ay0_x Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 For a guy/girl you were dating to be 'ready'? Assuming they've had sex before. edit: I'm talking about maximum amounts of time here. I know "whenever it feels right" etc, but I do believe that most people have a time limit. Link to comment
Shallow Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 I don't have a time limit, but I suppose I'm one of the rare ones who place a pretty low priority on sex in a relationship. Link to comment
Sparkly Eyes Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 As a girl I don't think I would ever have to wait if I don't want to. But If I was ready and he wanted to wait, I would wait for 2 or 3 months I think. Link to comment
dragon lady Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 About a month. I don't think I could be with someone who didn't want to sleep with me after that long. Link to comment
Lucius Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 The "maximum" amount of time? Hmm, maybe six months? It would vary, depending on our connection, but I don't think I'd wait any longer than that. Link to comment
JusticeLaw9 Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 For a guy/girl you were dating to be 'ready'? Assuming they've had sex before. edit: I'm talking about maximum amounts of time here. I know "whenever it feels right" etc, but I do believe that most people have a time limit. I'm actually very patient about that and I can wait a while if she needs me to. As for a specific time frame, I can't specify because I don't really know. Link to comment
quirky Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 About a month. I don't think I could be with someone who didn't want to sleep with me after that long. Same here. The time frame I have in my mind about sleeping with a guy is after about 8 dates/1 month. I'd assume a guy around my age, wanting to wait even longer..it would put me off. Link to comment
Hurting85 Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 Aside from my first, I jumped in pretty quick with other guys. Except my husband. I really valued our friendship, and wanted to wait until we were both sure we loved each other. The sex itself wasn't super important, and waiting meant we had some pretty awesome make out sessions. Once you cross that line, the making out isn't the same anymore. I would have waited somewhere between 6 months and a year, if I had to. But that's based off my stipulation of being in love. Link to comment
sophie274 Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 I would want to "wait" awhile, and not have sex very early, but I don't think more than six months, assuming we saw each other on a frequent and regular basis during that time. I think that if both people are serious about wanting a relationship, 6 months is plenty of time to develop trust and intimacy and actually love as well, so waiting much longer than that would make me wonder what we were waiting for. Link to comment
-Sanguine- Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 well, if it was someone who I really liked and saw a future with, I wouldn't mind waiting. I don't believe I could put a number on it.. it all depends on what their reasons are for waiting and how they treat me. As long as we're doing other sexual things, it's nice to wait a while for the actual sex. I'm the kind of person who would want to wait at least 6 months anyway. Link to comment
greywolf Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 It would depend on the status of our relationship. If we were just dating, I wouldn't expect sex right away. But if we were already exclusive, I don't see myself waiting. Link to comment
Foxfire21 Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 I would say I would wait up to a year to a year and half. If I Really love the guy it would be 10 months the very least nothing less. During that time the honeymoon phase should be over with and I can see if he actually wants a committed relationship or just sex. Link to comment
newwave Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 I have made a vow that I will abstain from sexual intercourse until engagement and if possible marriage. Why this vow? Because years ago I rushed into sex before the relationship really blossomed. As a result it became more about the sex and less about everything else. While I don't expect many to understand my choice, it was something I needed to do. Link to comment
im_the_undead Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 .. i waited more than a year.. almost 2 years.. we wanted to soo bad but sometimes it's best to wait. never know, if you do it too soon there's a possibility that you weren't mature enough to begin with Dx Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 The maximum would be 1-2 months. Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 I would probably wait 3 months at most. This isn't usually the case, but I'm assuming that would be a good time frame for me. Link to comment
Vince99 Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 I have no maximum. Hopefully I can find someone who wants to wait until we are really, truly in love. Link to comment
Unknown1607307972 Posted May 12, 2010 Share Posted May 12, 2010 About a month. I don't think I could be with someone who didn't want to sleep with me after that long. Same here if he had issues where he wasn't able to sleep with me (not over his past relationship or something) then we shouldn't b dating anyway. Link to comment
oldenoughtoknow Posted May 13, 2010 Share Posted May 13, 2010 My maximum, in practice, has been 1 month or 5 real dates (meeting for a quick coffee doesn't count). Link to comment
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