometimes, when people are affecting our lives in a negative way, we need to cut them out. In this instance, you're not being affected personally (as in she's not doing anything to you) but she is keeping your feelings toward her from growing positively. If that made sense. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted January 4, 2012 Author Share Posted January 4, 2012 I am...really bored! Link to comment
redrose85 Posted January 4, 2012 Author Share Posted January 4, 2012 Alex and I have been together for 5 years, 9 months, and 21 days OR: 2122 days! Link to comment
redrose85 Posted January 4, 2012 Author Share Posted January 4, 2012 Yup, boring night hahahaha. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted January 4, 2012 Author Share Posted January 4, 2012 I am discovering a pattern here... when Shawn is not around, Alex is his sweet self, cuddly, nice, mushy... when Shawn is around, he’s kind of a jerk. That’s the most succinct way I can put it. I think Shawn is hearing way too much bickering. When he’s not around, we’re great. I guess three is becoming a crowd. None of us at our little paper won the student journalism awards. Poo. Would have been neat. Link to comment
hers Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 That makes me sad to hear. What does he do when Shawn is around? Do you think he's showing off or something maybe? Link to comment
Firiel Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 B is more of a jerk around his brothers... he's definitely never cuddly or loving around them. Really, neutral is the best he gets around them. He's not always (or really even often) actively rude. He's just not nice or supportive. It's no big deal when we are just here on vacation, but it would be really tough to live with his brothers and have that be a regular thing... Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Guys don't want to be seen as vulnerable around other guys. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted January 4, 2012 Author Share Posted January 4, 2012 Yeah I get the vulnerability thing, but this is a long-term situation. At least two more months. That’s exactly it firiel, he’s not supportive or particularly attentive.. not outright mean. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 I think that is one of the unfortunate things about having room mates. You are not an enclosed couple when you have to live with others. It is a totally different dynamic. I am sorry. I hope it gets a lot better when you have your own place. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted January 4, 2012 Author Share Posted January 4, 2012 We have our own place LOL. Oh the curveballs life throws you. This is just another of those tests. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Oh ok, so this fellow is not a roommate? Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 I think it's Alex'a brother who is living with them for a few months. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted January 5, 2012 Author Share Posted January 5, 2012 Yup. We own our place, Shawn (Alex’s brother) is staying with us until his job(s) get up and going. He pays rent so that’s cool. Speaking of home ownership...our property value dropped by $7,000 this year! Alex came to the university pub tonight and we had dinner together. I broached the subject with him and explained that PDA is one thing, but our home is not in public and that Shawn is not put off by affection. I’m sure he’d rather see us being lovey than the alternative. Alex's work now has three dead engines. The BRAND new one broke down. * * * ?! Poor guy is so bummed out. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted January 5, 2012 Author Share Posted January 5, 2012 I was seriously looking into elopement packages when I read this: There are only two times in your life when you can have all the people you love and care about in one place to celebrate your lives together -- your wedding and your funeral. Unfortunately, you only get to enjoy one of them! Nope, can’t do it! Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 I was seriously looking into elopement packages when I read this: There are only two times in your life when you can have all the people you love and care about in one place to celebrate your lives together -- your wedding and your funeral. Unfortunately, you only get to enjoy one of them! Nope, can’t do it! Now this is true. I would say 3 times though. Your wedding, the birth of your first kid, and your funeral. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted January 5, 2012 Author Share Posted January 5, 2012 Hmmm maybe, but I think for the birth of our kids it would just be me and him in that room. I had my first (and last most likely) anthropology class tonight. Really found it interesting! It’s the last elective I’ll have to take for my BA Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Oh I don't mean in the room, but at the hospital. When my son was born my brother and his wife were there, my step brother and his wife and baby daughter, my mom my step dad, my husband.......you get the picture..........lol......they were all waiting. Oh and my dad phoned the hospital every 15 minutes and drove the nurses INSANE. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted January 5, 2012 Author Share Posted January 5, 2012 I can see his Mom doing that lol. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 L and I are very just us in the room. No other family member. I brought up birth photography but meh, it's not something you invest in right when you're about to become a parent really. Nice thought, but not practical. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 I can see his Mom doing that lol. One nurse actually yelled at me and told me to get my dad off their back they did not have time to answer his calls all day so they put him onto me when he called. I got right mad and he says , what? you have not had that kid yet???.......I said, have you squeezed out a kid lately?? No? well then SHUT UP. I will call you when the baby is born, till then don't bother me!!! Link to comment
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