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well nothing i can do right now accept waiting and try a contact by calling her and sms her but a part from that nothing much cause i don't really know what she feels and especially now she has someone new but is hard for me to go with the flow but i'm willing to do it ?? things that make it even hard is how to talk with her how express my feeling in a different kind of way showing her i care and really do love her. i just hope this will twist the situation a bit and make her think slowly. not sure working or not cause she's very stubborn once she say no it will be no is just like she rejecting her self. but i don't really care about that what i care is that i do love her and i want to show her that from carring trying to make her think.

well girls, try the no contact for awhile about 1.5 weeks then start sms her at first this is what i said: are you preparing to go to work ??? then she reply no just finished eating. y do you ask ???? the i reply back nothing just asking. couple of days later i sms her back but no reply until one day i sms her telling her just sms you cause i've been thingking about you. then i call her that afternoon we have a short conversation it was alright she calm down now. i can hear it from her voice but i'm willing to fight but slowly ?? so any good tips for next step ????? i don't even know this is working or not ?? but i'm willing to take the risk cause i love her that's why i want to fight.

I've been thinking lately is been 2 weeks since we have contact. She already have a new bf can't seem to understand y ????? everyone say she seems happy now. I understand now that y she left me cause she feel I'm to fragile that I can't be independent and always need her. she doesn't like this she need someone that can be strong in her view. I don't know how but I'll try I still love her no matter what but is seems everything is againts my way don't know what to do ?????

Is hard i know to go through all these. heard all the stories"all the ex in her live never get back together with her". that's is y can i change that ???? cause it hurts me so much to see her with new bf. when she said no she meant it very well. you know sometimes when we think as a men in a mind game girls can have an advantages ussually when they have a new guy in their life we as men tend to be jaelous. but do you think it will be the same way if I have done the same thing in my situation ????? is just a game to lure her back in my trap. I guess

so you saying that is better not to send her anything ??????? just leave her alone. I can't understand when I leave her alone how can she miss me when she got this new guy in her live. I confused today is her birthday don't know what to do?????? I make my own birthday card for her and I really want to give it to her but after reading your post just make me unstable should I send it shouldn't I ??????????? well any more suggestion ????????????? what about the plan to go clubbing with other girls to show her I've move on. the last day we met is the worst she told me is over no chance at all but acctually i love her so i told her ok if it's over that's fine hope we still be friend and all the best for you, have fun then she said ok until now there's no news from her at all. so sad I love her so much. if she only knew that. even I make mistake in our relationship but that's only human nature never ever I have itention of cheating on her at all everyone think that I'm to nice and you can't be to nice but if i do the opposite way then the result would still be the same. Girl y can't you understand my position

well i understand now love is just a game. what do you think about my plan ???? sometime i just don't get it and the important thing is i'm not really sure why do we broke up but it happens already so it doesn't concern me. but one thing that concern me is that i want get her back. if i contact her she become cold and always be me who do the talking she just listen without saying a word the only thing that come out from her mouth is yes and no that's it. so it's difficult for me to cope with her esspecially now she got a new bf. she always listen to her friend never listen from her inner self this is also the trouble esspecially her friends is a drama queen if a have to say they all a B@#$@ you know what. i care so much for her because when i was with her she's a nice and caring gf but everytime she hangout with her friends she change that's y i hate her friend so much. but i love her so much care and can't express my feeling since she won't listen anymore. now i can only write letter to her and don't even dare to call her. here are my recent letter which i haven't post to her yet: Dear ****, It is very important for me to express to you how much you really mean to me. I wish I could do this in person while holding you in my arms and gazing into your eyes. But since we are physically separated by miles of emptiness, this expression must come in the form of letters such as this. From the first time I saw you, I was attracted to you. But boy! Never have I regretted a moment spent with you! But as I start being distracted with straightening my future, I forgot about the important person by my side, you. Were I able to travel back in time, I would go back to the moment I met you again, and start all over. This time I have an understanding on what needs to be done and what makes you happy. We are only human, and as human we can't do that. But the next best thing that can be done is let me do what I would do if I had that other option now. Let me love you as you should be loved and take care of you for the rest of your life. To see all the places we talked about, and to grow old together. To take care of you when you are sick or be there when you just need a shoulder. I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I know it is difficult for you, as it is for me, to be separated. Life seems to be full of trials of this type which test our inner strength, and more importantly, our devotion and love for one another. After all, it is said that "True Love" is boundless and immeasurable and overcomes all forms of adversity. In truth, if it is genuine, it will grow stronger with each assault upon its existence. Our love has been assaulted many times, and I am convinced that it is true because the longer I am away from you, the greater is my yearning to be with you again. I cherish any thought of you, prize any memory of you that rises from the depths of my mind, and live for the day when our physical separation will no longer be. Well, I guess I've said enough for the time being. ****, have a wonderful day and, hopefully, I'll see you again real soon. If you get a chance, write me and tell me your thoughts. Until I hear from you, take care of yourself. Always, **** Love Love is patient love is humble love is not selfish love is honest love doesn't keep people mistake love doesn't rejoice in inquity but rejoice in the truth love bears all thing love believe all thing love hope all thing love endures all thing love never fail what do you think advise anyone ???????????????????????????

Hi girls i just want to know your opinion about my ex and how should i handle her so i can get her back.so if you can help much much appreciated well just got dump 1 month ago after 7 month relationship only cause mostly misunderstanding and argument. but not all of it some of it also my mistake. my ex is very stubborn girl, selfish, very smart in covering her feelings. she's really hate me now and i think she's just ill feel right now so she doesn't want to be with me anymore. she just got a new bf about 1 week ago. well to tell u the truth i still care for her and miss her and i try all my best expressing this feeling (letters, sms, calling her and seeing her) but all this thing make her anoyed. she's been busy right now working, going to uni and when week end come she went clubbing with her friend. do you think she's really over about me ???? well try pleading and begging but all didn't work. so what the best plan girls ???? is been 1 week "no contact" now but is just seem it is not the thing for her since she really ignore me. i got a good plan acctualy, i will go clubbing next week with my friends and they all planning to match me with a girl this is to make her think that i've move on and maybe this plan will lure her back to me. so do you think is a good idea please response ADVISE NEEDED.

u know is really hurt my heart when i hear this news she got an new bf after just 1 month is like she's moving on. i heard from my friend she did this cause she doesn't want me bug her life anymore. until now i'm very patient with her and still love her dearly but don't know what to do?? her birthday coming up 10 march next week shoul i do anything ????? PLEASE ADVISE NEEDED GUYS. i feeling so sad everyday eventhough now i work doing things but still at night time i remmember her even in my dream always everyday i pray for her and for our relationship to work out but well sometimes you just don't get it why this is happening.

the problem right now is that she really hate me right now and seems that she doesn't want me back don't know why. according to the stories i know she never ever contact the ex again once she get over it then she start to move on don't even want to know about the past that is why i'm worried. acctually to tell you the truth i want to get back together and i will try my best to not contacting her but if she never contact me then what should i do to get her back ????????? ADVISE anyone

well is hard i know sometimes especcialy my ex gf is one of the stuborn girl I ever met but I love her dearly and really want to get back together with her. what if she doesn't call ????? how long this game have to be on ???? is just confusing don't know what to do ?????????????? just no contact a bit confused 8)

so you saying that she is the ball and i need to get her in the tennis court right in order to play. but the thing is i'm not really sure how to do that ?? i'm not that experience in doing that thing but if you can give me tips that will be helpfull for me beec. thanks buddy

MY SHORT STORIES "my old story was I've been dating my girlfriend for 7 month we were happy in those day alot of memories, we fight as well sometimes and last dec we went holiday together I was so happy until 25 january 2004 we broke up is been 1 month we had a big argument. my problem is that i don't listen to her, inmature guy, selfish and stubborn. for 1 month I make mistake all the time keep on calling her and pushing her. to tell you the truth she is one of a stubborn girl I've ever met in my life. well today I saw her talk with her she still said no chance we are getting together again. is ok so i decided and say to her ok maybe the time is not right but I still love you maybe I will look for you again in 2 or 3 year later cause no matter what I still love you. I told her aswell let's just be friends no heart felling. but in my heart she will always be there caused no matter what I LOVE HER" *1 day nothing to say still sad and think about her but keep it cool, busy and smilling.most important no contact and pray always for her to realize how I love her so much. *2 day nothing happen today a part just me alone going to church pray for us together hopefully there is a way so that we can be together again *3 day still the same nothing happen just ussual live but keep on praying about her MISS HER SO MUCH DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. *4 day nothing much start again with my life start working again and start doing exercise to keep fit. but still miss her so much can help it keep on praying. *5 day hear the most disappointed news she got new bf after 1 month breakups so stress but keep hangging there and pray *6 day got a part time job do the best i can not to think of her but so hard cause deep inside me still say i love her so much.

not a problem dude actually I'm happy to help anyone here who share the same problem. but to me some has a good news and happy situation. well in my situation is different abit more complicated but keep hanging there cause still want her back. so keep it cool and smile alot mate.

well sorry to hear what happens sometimes there are something that we can't controll within ourself and there is always a way to do it. but is your decision right now to make it right for you and your girlfriend. well for your situation just act normally, stay in thouch with her but remmember as a friend only don't bring up the past it will help. show the real you who she attracted with. then eventually it will spark again. but believe it or not in my situation I pray as well but it didn't help cause my pushiness, pulling her away from me but to tell you the truth no matter how hurt the girl is deep down in their heart there always a space for you. so only time will help her heal all of these and you will know what will happens as soon the right time come up. stay cool dude and enjoy life 8) a good word for you "Just believe in your self and do the best for your self then everyone will see how good you are"

from guys point of view most of guys like a girl who is passionate and understanding and some like girls who is playing hard to get. well if you going out on a date then is good at least you have the cance to be with you ex again but remmember don't show or talk about the past just talk nicely about you and your ex situation right know just go with the flow keep it nicely and maybe the spark will come hehehehhehehe. stay calm don't get excited just show how beautifull you are inside and outside then your ex maybe start to have that spark again. trust me see what's happen let us know with update ok. 8)

well just call her today and let her know that I'm sorry for what I have done before and hope there is no heart feelings. we can still be friends. feel good but as you know still thinking of her but STAY BUSY AND COOL RIGHT 8) see what happens will stick with casual contact good idea right guys ANY INPUT ???????????????

I understand how you feel but keep it cool most of girls like a challange they don't go with guys with weak point but keep it cool. just do what you have to do. remmember you mind is a weak point for you right now and i understand is hard but try. my problem is even worst then you.in your situation I think you guys can still have the spark but remember don't think to much about it just go with the flow. if you want maybe just give her a casual contact, keep it short but don't go to far (talking about the past) and you have to finished the contact not her. if you able to attract her again then it is time for you to do the next step (which I will advise you later 8) ) but for now stick with casual contact at least minimum 1 a week. see what happens give us an update ok.

hey dude. well I know how u feel. I 've been there before hehehehehehe but my problem much even worst caused I don't follow the no contact well enough to tell u the truth now I still think of her so much. but, what can I do nothing else just being busy with my self do whatever you can to be busy with your self and still stick with the no contact rules. wait atleast minimum 1 month don't give her the impression you stilll want her don't u dare well after one month past maybe if you could or you think you are ur self again try and contact her but remember 1 THING don't bring up the past. just slow conversation about how your life going and ask how she is going. remember to keep it short at least 5 minutes and don't let her finished the contact (IMPORTANT YOU HAVE TO FINISHED THE CONTACT). if you think you are ur self again try this casual contact maybe once a week even better once every 2 week. try my suggestion first and let see what happens. but if she keep contacting you then keep it short go with the flow, listen to her but don't use your loving feeling that you want her but used it as you are trying to attract her again like a magnet . TRUST ME BEEN THERE THIS WILL WORK AT LEAST 70% CONFIDENCE FOR ME

thank you for every input. anyone else want to give input for this go ahead. well,I decided alot of things that is wrong for my step. but I think 1 thing that is important right now is to be a better me for a while. then maybe there is a way again to reach for her but then again maybe I will get a new special person but no body know the outcome is ???? right hehhehehe. but I like to know all the input from you guys so go ahead put as many as you want for my problem and decision. it will be good for me to step ahead and maybe there's an inspiration for me.

HI ALL, well like my old story was I've been dating my girlfriend for 7 month we were happy in those day alot of memories, we fight as well sometimes and last dec we went holiday together I was so happy until 25 january 2004 we broke up is been 1 month. but make mistake all the time keep on calling her and pushing her. to tell you the truth she is one of a stubborn girl I've ever met in my life. well today I saw her talk with her she still said no chance we are getting together again. is ok so i decided and say to her ok maybe the time is not right but I still love you maybe I will look for you again in 2 or 3 year later cause no matter what I still love you. well guys don't make mistake like me or you will regret it for the rest of your life better stay with no contact go with the flow and when the time is right be friends and eventually love will grow again slowly. so guys if you still stick with the no contact rules go for it trust me it will work wonders for you. you will eventually know what to do latter

so just wait until i hear something from her. so u think the going out together without talking the broke up is just pushing her away is it ???

well is true sometime cause sometimes people just think short without thinking a head. do you think I just give her time by waiting her or just maybe she her one day and ask her out even though she told me that we should have no contact. funny sometime to handle love you have to work hard to get it but how come just easy saying broke up

Well I talk with her already I got all her information but mainly is just I don't listen and try to understand her feeling that's all I thing that is important. but I keep on trying no matter how because someday couple make love to each other other day they have to fight for it. we will never know what's going to happen later but I thing I do know that i love her. I told everything to her. she also said if let's say we get back together what will you do. I told her I can't do anything but I want you to see with your own eyes that I've change and support me and I can support you as well. but some how she doesn't get it DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO NEED ADVISE ??????? GIRLS AND BOYS HELP PLSSSSSS.

Well is been several days for me no contact. I can't take it anymore so I see my girlfriend. I know what's the problem and why she break up with me. cause I can't listen and understand her. but the thing is she so stubborn and has a big ego. I just can't make her to see that we can make it if we try again. I see her 2 days ago and we talk. we get everything out of our mind everything just seems to be ok. I keep asking her for a chance she said no until she decided to reconsider and she ask me to give her time for 1 week without contact. i did a lot of things that make her disappointed maybe is just a bad day for me all these time. but I've been trying my best to change my self and improve my self. I told her that I love her just the way she is and hoping that she will do the same, but we will try to improve and grow our relationship together if we're together again. her best friend told me that she still haven't change her mind still stick with "no". but if I saw her is different the way she treated me is just like she is happy to see me and I think she still like me. I think she just afraid or maybe her ego is to big. just want to ask advise how will I tell her, make her realize there is still a hope "if she said no again after 1 week" ??????? and if she say yes what will I do ???????????? PLEASE ANY ADVISE GUYS WITH THIS EXPERIENCE.

hi evryone is been 6 days now with no contact i feel better each day but my felling still there. is not that i need her to be happy but my life will be happier if i have someone like her next to me. that's the main reason. all this time i realize beeing happy with my self help me grow but everyone needs someone in ther life and one of them is that special one your best friend as girl friend. alll this time i've been with my girlfriend i don't realize that i done so many mistake but the important is that I won't listen to my girlfriend. instead of listen i just give a solution to her this is not good. guys if you have problem like me please I advise you to listen more even it's hurts for you knowing your girlfriend talking, scholing and maybe complaining about you but all of these you just need to listen and you will see a big difference in your relationship. I don't know is it to late for me or not. is getting hard for me now I'm in the no contact period but I'm ready to prepare for anything that come. but the important thing is I still love my girlfriend and hoping she will give me a last chance.