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I assume you're referring to this CDC? https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/cdc-failed-covid-crisis-walensky-b2147245.html Or is there another CDC somewhere, a competent and credible one, that I'm unaware of?

Look, OP, regardless of "guidelines" that are developed at random and changed frequently to fit the current political narrative, the reality is you are responsible for your own health. Period. Stop screaming at your daughter every time she drops her mask for two seconds. Instead, thank her profusely for putting up with your nonsense and do what you can to help her start her life that she has put on-hold to entertain your fears.

Which is true of roughly half the population. It's hard to spread fear, though, with facts like that.

I see. I was hoping for a link that would explain how the general population, the vast majority of which is negative at any given time, is protecting others by wearing a mask. Because the OP was told his/her specific mask is protecting others, not him/her, and I wonder how that can be if the OP doesn't have it.

I have literally never heard this. Do you have any links? If I wear a mask and I'm COVID-negative (which I am), then who is being protected and what are they being protected from???

Rest assured she has told him you're just a platonic friend as well.

How do you know this? Is someone from "your side" still in contact with her and her people?

lol have you shared this theory with her? 🤣

This is all you need to know, right here. ^ ^ ^ I think it's strange to invite a single person to a wedding and expect them to go alone and not allow them to bring a guest. I've never heard of that. There might be more going on behind the scenes here than you realize.

He might've had diarrhea too. Do you need to know about that? No I'm serious. What is the level of detail you want from him?

It does seem a little odd that he keeps turning up. I would not have engaged him in conversation as that does give mixed messages; I would've simply said hi (at most) and that's it. If you're responding to his messages, that also gives mixed messages. Is there a part of you that is flattered by the attention?

Opportunity for what?

If you're good-looking but driving a beater it won't work. Get a nice car and you wont' have to be good-looking. But then those men don't have to solicit random women hoping she's naive enough to put out with minimal effort on their part. The women go to them.

No other conversation other than "what's your number?" He's either desperate or he's hoping you are.

How do you know this? Are you speculating, or did he actually say this? If it's the latter, then I agree with the post above this one and ask why you are sticking around?

This ^^^ is how I feel. I wouldn't want to be just one more chick in his harem. It's much easier to bail in the beginning than it is down the road after you're already involved. Fortunately they usually tell you this info VERY early on, because having lots of female friends and no--or few--male friends is often a source of pride for them.

Why would you think this would be reasonable?

I would be turned-off by him and his behavior. And as I broke up with him I'd tell him that too.

His "discouragement' (because you're not jumping to do what he wants?) is his problem to manage, not yours. If your BF is any kind of quality man, he'll understand and not push you to do things you're not comfortable with. If I were you I'd slow down before you make a mistake you can't undo. Because you've been single and looking for ten years is not an excuse to put his wants before your common sense. Talk to your daughter about her concerns. Ask her to give specifics. Sometimes one perceptive person will see things that everyone else is missing.

"Upset and hurt" and asking for clarification is one thing. Bullying and harassing is a whole 'nother animal. This is borderline abusive. I know OP was quick to point out in his first post that he has never and would never hit a woman, but this is often how psychological abusers give themselves permission to abuse, is by saying "but I've never hit anyone." Also noted in the first post was how the W didn't disclose this at the time out of fear of how her H would react. If this is standard practice in the marriage, the problems are WAY bigger than some seconds-long kiss almost a decade ago.

That doesn't necessarily mean anything. I have several contacts in my phone that I haven't had any communication at all with in over ten years. I've had 3 - 4 phones in that amount of time and the contacts have automatically transferred. Being that I don't use these contacts at all it's easy to just let them sit unnoticed. One is named "Lee" which might sound suspicious with a non-gendered name like that, but there is literally nothing going on, then or now. And of course not being married I can do whatever I want anyway, but I'm just saying.

It couldn't hurt. Some just genuinely don't get it. A few days (definitely less than a week) after my first baby was born, my then-H was clever enough to figure out that vaginal sex was out for a while, so his solution was to happily suggest anal sex. No really, he actually thought this was a realistic suggestion. I didn't know whether to laugh or cry.

He has handled this terribly. Honestly if you get to the point where you are obtaining phone records from ten years ago (or the last ten years as a whole? not clear on that) then frankly your marriage is already over.

Not true. You've been harassing your wife with this phone records search and asking her repeatedly about some night ten years ago, threatening her with "tell me now before the phone records come" etc. Sounds like a very happy home you're creating there.

I would've seen a lawyer and you would have already been served with divorce papers.