melman Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Hi All, I've only put a couple posts ever here. But have read so many for the past year. Basic info: broke up with my exgf a year ago. Pretty much go into NC immediately. Its clear she wasn't over me as she would run "into" me at places she knew I was going to be, call and or text me random stuff, and we even got back together for about a month at some point. But, as I'm 32 and pretty much done with the wild partying, and she was 25, I knew I had to keep my distance. So last November, I told her I'm moving on and maybe we'd be together when she was ready and done "experiencing" things. She still would text but I ignored as I knew she wasn't ready for a committed relationship. About three months ago, she called me at work and I picked up. She wanted to see me for lunch and I figured it had been about 5 months so why not. We met and the whole time she kept telling me how much she missed me, wanted to see me more, etc. But, something didnt feel right. So I asked if she was dating someone and she reluctantly said "yes" for the last couple of weeks they were dating. I was very calm then and told her I wasn't going to entertain anything with her as long as someone else was in the picture and that I just wanted to be left alone. We havent spoke since then until yesterday. A mutual friend called me and told me that she just found out that she's three months pregnant with this other guy's child. Which means it was soon after i last saw her and told her to leave me alone. He's 45 recently divorced with two teenage kids or something. I dont know why but I texted her letting her know I found out, supported her, and wished her the best. She called me and was so damn sad on the phone. All, I feel horrible. I know this guy was a rebound. I know she doesnt love him. I also am sure we have feelings for each other still. It was a timing thing. This call we had was so sad. I cannot explain how bad I feel. I guess there was a part of me that hoped we'd find our way back together in the future, but this just ruins it? I dont know what to do as I was healing very nicely. Some advice would be greatly appreciated. Link to comment
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