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AHHH, I hate the fact that you were right. He was planning on ending the relationship, and he did. In an e-mail. After all that garbage he wrote an e-mail. I tried to talk to him about it, but he's never available, he called 4 days after and apologizes, saying he doesnt want to bring my life down with his music career. I've helped him all summer, and he knows i love it as much as he does, but uses it as an excuse, and to me its not valid. He never even tried to make it work, the days he's so busy , i run into him chillen w/ his friends, or he goes to work and passes my house to leave and to go back home,, never attempted to talk to me, his cell phone is ALWAYS on him. Not once. For the person he supossedly says he's in love so deeply, he has proved nothin, but im stuck again not knowing what to do. he says after he gets the first track done, maybe we can try it again..(ha), im thinking more along the lines of trying a friendship , and bulid a foundation from that. But its hurting so bad, i do care and love him w/ all my heart , but what is he doing??is it gonna work

Im just trying to figure out my boyfriend. we've been together for 2 months now and lately things just aren't the same. I can take change, but i cant take him distancing himself. short verions. He never calls me anymore, says he's busy. But when I call he's like... yeah i sat around all day doing nothing. He's acting kinda weird like he's upset about somethin, he never talks about the things anymore, but he does have music in the making and he says it has to do with that....When I see him compared to about 3- ? times a week now its once every week in a half. Not only that im like last on the agenda. He say hes coming now, 4 hours later he calls and says yeah i went to the mall, i went to so and so's house, it was fun, i did this, i;ll be over there. WHen he does come he'll bring all his friends, since he doenst talk to me, he gets weird when i talk to them cuz i only get short replys from him, and then 10 min later he leaves.He even forgets to simply say i love u. There was this lil fest going on. I saw him finally(2 weeks w/out) and he hugs be and says im gonna walk around. I told my friends what was up and they move away to give us time to talk, and his friend(mine also) was the one who got him to stay with me. He was like naw man you neeed to stay w/ your girl. and after a couple of words he got him to stay with me. Then started talking to all his other friends, then tells me he's walking around cuz I'm boring. Im the one standing there knowing basically just him, and he's laughing w/ all his friends, so i just decide to introduce myself to everyon, and he'd just glare at me, like im supossed to be some kind of lightpost. so his walking around was standing in a group by my group of friends. he talkedd to them more than he did to me. basically i was like, i'll talk to you later. He quesitons why, and i say nothing going on. Basically he's like what's wrong, and i say don't even worry about it, and he's like "alright bye, oh yeah love you" Before all that I've talked to him how I felt, he knows he's been distancing away, he know's what i'm feeling, and its still the same. what is up??

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Mmk imma try and make this short. . Ok, generally I hang out with a certian group of friends, there's missy, beth, derek that's in the group and having problems. Missy is a straight forward girl, she's cool but doesn't show much emotion nor speak about them. Derek, I had such a close relation ship, i mean I love this kid, we hung out all the time talked all the time, he just is never honest about his feeling.ex? Say he was real pissed off, he would pretend he wasnt. Beth, the all around nice girl, everyone enjoys her company and she's truthful, luv her 2 death as well. Me my personal issue, Ive gotton over it, through lifes experiences i decided that people dont care about me,(yeah, yeah yeah..) My friends knew about it and knew why as well. One day the subject came up and I was talking about it to someone, basically saying, people shouldnt, nor do they care about me. Even though they knew that before, now that its come through someone else, they get extremely pissed off. It been 4 weeks might i add............... the first few days they were mad, still talkin to me, I didn't know anything, I asked and asked and finally I found out why everyone was acting strange, the next day i was ignored, I got nots saying how im a bitch and that they need time away. I ignored the bitch part and gave em space.(of course we talked in person, on phone, notes, had big arguments in between) Beth understand me, she;s the same way of how I USED to be. THe thing is eveyone know and don't care, but get pissed at me. Now all there saying is they wan't nothin to do w/ me and that im a backstabber and they can't stand me. One day derek said, he hates being mad, and misses me and he'll get over it, the other day he said " oh i hate her so much" Missy says " its over, your a back-stabber" beth said " it hurt, but im over it now" and we talk but everyone else is upset. It seems so dumb, and Ive been through so much with them and I don't want to loose them, I love them with all my heart, but they just up and left me. basically that's a long story short. what to do? These are my "bestfriends" who "care soooooooo much" and they want the friendship to end, and right now it pretty much has. what to do?

hey thanks, i've tried the no contact rule but i gave in! this time im not!!thanks 4 listening

I think that you may be a little shy. You already talk to her, does she know much about you? Do you know much about her? NOt the simple things like her favorite color. Meaningful things such as, what do you plan to do with your life, sudden interests. Be confident!!, you can talk to her. Once you feel comfortable try and hang out with her. Nothin fancey, some place where you can relax and have fun. MY first little date was simply... youth group..my guy invited me and took me there and home..it was fun!...Try hanging out with her a lil more 1 on 1 rather then..Your there shes there..thats it..Hope i can help!

My boyfriend and i took a split due to some communication problems and trust. I took time to think things over and i expressed all my feeling that i could to him, telling him and asking him to basically be open with me as I was. When it it came down to it, he basically ignored everythin ive said. His only reply was " I dont want to hurt your feelings" and walked off. It may seem dumb, but hurt my feelings?? I basically told him how i still care and how I can accept things whether were just friends or get back 2gether like he said as a possibility. He's giving me the vibe that he doesn't care, he's just avoding opening up to me, how can i approach him.

Let me clarify that. I do want a relationship, i'm not afraid of being a one, having a boyfriend is not a necesity...however u spell it. I can do fine with out one.I like him a lot, sure the feeling of it all is great too, but thats definetly not it.Since i have a problem expressing my self when talkin(words dont come out right) Im going to explain everything, how I feel in a letter and then talk to him about it.He doesnt quite go into depth in cnonversation, so i'm pretty sure i'm askin the right questions and stating the right words. but thanks for listening, i just might have what i need..

ugg I'm just trying find out a way to clean things up. My ex and i are still friends but the fact that we broke up was apon trust. I care about him a lot and still have feelings for him and i do trust him, just not 100% like the way he wants me to. It takes a long time to build that type of foundation. Trust can take years to build and only suspicion, not proof, to destroy it. I heard some nasty rumors about him and another girl which i was going to talk to him about but people got in my business and told him that i think he's cheating on me. I didnt know how to react to the situation when i heard all the stuff so when i saw him i ended up ignoring him because i didnt know what to do and 1. i didnt wanna blow up if it wasnt true, and 2. i didnt want to act all happpy if it was buggin the shit outta me. so since i never got a chance to talk to him(I tried) he broke up wiht me. later on now....... he called and we talked around the subject but basically he was telling me how good things were until i messed it up. I dont understand the fact also when he heard supossedly how i felt, and it bothered him a lot, he came at me telling me why didnt I come talk to him, if he saw me upset shouldnt he have asked, maybe be a lil bit concerned. He gave me the impression that i always have to come talk to him and i always have to ask the questions of his feelings to find things out. He's open, but he wont tell me anything unless i ask. Bottom line is, he doesnt ask, he doesnt now how i feel, I'm not afraid of tellling him, but i dont know how.What should I say..he's a bit stubborn.... I want to go back into a realtionship so bad, i've fallen for him but maybe he doesnt quiet know it yet?? the first thing that came out his mouth was " did you learn how to trust yet?" wtf..I know he still cares, plus he calls more that normal and wants to Maybe start a realtionship later on, how do i get him to tell me how he feels. Why do i have to pry, i feel like I have to do everything like I'm the man in the relationship.He gives off the vibe that he doesnt give a shiiii**ii*....what am i supposed to do, i dont want to loose him. tho everytime i talk to him i get this emotional weight, i just feel worse...whats going on here????

Thanks, that was my first thought, to give him a chance as well as room. I like him a lot despite the fact of what people think and say about him. What matters is what I see.relationships are hard, and trust is a big thing. When having people so close to you convince you somethin that may not be true, it leaves you confused, and there no place to really go. Just your instinct.Cant let it get the best of you tho.

Arg!!!! This is the situation. My boyfriend and I have gone out for a little over a month. Everything was going fine until one if his 'old flings" was trying to start problems with me. So i decided to see what the deal was and she actually ended up apologizing and telling me information about things they did and things he said. She thought he was cheating on me with her and was tired of being the 3rd wheel according to her.So he was messing around with her at the same time as me but not offically dating. Certian things she told me pissed me off and i planned on talking to him about it, when i did i froze and ended up ignoring him cuz i was thinking " he wouldnt do that would he??? he wouldnt say that??" So i decideed to wait till we had more time to talk rather than rush it and leave it open ended. 2 other friends of mine and his decided to but into my business. Previously one of them told me that she talked to the girl i was having problems with and i was told he was cheating on me. I didnt believe it though. SO my friend asks "is it true" I said yeah, he was messing wiht her at the beggining of the year. and shes freaking out "oohh I m sorry!!" etc, i didnt pay no mind. Then even later in the say she says " yOu need to talk to your boyfriend NOW! whats going on.." I replied " okk for what now?she immediately says "I will talk to him" I told not to worry about it and that i would do it myself. So i planned on calling him but that didnt work out too well. The next day i find that he's mad at me. So i talk to him and he's upset because he says i dont trust him enough to talk to him like a real girlfriend and basically that we shouldnt be together, he hugged me and held me for a while then we went our separate ways. I never did say i didnt trust him, if he was the one upset cuz i supposedly didnt trust him shouldnt he have come to me?? So everyone is blaming this on me saying " see you should have talked to him" I dont know what they told him, i havent really talked to him since. He wants us to be friends and maybe try dating later on, i cant handle being his friend, things feel so weird. I dont 100% trust anyone cuz ive been through tooo many people who took that trust and used me and hurt me. i tried to explain that but hes just hardheadedd. I still have sooooooo many feelings for him and i dont know how to act around him nor know what to do anymore. I feel like i'm stuck, i dont know how to just be his friend and try to better our relationship cuz i dont want to lose him. ok ok!! i know it's getting long but i also just remembered somethin. My "ex" now can to be an ass sometimes, i recall having a conversation with him basically telling me how he doesnt care about me yet?? this is before we broke up..what's up with that??? so does he even want a relationship.He told me he's not worried about girls and is trying to finish school pass all his classes which is good. but telling someone they dont care???

You guys/gals are good. Thanks for giving me input, i pretty much figured thats what it would boil down to, but for some reason i feel attached to him. I probably need to really have a serious chat with him because I dont think he's REALLY listening, i'll be back and let u know the results. Thanks again.

I am extremely confused right now. I've know this guy for a couple of months and we've grown closer together since then. You can call it friends with benefits? not too long ago been in a situation and made the mistake of having sex with someone. From that point on, i've made it clear to everyone that that will NOT happen again, anytime soon for that matter.So this guy thats ive been cool with tried to have sex with me and i overall told him no. He acteed cool about it then at a time he told me " don't ever do that again", and a while later he asked me out and i said yes. Now when i talk to him he never fails to say somethin like, yeah were gonna have sex this weekend, were gonna do that. He knows about how i feel, but now i'm not sure if thats what he really wants me for. I really like him, and he says he really likes me to, and cares about me and my feelings. Though he says that, it seems my feelings are being ignored. Now that we are dating he acts really distant, minus the rumors, he'll flirt with other girls and even hang out with them and doesnt even bother to include me. he'll act all affectionate to others and not me, unless were alone and then a girl who talks bad about me all the time, also someone who he clamis he doesnt like, at lunch he will totally ignore me and eat lunch w/ here, knowing i'm there and knowing theres a problem between this girl and I.So lately he's been semi distant and now i'm ot even sure if he wants to be aroudn me anymore! WHat to do??