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I kind of feel unappreciated at times. It can be typical for the husband not to thankyou for what you do. My real question is, read what I have to say, and what do you think???? It is inaccurate to believe a homemaker stays home because she is to lazy to get or do a real job? Although the homemaker does not receive a paycheck she is making a huge contribution to the family. I am woman hear me roar, but I chose to live in a traditional marriage and family, feminist feel that I'm thwarting the movement, I'm a person of value, yes I deserve to be treated equally and fairly but the fact is I could care less about the womans movement, I live and breath to keep a marriage strong and healthy, to raise three children to be happy healthy, and give them the tools to make it. And I'll still be around to help them through hard times if necessary. I am a homemaker, I do not work or live for a buck. I live to see my family and anyone else I can smile. Money can not give you happiness, if that is the focus you miss everything else at least in the depth that brings the most fullfillment in life. I am a homemaker who will teach my son immediately that when he marries it is his responsibility to be the provider. He should be supportive of a career minded wife but when children come so much can change. Don't let it be a money issue that makes her decide what to do, she won't be happy and the marriage will suffer. I'm a wife, who loves my husband. If things need working on I can focus on the issues and work on it immediately. I am sick of the phrase " I can do it all" . Really, but can you do it all and do it great? Divorce rates are so high because we've spread are selves so thin we just don't have the time or energy to put into saving the marriage. Divorce seems quick easy, with benefits and could be a little profitable.. SHORT TERM Ever heard " you cannot stay in a marriage just for the kids"? You can't!!! But I say if you don't put a signifigant amount of time and effort into keeping or saving your marriage your telling your kids they weren't even worth the hassle to try to save it. I have girls too. they will be independent and capable of taking care of themselves, but if they marry they should not feel like they have no value if they chose to stay at home and raise their kids and keep their family running smoothly. Woman have the right to work and be paid fairly, But that does not take away my right to chose staying home. Many woman are forced to work because lowpaying jobs can't support a family with just one. They also work because society has let the womans movement push all woman along a road, I'm not going down this road. It sucks. Family is what America was built and thrived on, now it's the money, but America is slowly degrading to immorality, materialism and violence because so many don't want to raise their own children. Marriages are collapsing and familys suffer. The kids carry this along for life. The cycle wil ruin us eventually.

Did you ever love her? If you did you can get it back. Get help, marriage counseling is intimidating but it can help alot. It's hard to admit that you need help. But your marriage and kids deserve it that yoou at least try. At nine years of marriage, I did the counseling thing, and then divorced my husband. A little over a year later we remarried. Why? Because I love him more than I thought possible. I've heard it said that the first 10 years of a marriage are hard work even hell sometimes.( I can totally relate to that) But the second 10 are awesome. So far they have been for me. We both worked hard on it, we both had to make some changes, and we both had to want it to work. No more arguing, yelling, fighting, etc. Sex????? Did you know men can get so much more out of sex if they are faithful and patient and loving. Eventually sex goes from the hohums and goods, sometimes great. Too oh my god!!!! All the time.

You say you love your wife, if you really do stop now and get help. Seek out help for your marriage. Don't cheat, any sexual contact with someone other than your wife is just that. If you love her even just a little you wouldn't want to hurt her like this. If you love her at all you wouldn't mess with her self esteem this way. Be a Good man, do what a real man would do, stop get help, try to save the marriage, and keep your commitments. You have no business giving her any ultimatums. You both have made this a mediocre marriage so you both need to work on stuff to make it work out. If you ever really loved her you can get that intense love thing back. Try hard. If all else fails it should end. Be good to her no matter what. Again you treat the person well that you love, even though it's not married love anymore.

Yes it can. Jesus is how you can be saved. Go to church with her, keep your mind open. Enjoy the environment and time spent with her. You only have to believe one simple truth, jesus is the way to heaven. Think about maybe she is your heaven on earth trying to lead you to eternal life in heaven. Christianity for me means two things faith and love. Faith is believing even though you have not seen for yourself. Love, very simple, a happy life comes from loving and being loved. A simple christian church, is simple. There is no pressure involved. They just lay out the facts as they know them and you take from it what you can. I believe that Jesus died for our sins and rose again. My heart says I'm right. Yours might too.

First you might want to see a psychiatrist. It couldn't hurt and help you open up. Remember woman see (at least the ones worth having) the whole man. The old saying is just do it. worst case scenario a girl you talk to or approach is a bitch and behaves badly. So what, move one.

Do not remain friends, lovers or anything else with this man. It's wrong. Marriage is a union that should be complely respected by all. Let him go. Do not let him keep you tied into this relationship where you lose your self respect. If you think that won't happen it will. Remember it takes two to make a marriage work, obviously he doesn't like to work he just wants to play. Sounds like an immature little boy. Go find yourself a man. You can if you want.

He's married. He has kids. It is WRONG to mess with it. If you can't walk away from this you need some serious help. He needs help too figuring out what to do about his life. If you do get together, he'll do the same to you. Do you really think he should be in a relationship or having more kids till he straightens out his stuff??