RoninX Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 I want to ask everyone's opinion on this because it's causing problems in my relationship and I don't know if I am wrong or thinking out of line or what. But let me explain. I have been dating the girl I am with for about 9 month. She's only held a job about one month total. When I met her she did not have a job. Because of this, I have been paying for everything. We go out to eat, I pay for it, dinner, I pay for it everything. Even outing that friends invite me out to she will want to tag along (with no money) and want me to pay for her. Don't get me wrong, I can afford to pay for her. But the thing is I work a full-time job and that is the reason why I can afford to. At first it was ok in the beginning since I thought it was a male's duty. But now nine months deep into the relationship I feel like this is getting a little out of hand and I am feeling more so like I am donating to a charity more than anything. I've even started paying for her $75 phone bill each month now. She has no car either nor is she in school. She lives about 20-30 minutes away from me so in order for us to see each other I have to drive to her house (which is north of me and almost every destination we go is south of my house) and drive her to where I go. Then, drop her off at her house once we are finished. She never even offers me gas money or even to pay for half of the expense I incur being with her. To help her get a job, I've even driven to her house, got her to drive me to work and told her she could have my car throughout the day so she could apply for jobs. For a whole month she had my car and she claimed that she applied at every job and no job called her back. However, mysteriously when I would drive her to places to apply she would get an interview and/or a job. I had to personally fill out the applications for her and turn them in for her to get the job. When she did get it I would have to get her to drop me off at my job, and let her have my car so she could drive to work. She's lost every job I got her within a week or two. I ask her why she doesn't feel like she has to work or try to help me pay for anything and she says she knows I make enough money (which is kind of true) so she doesn't feel like she should have to work. She also said that it's a guy's job to pay for a girl and that is how she is raised. Always telling me that other guys will do it for her and that it is what a guy is suppose to do. I just don't want to feel like someone can just meet me and just skate through everything without having to hold any kind of responsibility. Not having to wake up at any time. Not having to go to work or school. Just doing absolutely nothing while I try to get a better job and do things for myself while she basically get a free ride (in my opinion). When I have to get up early in the morning to go to school and work she sleeps in at home and does nothing all day. It irritates me because I feel like I am completely undertaking the full burden of this relationship while she doesn't do anything but sleep all day and watch TV. And she thinks that all she has to do is date me and be intimate and that makes up for everything. I'm not sure what to do and I'm not sure if I am taking things out of context or if I am truly running away from my obligations as a male. I don't want to sound superficial by telling her I don't want to be with her all because of this but at the same time it just really annoys me that she feels like she has to be treated like a princess. What annoys me the most is that she says I have to pay for her and treat her like this because there's alot of competition with other guys. But it's like she never thinks about the other side of the coin and that there is also competition for her as well. So I am wondering, am I taking things out of context or what? Any advice would help as I am so confused about what to do and if I should feel bad if I really want to break up with her over this. Link to comment
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