darkspark

This girl I kind of like really likes French. So, I was thinking of pretending to not know what a certain phrase in French is, like "Will you go out with me?" and asking her to translate it. Do you think this might be better than the traditional English way for me?

I met this girl through a friend of mine and we dated about 3 times. It was going well for a few weeks. But then one weekend, she said she was too busy to go out until Sunday, but I had something to do on Sunday, so we didn't see each other at all that weekend. She said she would call me at the beginning of the week, but by Monday night, I hadn't heard from her. So, I called her, and got her voicemail. I left her a voice message on Tuesday, but still hadn't heard back from her. On Thursday, I PM'ed her through Facebook, and she responded almost immediately, saying that she was sorry for not calling me back and said she would on Friday. In the late afternoon on Friday, she text messaged me asking what was up. Since, I had finals that day, on Saturday, and on Monday, going out was out of the question. So, after a few messages, we made plans to meet on Monday. We talked for a bit, and hugged as I left her dorm. That was the 18th of December. I didn't get a chance to call her back until Christmas day, a week later, but she didn't pick up. The following Thursday, I tried again. That night, sent her another PM on Facebook. She responded tonight, saying that she is "seriously dating" another guy from her hometown but still thinks I'm a "good guy" and wants to "hang out." This is the second girl I've dated, and I will admit, although I was depressed when I broke up with my first girlfriend, I am almost not depressed at all about this one. Now, I would consider this a mild form of cheating. We never established that we were in a relationship, so I can't truly call it cheating. However, I am disappointed that she didn't at least break things off with me before going with another guy. However, I realized that she was with another guy when she changed her Facebook profile relationship status from "Single" to "In a relationship" without talking with me in a week. So, I'm not surprised. Currently, what I need advice on is what to do next. Right now, I'm considering not responding to her message at all and never contacting her again. I think it is too soon to make any rash decisions, like calling her any number of names.

Note: I am just dating this girl at the moment, nothing more. I went on a blind date over a month ago with a friend of mine and his girlfriend (double/blind date). I ate dinner with the same girl a week later and went back to her place to watch a movie, and we had a great time and got much closer to each other. Since she lives on the other side of my campus (I go to a university with 45,000+ students), we can only manage to see her once or twice a week. We didn't see each other around Thanksgiving because I was out of town. But th Sunday following, we had dinner together again. When compared to the first dinner we had alone together, she seemed more "distracted" than out first dinner. I called her the Thursday following to see what her plans were for the upcoming weekend. She said she was busy on both Friday and Saturday night, and I was busy Sunday night, but she promised to call me on Monday. Monday came and went with no call. I called her on Monday and left a voice message on Tuesday. By Thursday, since I hadn't heard back from her, I sent her a PM over Facebook. She responded quickly saying I forgot. I'll call you tomorrow." By 5pm Friday, she text messaged me (not called) saying she was sorry she "hasn't called." Since I have finals this weekend, I didn't try to make any plans with her (for me, grade supersede relationships). I am kind of offended she hasn't called me. I think I deserve a little more than a text message. At this point, I have seen her in 2 weeks or talked with her on the phone in over a week. I've come to determine this is not what I want in a relationship. I text messaged her back yesterday saying "We should talk before we head home for the holidays," since we wont be seeing each other for 3.5 weeks. We agreed to Monday afternoon. Part of me still wants to date this girl. I have found I like this girl when I actually date her. However, when I go 2 weeks without seeing her, I don't like her enough to start anything more with her. I honestly don't think we have spent much time together to either completely like or dislike each other. However, unless it gets any better than this, I would rather date someone else. How should I approach her with this?

I started dating this girl a month ago. However, even though we both go to the same college (40,000+ students), I can only manage to see her once or twice a week. For the first few weeks, we went out and it was fun. However, I was unable to go out with her this past weekend, which caused me to realize that if we don't see each other during the week or on the weekend, we wont see each other at all. I tried calling her on Monday and Tuesday, but I couldn't get a hold of her. I know she is not busy right now, since her only final is next Wednesday. So, I'm not sure if she is avoiding me or not, but I wouldn't know why she would (the last time I saw her was last Sunday [over a week ago] and the date ended wonderfully). I'm strongly considering breaking up with her because I don't want t date a girl I only see once a week or who is not willing to make time for me. However, if I can't get a hold of her, I have no way of talking to her casually. My only other option remains to visit her dorm, but I'm afraid this may be too imposing. I've been there twice before on dates. I'm not the kind of guy who leaves a "break up" letter on the door or a message on her voicemail, but if I can't get a hold of her, should I visit her dorm uninvited?

Note: My friend is naive for her age. She makes mistakes easily, and I've feared that guys will take advantage of her in college (I should mention that I am a guy). She IM'ed me last night and sounded really strange as if she was drunk. She told me directly that she cheated on her boyfriend. Now, here's the back story. Her boyfriend is the guy she took to prom. She always said it was anything serious and that she intends on breaking up with him at the end of the summer, but she hasn't done so yet. Last night, she told me that she met with a "guy friend." She then said that he likes to "educate" her (note: this guy friend is within 1 year of her age). She insists that they never had sex, but that they have kissed and cuddled. Again, she thinks she cheated and seems to feel somewhat bad for putting her boyfriend through this. She tells me that she's breaking up with him soon, but I don't she realizes that cheating is wrong. I've promised not to tell her boyfriend anything she told me, but I can't just forget about this and let her continuing doing the same thing. What can I do to convince her that what she had done is wrong, since I don't believe she thinks it is? My wost fear is that her cheating now will lead to her cheating when she is married. I don't want to do nothing, but I don't want to make her hate me.

I know this girl for many years now, and I've been fairly close friends with her over the past year. I've always had a little crush on her, but I've never been able to act on it because a friend of mine liked her (she didn't like him back though). Now that we're going off to two different colleges, I don't really want to start up a relationship that would be long distance. However, I am still curious if I ever had a chance with her. Is there any way I could find this out without jeopardizing our friendship?

I should have said that I dated someone else up until a month ago during the spring.

Yes, I do.

...even if I'm not sure if I want to start a relationship with her. I've known this girl for over three years and have been good friends with her for over a year. Off and on, I have considered on many occasions asking her out on a date, but I never really got around to actually doing it. Now, since we've both graduated from high school, we'll be both heading off to two different colleges that are about an hour apart this fall. I'm not really wanting a long distance relationship, but I would like to know if I ever had a chance with her. What I am considering asking her is basically this: "There is something that has been bugging me for a little while. I've always kind of liked you, but I know that in a little more than a month, we'll both be heading off to two separate colleges. So, basically what I'm asking is: 'If I had asked you out many months ago, what would you have said?'" Any advice? Thanks.

My ex and I briefly discussed possibly getting back together after some time (she is currently in a time-intensive music camp for the next month). I debated trying to get back with her after that. However, I have since decided against that. I decided that I wasn't truly happy with my ex, despite the things I liked about her. We rarely ever had any romantic moments. I decided that she isn't the girl for me. I'll admit it was hard for me at first, but I feel the only way I can really get over her is to get to know her again as friends. Last night, I went out with a few friends of mine and realized I still have a liking for a girl who went with us (I had a "crush" on this girl before going out with my ex). The main reason I want to be friends with her is that I graduated from high school in May and will be heading off the college. My ex and her best friend will be heading there and they are two of the few people I know from my high school going there.

See this topic for details about the break up: We briefly discussed seeing a concert in a month and simply hanging out after we broke up. How long should I wait before calling her about these? We ended our relationship peacefully, but I still want to be friends with her.

How do I maintain a good friendship with my ex? I still want to be friends with her, but how long should I give it before speaking with her again. After we broke up, we kind of made plans to see a concert that interests us both. The concert is in a month.

I talked with her today. Please see this thread:

This is kind of an extension of my original topic, . I'm sorry if you are offended by me making a new topic, but I am seeking advice in regards to this, specifically. Well, I talked with her today, and we decided to end it. We then kind of discussed some of the things we felt was wrong with our relationship. For the most part, we came to the conclusion that we never went out on a real date. We never had dinner together. After walking around that area for about 45 minutes, we went back to her house, so I could see her new computer. We then discussed and listened to music for about 30 minutes. Leaving her house, we kind of stopped and talked on her frontporch for a minute about hanging out just as friends and seeing if we go anywhere from there. I left giving her a hug and saying that I enjoyed some good times with her. She responded likewise. I have mixed feelings now. Part of me is sad to break up with her, but part of me is happy that we didn't end with a fight or hating each other. I think spending some time with her after breaking up really helped us reconnect as just friends. I do feel better. Today, I felt nervous/depressed since I didn't know what to expect, but now that it has happened, I feel a little better. Any advice? What an appropriate amount of time to wait before pursuing another relationship with someone else? Thanks.

I guess I'm afraid that she may not like a kiss.