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  1. ManOfPlans
    My friend I'm in a similar situation to you, I'm only a bit older, and I realise that though friendship is great, and your ex is friends with her ex, it has to take time. Its been many months since I broke up, and I had the same feelings as you, honest, but only now do I realise that a big big amount of time is necessary. You have not been eliminated from her life, even if it feels like it, but you need to at least accept that, so anything in the future can be accepted as a bonus, and not compared to 'what was'. Good luck.
  2. ManOfPlans
    Yes, its interesting how so many things in life are counter-intuitive, especially regarding human emotions and phsychology. Sometimes we have to train ourselves to do things that seem inherently unnatural and wrong, we have to 're-wire' our brains to a certain extent. Freud would have a field day on this site.
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    I agree, whatever you do, do not apologise. Apologising will give the impression that you haven't truly moved on, that the break-up is still on your mind. You want to start again fresh, on a new page, after a true seperation. What good will mentioning anything from the past achieve? If you feel the need to apologise, if how you acted still plays on your mind, if you are really really keen on a friendship, maybe now is too soon to regain contact... Just a thought. Good luck!
  4. ManOfPlans
    Congratulations! I remember you gave good advice a few months ago even though you were working through things yourself. You deserve this happiness!
  5. ManOfPlans
    Oh yes and to actually answer the question, I reckon everything you could possibly want is on here, by clicking on the 'Rating' button and reading all the 5 star posts.
  6. ManOfPlans
    Someone on these forums posted this a while back, about some book at link removed Hope this helps!
  7. ManOfPlans
    I'm actually going through the same thing at the moment, and the way I look at it, to gain a friendship in a more than superficial way, three factors are necessary: 1 - Time. It may take years. Even if you both want to be friends, straight after the break up it is next to impossible. If it is forced or rushed a true friendship is impossible. It has to be a clean start. 2 - Absolutely zero inclination on either persons part to get back together. This takes time, as above. There must be no unequal feelings, no emotional or physical entanglement. 3 - I reckon it helps if you already have friends of the opposite sex, simply because some people don't know how to be friends with the opposite sex unless they are in a relationship with them. Now I just have to swallow my own medicine! Good luck.
  8. ManOfPlans
    I wrote a little guide on why social networking sites are so bad. Doesn't mean you'll be able to resist the temptation though
  9. ManOfPlans
    I'm with GoingForIt on this one. An understanding of human psychology and the nature of attraction not only forces you to look at things from a different mindset and thus diffuse some of the reactive emotions, it gives you the best possible chance you have and this knowledge may well be reflected in your actions - confidence.
  10. ManOfPlans
    Hello, I had a similar situation a month ago regarding a party, though my circumstances were slightly different. Best of luck!
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