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Would you date a sex worker?

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So sex worker is anyone who makes money off of sex, it includes prostitutes, strippers, porn stars, dominatrix (dominatrices?) Men or women. There are male strippers, and some male prostitutes (although I think the majority of them are gay or bi) and there are certainly male porn stars.

 

Would you consider dating some of them but not others? Would you date someone who had done this work in the past but not if they are still doing it?

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No I wouldn't date anyone who was currently or had been one in the past.

 

I feel bad for being judgemental of people who did so in the past and have their life back on track.. I do understand people have their reasons for getting into that, and I do not judge them as people.. I think it takes great strength to get yourself out of the situation and your life back on track...

 

But I could not get past it and have a relationship with a person who had that in their past.

 

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Health issues aside - I have no problem.

 

Prostitution is not a moral issue. Each person must do what he/she has to do.

 

That being said - I'm prudish about sex. (I blush whenever I read, on this forum, the explicit details of some commentator's intimate life.) I expect a normal, old-school sexual relationship, a woman's past regardless.

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How would anyone know unless they divulged the info in the first place. Some people I've known were close to it but they just weren't getting paid for it. So is it the fact it was done for money or is it more the idea of the numbers. Who knows.

 

Well in this case lets assume that they tell you. I know a lot of people who have done that type of work might not tell partners that they have for fear of rejection, but I know people who work in all of those industries (now and in the past) and all of them have partners who know about there work.

 

I have a friend who's girlfriend is a sex healer... or something, and has been for years. She is a really nice very lovely woman who gets paid to have sex with men. And to teach men and women tantric sex. She is pretty public about it, and it always seemed amazing to me that her boyfriend could handle it.

 

I'm open to a lot of things, but that would be _really_ hard for me. I would try. If that was my partners calling, or something they really thought they wanted to do I would try. But this guy just blows me away.

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no. sorry. May be I'm selfish. May be I'm being judgemental. But no, I can't handle that.

I don't mind dating a guy that sweeps streets or sells fruits by the side of the road. But no, I would not date a guy who uses his body as his talent to make money.

If I see that he is a sincere person who wants to leave that life and do somethign else, I'll be a supportive friend and do what I can but no, I'll still not consider him for dating.

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In general, I can not date a woman who is going to feel inferior to me and would view me as being hoplessly desperate by choosing to go out with her because I have no better options at the moment. I cant help but say that a prostitute, a single mother parent, a woman with a sexual past is going to feel that way going out with an untainted virgin guy like myself that's saving himself for the right woman. So, even if I would want to date them, I can't have any choice because it would either crash and burn after the first or second date as she perceives that I view her as a garbage that's unworthy of me, and that I'm just dating her because I think she's easy and I'm just too lazy to find a real woman.

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In general, I can not date a woman who is going to feel inferior to me and would view me as being hoplessly desperate by choosing to go out with her because I have no better options at the moment. I cant help but say that a prostitute, a single mother parent, a woman with a sexual past is going to feel that way going out with an untainted virgin guy like myself that's saving himself for the right woman. So, even if I would want to date them, I can't have any choice because it would either crash and burn after the first or second date as she perceives that I view her as a garbage that's unworthy of me, and that I'm just dating her because I think she's easy and I'm just too lazy to find a real woman.

 

You are assuming the way she would feel or act about you. Which you wouldn't know at all. You only know how you feel. Don't make up someones mind for them.

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What's her number? LOL Just kidding

 

Well, I'd probably be able to do that as long as it was in the past. Thinking about it, it would possibly have it's advantages if the person was satisfied that they had been through about everything imaginable. Time to settle down, you know.

 

I'd find it considerably harder to deal with a relationship like that if it were going on presently. I don't think I could go with that.

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You are assuming the way she would feel or act about you. Which you wouldn't know at all. You only know how you feel. Don't make up someones mind for them.

 

I've had my share of hard knocks to know that at least one or more girls I've crossed paths with may have acted like that.

 

The reality is this, I have a 'priestly' aura about me whether I like it or not. I'm close to God and people around me see that by relative standards, I'm pretty clean. I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, never had sex and seem to be living more or less by the good book. When a girl like that comes around me, she already sees that I'm different and I start intimidating her to feel unworthy - that aura rubbs off the wrong way on her. I know this to be true to women who have crossed my path and that's my life experience.

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