TrappedScaredAlone

im not here to show my picture....ill just take it off if people are going to complain! jeesh

Yes I see people checking me out, but I have found all they want is a "piece of a s s" especially at my age! And I dont have a car, and the nearest "Coffee shop" is like 45 minutes away in a city. I live in a small town surrounded by small towns/small cities. SO yeah I'm SOL I guess (poop out of luck, haha) And usually when guys ask for my number and they call me, everytime they just want sex, nothing else. That's why Im asking for advice because I have had bad experiences with this kind of stuff already. Im sick of dating people who dont care what I have to say and I want someone who is into helping animals as I am. They should make a dating site for animal lovers or something, haha.

Nobody has really answer my question about how to approach strange guys that I think are attractive and how do i find out if their single or taken, interested in me or not, what kind of relationship their looking for because im not looking to just "hook up", etc.?

Well my inverted nipples dont come out at all but they are probably more sensitive then normal nippled people.

What are your future career plans? What are your life goals? I would focus on those future plans and goals or at least focus on working your way up towards those goals. Focus on the next step you need to take, whether it be 1 week down the road or 1 month or 1 year down the road! Focus on working towards completing that next step, and so forth. I have been through depression and I just got out of a long abusive relationship. I have NO friends and finally acquired a job after being jobless since Christmas, thereforeeee having nothing to think about except my abusive ex and feeling sorry for myself. All I did was exercise a lot, tried to keep my mind occupied as much as possible and focused on my life goals of one day opening up my own no kill animal sanctuary for horses, dogs and cats. Meanwhile, I have been active in animal advocacy and activism online by signing petitions, writing letters and passing the word on to others for these helpless animals! I check up on high kill animal shelters and try to spread the word for the animals who are on their last days before they are euthanized simply because there isn't enough room for them in the shelter. Anyways.....whatever you want to do for a career or whatever your life goals are....you can work towards them little by little right now in your everyday life! Good luck!

I do have cellulite on my thighs but I used this Nivea cream which really helped in the appearance of the cellulite. As for the spider veins and stretch marks....Ill just have to wear clothes that cover up my thighs as much as possible I guess!

So are you still smoking? How often/how much? Are you still drinking that same amount? I remember when I used to be able to stomach getting drunk weekly, every friday and saturday nights, the rest of the week I felt like crap (I overdid it all last summer and last fall, getting drunk every other day and now my stomach can barely handle getting drunk once a month).

Oh yeah, I will look into board shorts...but won't I have to look in the men's section?????? because I haven't seen those in the women's section but haven't really looked either??

I will never consider surgery for my inverted nipples. Although I did internet research it once, I was grossed out by the pictures and Im not one who would ever get plastic surgery or cosmetic surgery unless I got into a freak accident...so Im all set with that! I wouldn't be able to afford the laser for my spider veins...hello Im only 20!! Phoenix- Thats great you have a great boyfriend.....I have had some BF's who loved them and then had some that thought they were weird and barely touched them. Mine are extremely sensitive though! I think it's because they are inverted!? Thanks for the advice and the sharing, you made me feel not so alone!

Good day everyone, I was born with inverted nipples. I was wondering how uncommon this is and what people think of them? I am embarrassed when the day will come when I have a boyfriend again and the first time he sees them. I have had mixed reactions with different people and if I really like him I don't want to scare him away or weird him out or anything negative! Another problem I have is that I have spider veins on my thighs and stretch marks on my inner thighs. Any suggestions on how to get rid of these or at least lessen their appearance since bikini season is almost here? I would feel kind of dumb wearing shorts swimming....but what else could I do to cover my thighs up when Im swimming? I do have a bikini top that I wear with no problem. Thank you for your advice on my inverted nipples and my thighs issues!!!

Im ashamed to say this but I am glad to hear that 90% of women have it....where did that "fact" come from and what age group were they referring to? I am 20 and have cellulite as well. I was told it was from rapid weight gain and loss. I bought some cream to reduce the appearance of cellulite...but of course it is still there. I just started exercising recentely so hopefully it will get rid of some of it! I am terrified to get into a bikini My legs are really the most unattractive legs I have personally ever seen in someone my age I have spider veins, cellulite and their white as a ghost. Does anyone know anything to get rid of spider veins??? I was told I got those from rapid weight gain and loss also. Thanks!

It's alcohol most likely and not pot. All the people I know who smoke are upbeat, fun to be around people that use to to calm down and relax. I suppose if you smoke once every single day or more then once a day, then it could be bringing you down. But if you smoke a few times a week or less, than it shouldn't be anything to worry about. It also depends on how often your drinking and how much alcohol your drinking. Could you answer those questions and maybe I could help you more?

Who is Miss M budman? Does anyone know if there Is any websites that have advice for shyness?

Well we're done for good now. I think I deserve better than to be ignored for sluts walking down the street...to say the least. thanks everybody!

I feel the same way about someone I broke up with on February 22nd, 2006....like all the sad love songs I hear I think of him. I've even dated two people after him. I thought I was over him but he IM'ed me a couple weeks ago and I went and "talked" to him, and all those feelings came rushing back when I was in his arms again. I miss him so much but I know we can never be together again because I did something very bad to him, I cheated on him (long story but I thought we had broken up when I "cheated" on him) and now all his friends and family hate me. And needless to say he has no trust or respect for me at all now. But he told me he missed me so much that night a couple of weeks ago, and we made love and I try not to think of him so much but he always crosses my mind because I think he was my first true love. "Love is the best feeling in the world unless the one you love doesn't love you back, then it's the worst feeling in the world."

Thank you everyone for the advice.........any other advice because Im still confused. I want to make sure Im making the right decision. I don't love him but Im wondering why I still have all these feelings of annoyance and other stuff for him?

Hey everyone.....all this talk about bears? Im confused...haha but anyways.....anymore suggestions for shyness besides saying hi to random people? I dont have a car either

I have always been an extremely shy and quiet girl all of my life. It's just in my nature I guess. But I have improved a lot in my teen years, now I will be 21 next month. I had to improve to acquire and keep jobs and Ive been working since I was almost 14. My problem is, I have met most of my boyfriends online, because I am so so shy, I can easily type and get to know somebody as compared to going up to some stranger in public, asking if their single,trying to start a conversation with them without getting all red in the face!!! One of my major fears is rejection, and I can't read people's minds....so how the heck do I know if their single or not, if they find me attractive or not......etc....I don't know, I just found it much easier to review people's profiles online first and then decide if I want to contact them after checking them over without even having to talk to them!!! I really want advice on how to help overcoming my EXTREME shyness, I guess I do have a lot of insecurity because I am quite different, I have red hair, I get freckles and don't tan, I don't wear makeup, I have strawberry blonde eyelashes and eyebrows and fair skin. I am 5'4 and weigh about 130lbs....most girls I see that guys want are my height and weigh like 110 lbs. WHATEVER about the weight, but those are some of the reasons why I am insecure about myself. So how does one overcome shyness? Because I am really lonely and really wanna make friends. I don't have any friends, repeat I DO NOT have ANY friends because I got out of a long bad relationship last month where I wasn't allowed to have friends and all the ones I did have before then moved far away. So Im all alone and don't have friends to help me meet guys and overcome my shyness. Does ANYONE have ANY good, helpful advice to tell me how to overcome my shyness and meet guys I wanna go out with? I live in a small town in Maine, so that doesn't help much either. Thank you for listening!

Well you didnt have to be so rude....maybe if you read what I recentely got out of, three weeks ago, you would of been more understanding. Here it is:

Wow I really like your outlook and perspective on holding off on sex MAGGIE18. It is really hard these days, especially with me being such a nice, subsmissive, shy, quiet and sensitive girl I am. I think I get guys that take advantage of me or use me for sex, because I am vulnerable and guys see that. He never forces me to do anything though, which is nice, because he knows the crap I went through with my last (abusive & controlling) boyfriend. Im turning 21 next month and it is really hard to find a nice guy who doesn't wanna have sex right away, but it is even hard for me sometimes to control myself if I am really attracted to that person....you know hard to hold off on sex when you first meet them. But now that I think of it, it will be for the best and ensure that I won't end up with a guy who just wants me for sex. And if he is a great guy, when we finally do get to that stage of having sex, it will be incredible I bet! How long should I wait to have sex with someone? What is fair and practical for people my age do you think?

Hello everybody. PLEASE READ this WHOLE THING, I NEED ADVICE ASAP!!! I am hanging out, not dating but having sex with this guy for about 2 weeks now. You see we met in December 2004, dated until June 2005. We didn't see each other at all from the end of June 2005 until May 2006. I told him that I still loved him and he claims he is in love with me, still. Even since the first day we hung out after not seeing each other for so long, in May 2006, at the end of the night I was already getting annoyed by the way he laughs. It's like a forced fake laugh that really irritates me. I must sound mean or something, but Im really not and this surprises me why just this one person annoys me so much at little things he does. Things that probably come natural to him. The way he does things and says "ok" while he's doing it and UGH it just really in a way, disgusts me and turns me off. I don't know why I feel this way, it never bothered me when we were going out last year. Well we're not going out, but we tell each other we love each other and we occasionally have sex. He is really nice to me, maybe too nice, if that is possible? I think it might have something to do with that we are both Cancers(zodiac sign), which means we are both really sensitive. If I'm not laughing at everything he says, he always asks me if Im ok or whats wrong? It feels suffocating along with being really annoying. He always interrupts me when Im talking too. He always points out "sluts" and stares at them when girls are walking on the street. That REALLY gets to me. But my main problem is, why does his air laughs annoy me so much? It sounds like he's forcing out a laugh and then he blows out air after....It sounds kind of funny but it REALLY annoys the heck out of me and turns me off. All I can think of why he annoys me so much is I think he's too attentive to me at times like when I don't laugh at things he says he always thinks something is wrong and then when I try to talk to him, he interrupts me with "look at that S L U T" and when I say , "excuse me I was talking," he tells me to say it again but I hate repeating myself and Im tired of doing it ALL the time!! We never fight and we seem to get along, but I have been keeping all these annoyances inside of me and I don't think I have a right to tell him that I think the way he laughs is annoying, or the way he always says "ok" and "alrighty" while he's, let's say, cleaning tables....He'll spray down one table, say "ok", wipe it down with paper towels and say "alrighty" and do an air laugh and then do the same thing on the next table and so on. WHY does these little things annoy me soo much? I may not love him, but besides that, nobody else annoys me like that, it's just him and he is so nice to me except for the things I mentioned above that I don't like him doing which I've already talked to him about and he still does it. Well except for the pointing out and staring at "sluts" on the side of the street, as he calls them, I havent brought up that fact but I think him calling them "sluts" might just be an excuse so he can stare at them and check them out in front of me!? I can't stand when guys do that and he does it. I KNOW we're not dating, but if he really does love me, he shouldn't be staring as much as he does!!Especially since he always tells me how he thinks he's ugly and he supposedly thinks Im hot. It's mostly the little things he does that really annoy me. OH, another thing is everytime I try telling him the right way to do something or even if I try telling him what I've been told is right, he always insists that the way he knows is the right way, or whatever he says is always right. It's really frustrating. I have an idea of whats wrong here, we seem to just be more opposite then we were when we first dated, maybe growing apart is the right term? I just feel like he ignores me unless he wants sex from me...WHY are all the guys I've dated like this? Is it just the age or do I just attract the wrong kind of guy? The only things he ever wants to talk about are "sluts" on the side of the street as we're driving, or "sluts" on tv, or guns, or kicking people's butts, or his ex girlfriends, or having sex with me, or smoking cigarettes. THAT is ALL he talks about with me!!!!!!!!! Another thing, before we started seeing each other again, he lied to me and said he was quitting smoking cigarettes, he claimed he only smoked one every week or so, YA RITE. Then he changed it to smoking a pack a week and now he smokes at least 2 packs a week when Im around. He knows I HATE it but he still smokes around me. He doesn't call it lieing, he calls it "stretching the truth." Which is what he did just so I would come back with him and have sex with him. He told me he was only smoking one cigarette every other week and the more we talked about seeing each other again, he slowly changed it to more and more cigarettes until I hung out with him and really saw how much he is smoking. I just hate the fact that he had to lie to me just so he could get what he wanted. He claims he has no friends but he has strange numbers on his phone and he has access to a car, so I am pretty sure he is seeing somebody else. If he is or if he isn't, he is constantly talking about one of his ex girlfriends or another (he had like at least 10) EVERY DAY. Who wants to hear about that? definitely not me! I brought that up and he still talks about it. He always complains to me that he doesnt have any friends, but all day while we're driving around, he'll see like 5-10 people each day that he claims are his friends. I don't know if he has something wrong with him or what. But I need people's advice ASAP so I can figure out what Im going to do with this guy because I can't keep being this stressed out all the time! So what the heck is going on here and what should I do? Thank you all for your time, advice and support!

Hello everybody! I just wanted to let everyone know that today would make the third week since me and Rich(the abusive ex) have been broken up. I have decided that you need lots of time to heal from things like this, so I am just dating around for a while. I am not going to jump into another relationship until I feel completely comfortable and secure and safe and happy with that person. I am doing good, still applying for jobs, and getting more interest now that summer is practically here now!! I thank everybody again for listening, talking to me and giving advice and their support!!!!!! I would of most likely still of been in that very unhealthy relationship if it wasn't for all you great people! Take care everyone!

Im ok...I am so frustrated. It honestly seems that since I broke up with the abusive ex, everything has been going wrong and I have had such bad luck. Like he put a curse on me or something!! Seriously, I had much better luck when I was with him! I did not get the job, he hired somebody else It really stinks cuz I could easily rode my bike to work! It seems EVERY time I get my hopes up, nothing pulls through for me. I honestly have never felt this way before that I am cursed. My ex's religion is Wiccan and he has always had good luck. I know my parents keep telling me not to give up....but I am sick of NOT working!!! My parents won't let me borrow money to buy a car until I GET a job and then it's going to sit in the driveway until I pay them back in full. AHHH and there's only like 5 places around here that I could ride my bike too....Ive already applied at all of them and no luck!! I have a headache and am getting really fed up with this rut I have been in since I broke up with my abusive ex. I thought I was doing a good thing. IT's like God or someone is telling me I shouldn't of broken up with him cuz now everything's going to crap

Hey everyone! Im feeling much better. Although strangely enough, I keep having lucid dreams about my other ex, Tony, who treated me like gold but Im afraid he's gone forever because of what I did to him. I really can't blame him since I don't know if I could forgive someone who cheated on me either. But thats in the past now. I kinda like these dreams where everything seems real and I can have a conversation with him....since I don't talk to him anymore and I kinda wish I could. Well yesterday(Saturday) I had so much fun! I hung out with this guy named Jay that I went out with before, I havent seen him since June 25th, 2005! I forgot how hilarious he is and happy he makes me! I haven't been that happy or laughed that much probably since I went out with Tony in January 2006. It was a great relief to get out of the house and hang out with someone else besides my family for the first time since me and Rich broke up! We had so much fun together, with all the huge puddles from all the rain and driving, we went to the mall(he hadn't been since july 2005), went to mcdonalds (hey we're not going out lol), went to newbury comics, looked at the ocean, sat in a flooded out parking lot (lol) and played thumb wars and had a poking/tickling contest. oh yeah lol it was bunches of fun! i think i am ready to move on and im glad i had about a week to recover and get back on my feet. I wasn't sure If I still loved him because I hadnt seen him in SO long, but I could definitely feel my feelings coming back for him the more i hung out with him. We listened to country music together...rich hated country music and would complain everytime i listened to it and made fun of it. So that was a treat lol. WELL just wanted to give ya an update on that haha.

Did you have similar feelings as Im having when you found out that your ex started dating shortly after you guys broke up? But I doubt it was as shortly after as my ex has started dating. The first DAY after we broke up, his profile was back online with girls wanting him almost immediately. He's not even that attractive, once they get him naked they might be scared off though........he has huge bad stretch marks all over his stomach, many other scars, rotting teeth(holes in them) and lots of scars from pimples all over his body....but whatever that really doesnt matter, i was dating him for his personality and the memories we made together and that kind of stuff......... But I do believe he belongs in jail...he has a very unstable hot temperament but he can be charming and very sincere in the beginning. He is even on probation right now for terrorizing a 17 year old.....he could go to jail for possessing alcohol or pot...and he has both, his dad even deals! I dont know why he has such good luck...I simply JUST DO NOT GET IT!!! ARGHHHH sooo much frustration and I cant leave the house, this really sucks! ](*,)