MrsWise

One of my co worker tried to purse a sexual relationship with me by texting me outside work . We had each other's contact info since we had communicate about shift exchanges etc. Then all sudden I noticed, he started texting me more outside work. The message were random and goofy. I didn't think much of it since we were friendly at work. Then they started escalating to more sexual messages. I wasn't comfortable with direction things were heading so I made it clear . The texts stopped and things continue as normal. Now months later, he hugged me when no one is around and wouldn't let go then kiss my neck. Now he's always trying to sieze opportunity to hug especially when we are alone...Is he trying to start things again ?

I live in Canada and the property owner has to claim all of their income tax. So I feel like he's trying to invade paying taxes by requesting cash. Also, I can claim my rent on my taxes so this situation will not work for me

It's the same man of this thread

One of the man that work at my work but in different department informed me some time ago that he's looking for someone to rent his basement apartment. But at the time I had already signed a lease and moved where I'm currently staying. Now my lease is ending in few months and I asked him some again recently if he found someone to which he said NO..he wants to rent to someone he knows. He also want cash for rent and we could agree on the rent. Then he told me if I want I can come to look at the place. It's basically a separate unit in the basement, with access to your own entrance and amenities. But shared parking . I've been contemplating it since I need to move from where I'm currently staying because of pests issues. But part of me doesn't feel comfortable and feel like it would be awkward since we work for the same company. I'm also a type of person who like my own privacy so I wonder if he would be in my business even though it will be a separate unit would you do this?

By private settings I meant I was only able to change who can send me friends request to friends of friends..unless we have mutual friends on his new profile, he cannot add me. Also not to have my account show up on Google search . But people can still look me up in Facebook search despite these changes . I tried it using my sisters boyfriend account who isn't on my friends list Not sure when was the last time you verified this but Facebook no longer have the option to not show up in search .I was actually looking on this information when it was suggested on how to do it and I came across a video that was published 9 years ago with step by step instructions. But when I tried to follow I didn't have the option when I went in settings. Sure enough, others, the recent comments stated the same when I scrolled in the comments section ..asking when this feature will be back. Seems like my only option is to delete Facebook or him giving up on his own

Thank you everyone for your insights. However, I don't see any way I can make him stop messaging me other than deleting Facebook which I really don't want to do since I had this Facebook for more than decade. I have all my old classmates from high school and some of my relatives overseas and it's easier to keep up with their lives Not to mention I also use it for business. I would have to start all over and change my name then add everyone back so my ex can't find me. Just because I don't want to go through that hassle doesn't mean I want to leave the lines of communication open. Any normal person would back off if you tell them not to contact you I've already told him not to contact me once I was done with his bs. I didn't engage with him last time he attempted to contact me. Blocking him isn't working because he will just make another account to get around it...which he has already done twice now. I changed my settings to private and took away the option for someone to add me as a friend unless we have mutual friends. Facebook no longer have the option to take away the messages option where no one other than your friends can message you. Other than deleting my Facebook, I don't see what else I can do other than continuing to ignoring him and hope he will eventually get bored and move on

Last time we spoke which was 6 years ago, he dropped me like a bad habit and ignored further messages from me. I was tired of the roller coster ride and him coming in and out of life. I changed my contact info and deactivated my Facebook account. Few years later I went back on Facebook..only to have him clogging my inbox with i miss you messages. I responded and basically told him not to contact me anymore and I didn't want to hear from him. Then I blocked him. This was a brand new account he had open with around 20 friends . I thought that would have been it. Then a year later he makes a brand new account to message me. ..stating he knows I blocked him but was hoping to hear from me because I never left his heart. I blocked the brand new account then forgot about it. Now months later, he has opened another account and it appears he's starting one since has few friends on it. He basically said hey how are you, it's me Xxx? Ugh..why does he keep messaging when i keep blocking and not responding? Is he getting kick out of this? Last time we were in contact, he showed lack of interest and would often ignore my texts then dropped me like yesterday's news..Also it appeared he was with someone else based on his availability to talk one minute then work popping up at the last minute. I could never confirm this since we live 4 hours apart. Deleting my Facebook isn't an option since I use it for businesses etc.Not to mention it helps me to keep up with some of my relatives overseas. W ill he eventually give up if I don't cave? I'm thinking to stop blocking him and I just ignore him. I feel like blocking is also giving him fuel as it is an reaction that he's getting to me. How effective is silent and not bother blocking ?

There's this older gentleman at my work who is always friendly in passing. We work in completely unrelated departments but we always exchange pleasantries. Sometimes we have brief conversation about work and what not. Nothing too personal. Recently he told me that he went to this beautiful beach near the the side of town l live and was telling me how beautiful it is. Then he suggested we go sometime ..just casual not big deal. And then he said, let me know whenever you want to go. And he left the ball in my court. I just said sure in the heat of the moment. I continued acting normal whenever our path crossed and still greeted him but I never brought it again or followed up because I figured I just couldn't be bothered. Now he's distance and not as friendly. I thought it was just a casual hangout. Was he expecting more? Is he offended that I just brushed it off?

The reason why I hesitant to deactivate my account is I use my facebook mostly for face book groups for my youtube channel. Other than that I hardly use it. As a matter of fact, I temporary deactivate my face book for 4 years some time ago because trying to severe ties after he left me for the umpteen time and completely blew me off. I was so hurt and I vowed myself to not get involved again. He had no way to contact me and it helped me to move on I had to go back to Face book 2 years ago when I opened a youtube channel so I can join the face book groups to get engagement on my new channel. So use it soley for that. As soon as I reactivated he messaged me stating that he had been looking for me for years and is happy he found me. This was around the time I told him that I didn't want to hear from him and not to contact me again. Then I blocked the page he just opened. Now here we go again. I'm going to try creating a new page and rejoin the groups. If i get accepted . Then I will deactivate my real face book

Is this a new feature? I tried to change my settings to only have friends message me but there isn't that option of only having friends message me. Is it widely available in other Countries ?

yes, I've already told him to not contact me again and blocked hi main Face book account. He kept coming in out of my life and I was sick of it. Now he made a fake face book account to get around that by saying he misses me and hopes to hear from me, but I think he is just bored and will leave again at some point

My ex won't respect my wishes of me not wanting contact and keeps reaching out by making fake Facebook accounts to get around me blocking him. It's making mad to point I want to write out a nasty response. Which one would eat at him more..silence or a nasty response? Has anyone been ignored by an ex? we you hurt

My ex and met on Face book 10 years ago and we hit it off. However, after 5 months he broke it off because he felt like we don’t live within reasonable distance to support a relationship. We live 5 hours away from each other of driving distance. We still kept seeing each other because we couldn’t let go. We wanted to be together but in practice there was a great distance separating us Then he ended it again because he lost feelings, according to him. We ceased contact only for him to reappear stating he misses me then we started seeing each gain. He went cold again and ended it again for the same reason, the distance. We would reconnect and hangout over a period of 3 years until things started going downhill. He started bailing out in the last minutes arrangement to meet up and he became distance. Then he claimed he lost his job and can’t visit me. He withdrew but I kept contacting him and he ended up telling me that he needed space. I reached out again after 2 months only to learn he met someone local. I decided to move on. Then he reached out again after months and we reconnected. It became a wash and rinse repeat cycle. He would reach out stating he misses me. Once the excitement wears off goes cold, bail on our plans to meet in person. Last time we reconnected I suspected he was seeing someone else close to were he lives because he was behaving sketchy. He was flaky and He stood me up on skype. Then gaslighted me when I gave him flak for it. I finally had enough last time when he dropped me because of the same reason, distance and ignored my attempts to contact him. I was so hurt. We didn’t talk for 4 years because I deactivated my face book profile and changed my number. He had no way to contact me. I reactivated it 2 years ago and within a month he opened a new face book account and messaged me claiming he has been looking for me all these years and he feels like he is dreaming. he misses me alot. And left his number to message him. I downloded a texting App and messaged him telling him not to contact me and reminded me how he treated me last time. I didn't even wait for his response. I deleted the app then block him on face book. He was out of my mind. Until today when I checked message request only to see it was from him using a fake account. He basically said how i never left his heart and he knows i blocked his main profile and is hoping i will message him back. Now i have so many thoughts running my mind..I'm scared to give in because I don't want to get hurt again. why won't he give up? are we meant to be?

I do not enjoy the attention, I usually just find it easier to say I'm not available or don't date co workers which is true than outright saying i'm not interested in dating you. And this usually work in other cases and some men back off and leave it alone. it's not comfortable having a conversation like that for me if i don't have to, so I usually try that and if doesn't work then outright reject them which isn't fun for me. which i have to do in the case unfortunately

I will stop buying his food and laughing at his comments and halt them going forward. I also want to add that he has asked me point blank if I will date him if I was single before. I told him no because I'm against dating co workers because it changes the work place environment and if something happens then you're forced to see that person and I don't want tension at work. He said he understand and see what i mean and back off for a while. Which is true especially considering that fact I've been with the company for 8 years, have build up my senority and have medical benefits. So quitting is not an option which why I try to avoid office romance like plaque