sasky101

If you need to ask other people about which guy to date...neither of them are right for you right now.

he's training to be a police officer and saw some bad stuff this weekend..(I don't know if thats everything bothering him, but part) I called him back and we talked a bit and it was good.

He just contacted me...he called but I was out, so he left a message saying sorry if he was being grumpy, just stuff is bothering him lately but I didn't do anything at all.

He's 20 and I'm 18

So the story is...I met this guy, we totally hit it off and have been talking and hanging out ever since. We both work crazy hours though, and this last weekend we didn't see eachother or talk much. The thing is, we always always always send eachother emails to say have a good day etc etc. In fact, on thursday he sent me a major one and he was acting so into us, wanting me to find out next weeks schedule so we can plan times to hang out etc. Being very flirtatious. He was so into us...like we talked every spare chance we got. He worked nights all weekend and I didn't hear from him at all after thursday. So i just thought that he must have had a busy weekend and sent him a text message saying have a good day etc etc and he replied with "ok thanks" If this had been last week he would have said you too or miss talking to you etc etc. By this time I know somethings up...but here's the thing I still don't know what it is. We talked and he's acting all friendly....but thats it. I told him my schedule and he said "well thats good you have some days off" but not a thing about hanging out or anything. So I asked what was up and he said nothing. But I know its not true. A girl can take a hint. The vibe is completely different. He has quick one word answers and is being very distant. it kills me not to know why. Even one of our mutual friends thinks someone must have said something or done something because of how quickly he went from a to b. I'm so lost right now. Do I just leave him alone? Its such a slap in the face...I wanna ask him, but I don't wanna pry. Any advice would be appreciated and sorry so long...I'm just frustrated and hurt

I don't think he's with me just to have sex. We've been together 2 months already. He told me to wait until I was ready, even if that wasn't with him. Its just i don't know, he says heartfelt meaningful things to me and then jokes it off and tells all his friends. Maybe thats the "manly" thing to do? :S

So most of you probably don't remember me posting a while back about this guy. Anyway, me and the guy are now together. He has a past. He's been with a lot of women in his day. But regardless, his past is his past and we are giving it a shot. The thing seems to be that all of the people that wanted us together are now trying to break us apart. Two of my good guy friends in particular. My guy says its because they like me and are trying to put a wedge in between us, +but I can't help but wonder. The things they have been telling me have really been bothering me. Like one of them says that my guy was laughing and telling him "she's a virgin and I'm pretty sure she's saving it for me...dude if I scored with her, that would be like my fifth virgin ever." Like wow thats a blow and a half. I could go on telling you more stories and such, but I won't. its just when I ask him about it he completely denies it and acts hurt that they said it. He's really good friends with them all too and it just seems like friendships are being ruined. I don't know what to do. is this worth it, should I listen to my guy? I want to...I don't know. Sask~

"Probably. its a little different though i think." How so?

You don't know what to do? Well for starters don't lead him on at all, try your best not to...because trust me if you're having doubts or reservations there's usually a reason as to why.

Age:18 Gender: Fem 1. How many relationships have you had? 2 2. How many times have you been in love? none 3. How long was your longest relationship? What went wrong in the relationship? Oh gosh here we go...it lasted 3 months. I have commitment issues ok? We had commited too fast and didn't really know eachother. 4. How short was your shortest relationship? What went wrong in the relationship? 2.5 months. It was long distance, we didn't want to put the effort into it. 5. Are you currently in a relationship now? How is it going? No...but I'm in the pre-relationship stage. And I'm already getting nervous about commiting... 6. Have you ever been engaged? How many times? nope 7. Have you ever been married? Are you still married? How many times? What went wrong in the marriages? Do you ever want to be married? never been married, but would want to 8. Do you have any kids? How many? Do you even want kids? don't have kids yet, but its my calling 9. How many of your ex's have dumped you? Why do you think they dumped you? None 10. How many have you dumped? Why? All of them. because like I said, I have issues. 11. If you can change one thing about yourself, what would it be? To just go with the flow... 12. If you can choose one quality in a man/woman,what would it be? Honesty 13. What is the worse thing a man/woman can do in a relationship? Lie, or cheat 14. Whats more important, looks or personality? Personality 15. Describe your ideal life partner. Not sure yet, if I knew things could be different. 16. What is one thing you regret and can take back? No regrets; just lessons learned. 17. Are you a virgin? If yes do you think you lost it too young or too old? If no when do you want to lose your virginity? Yes I am, and really its because I haven't found anyone worthy of losing it too. 18. Have you ever had a one night stand? How many? Would you ever do it again? no 19. Finish this sentence: Love is____________________________ Something society has made people believe...but then again, maybe its because I'm not in love? 20. Where do you see yourself in 10 years? I don't like looking that far ahead

Its just...as much as I really like this guy, she's my girl. Although I must admit she's done this before with liking my bfs...and I stay with her rather than them. hm...I think I may have just answered my own question here?

But do you think my friendship with her is over? or could it work?

Ok, so heres the deal: Went drinking with my friend and my crush and a bunch of other ppl. That day i spent the entire day talking to my friend about my crush going on and on...basically spilling out my heart and deepest thoughts. When we got there though, she went like nuts. She was completely all over him and yeah it was bad. He went outside for a sec with me, but I went to get a drink inside. When I walked outside I could tell something was up. He grabbed me and said "we need to talk" yadda yadda and explained that she had kissed him etc. Not only do I feel betrayed by my friend (one of my best) but all of these outside people are telling me that he had to be giving her signals etc for her to do that and usually you can see when its coming. Problem is...she won't let the idea of him go, she likes him now and is telling everyone he likes her too..he says he likes me and not her. Is this worth it...for a guy??? I can't believe she did this and is continuing to do this and won't stop. ahh I hate people. Confused...any advice will help

Hey, thanks for the advice. I guess I'll just see what happens and go with the flow. I'll keep you posted.

Can you guys give me some advice? I wrote earlier saying how the guy I was almost with, but not quite with i really experienced. Well today at work one of the ladies that works there took me aside and told me not to date him. She said he would make a great friend, but he's a man- * * * * * and I'm too sweet to get caught up in that. I talked to some of my friends at work who have known him for a long time, and they said that he does have a past with a lot of girls, but that with me its different and that he actually, truly likes me. I mean me and him have talked about this a little bit. He said that he has his past and that he hopes I give him a chance etc. My question is...how do I know? I mean I know we all make mistakes and stuff, but what if I'm just another knotch on the belt? Is there any way to tell? Thanks, and sry so long... H

Me and this guy have known eachother for about a month now, we work together and stuff. Here's my question though. We both like eachother, we've talked about that. The thing is he's been pretty sexually experienced in the past if you catch my drift. I on the other hand, haven't. Pretty much the biggest virgin out there. ok, not that bad...but just making things clear. I'm just worried that he'll have all of these expectations right away. Not that I'm not willing, I just don't want our relationship to be based on that. Do I tell him I'm inexperienced or not? Any advice?