remi0378

I would like to see what you all think about this one. I'm torn between two guys (who are currently both my friends with the potential to become boyfriend). I click better with Guy A (in terms of personality and conversation) and am also more attracted to him than Guy B. So personally I would go for Guy A (if the world were perfect that is). But when it comes down to it, Guy B cares about me much more than A does, and already treats me like I'm the center of his world even though we're not really dating yet. Besides, Guy B has always been there for me, and my friends too, since the very beginning. To top it off, Guy B seems to be much more of a relationship material, and has all the qualities that I think are necessary to make a relationship work long-term. I could definitely imagine myself falling for Guy B if I were to open my heart to him, even though right now I'm into Guy A more. Anyway, figure I should say some things about Guy A as well. He is sometimes irresponsible and undependable; he has also been getting into trouble off and on at school lately. Also, one more thing, though A cares about me, it doesn't seem that he has the capacity to be completely selfless & could never be there for me unconditionally the way B already has. That's all I have guys, would appreciate hearing what you all think. Should I go with Guy A or B?

I've been seeing a guy recently. Though we haven't had "the talk" about officially being a couple, we're technically exclusive as neither he or I sees anyone else. We both enjoy each other's company very much as there is always a lot of chemistry present between us. Everything is great except for the fact that he doesn't seem to be a very considerate person sometimes. He never calls when he says he'll call & makes promises that he doesn't end up keeping! When I do confront him about these things, he'll always say something along the lines of forgetting or being too pre-occupied with other things. Now I can be forgiving about these things once or twice, but he is consistently flaky & always ends up making excuses. I'm so torn over this situation. On one hand, I like him very much as we have a lot of chemistry which can probably take us to the next level, but at the same time, there is a voice in me that says I shouldn't put up with his constant flakiness despite his seemingly sincere apology and promise to change. And talking to him hardly changes anything as a leopard is hard to change his spots! So what do you guys think? Am I just too demanding here? Is he being flaky because he's really not interested enough? Should I just walk away?

Is a friendship or relationship worth it if only one person does all the work to keep it going? I guess the answer is obvious from a logical standpoint, but then things don't always have to be dried cut & clear when it comes to human interactions, do they? Say you have friends that you care about, and you all always have a great time together & are fairly close, but it seems that the other people don't put much effort into maintaining the friendship. To be more specific, let's say that you're always the person who calls and writes to check in, take the initiative to plan all the hang out activities, etc and your friends don't do much of any of this..In fact, if say you were to stop doing any of this stuff for them, then it's unlikely that you'll hear from them again, at best it will be a long time before you will hear from them. I enjoy these people's company, but sometime I wish the friendship was not so one-sided. But then I really can't say that they're using me, because they've never outright expected me to do any of this stuff, but I chose to do so anyway because I just care and wanted to be a good friend to them. What should I do about this situation? Should I leave these people or attempt to confront them about it? If confronting is the way to go, what would be the best way to do so? Does this problem call for ending the friendship or can it be overlooked? since everyone's got some bad traits or others, and maybe these people are just not the caring / sensitive type even though they're good people and fun to hang out with. Maybe I'm just more sensitive than them about these things?

Your situation sounds EXACTLY like my situation with my ex. He broke up with me a little over 2 yrs ago, but I've never been able to let him go completely..After all, I always thought that he was the man that I would end up with for the rest of my life. To make a long story short, I tried the same things that you had tried, being friends with him with the hopes of becoming bf/gf again some day. Over the course of the last 2 yrs, I'd say that I initiated friendship at 3 different times, each time he would come back to me "as a friend", but then would cut me out of his life cold-turkey for no reason after being "friends" with me for a month or two. I think that our ex's can really see through our motives of wanting to be friends with them. Anyhoo, cutting to the chase, I miss him terribly now and would really just like to be his Friend Only..nothing more. Despite my genuine intention of just wanting to be his friend this time, I still don't think that he can entertain any friendship with me b/c of what happened the previous times..Looks like letting go is the only way to go from here on. sigh..Anybody out there got advice for me too?

I have trouble making friends in a new city. I've been here almost 7 months now, but haven't made any real friends, let alone make any romantic connection. I do try to go out quite often, social events, mixers, etc , but haven't been able to really become friends with anyone. All too often I would meet someone at these events, exchange numbers, but then afterward we either go separate ways, or maybe hang out once or twice (at most) after the initial meeting, but after that the connection just wears off. I feel as if everyone already has a clique or a social circle that they travel in, and they don't need, or just not willing, to make friends with a stranger. By the way, I consider myself to be a nice, friendly, social person, and have never had any trouble getting to know people before..until I've moved to this new city..and everything is just frustrating!! Any advice on how I can improve my situation would be great! Also, do you advise getting in touch with acquaintances that I've only met one time? My experience, as I've mentioned before, is that I would initiate contact after the event / initial meeting (we both exchange #'s), and they either don't return my call/email or meet up with me once after that, and that's it..As for the people from the clubs that I join, we only socialize at the club gatherings, but outside of that they have their own families to tend to while I am still single..Why does it have to be so hard?!

I have a huge crush on a local singer, who happens to be Indian (as myself). It must have been my lucky day when I was at this Indie restaurant for dinner & he just happened to be performing a live gig there that nite. I got to talk with him for a few minutes during his break, and at the end of the nite, I had my friend slipped him my contact info..(I was too nervous to do it myself, and yes, I had my name on the piece of paper so he'd know for sure it was mine) He actually added me onto his fan list to receive info regarding his performance schedules, so I had been receiving this info regularly. I also wrote to him personally a few times just to compliment his singing & music, and he wrote back everytime to say thanks. I'd really like to get to know him personally, but I'm just not getting any signal that he wants the same..Anyhoo, cutting to the chase, I actually wrote him 3 times recently & got no response back!! It's also no coincidence that I also stopped getting the email announcements of his performance schedule. I'm just pissed off about him cutting me off like that all of a sudden!! considering that I've been nothing but loyal & supportive of him. And no, I wasn't one of those aggressive fans who spammed his inbox with 10 msg a day, more like 2 or 3 times a week as it used to be. Thanx for listening to my ranting..I just needed to vent though. Do u guys think that this guy is cold & rude? Have I been deluding myself all this time about actually having a chance to get to know him & maybe taking things a little further? I'm just a teenager, and u know how a crush can feel like it's taking over ur life sometimes

Has any of you out there ever gone to a psychic for love advice? How was the experience? More importantly, how accurate were their predictions, especially those that deal with love/relationships? I went to two different psychics recently & got different predictions regarding a certain topic from both of them..Interestingly enough, neither of their predictions has come true. Just thought I get everyone's opinion on whether there might be some grain of truth / accuracy to psychic reading, or is it all just a big waste of time and money.. One thing I don't understand is how they're able to tell me about events that happened in the past to some degree of accuracy, but can't do as good of a job with future predictions..

Quick question--Say you went on a 1st lunch date with a guy last Friday, how long should one usually have to wait before hearing from him again (if he does decide to contact again..) Date had a casual, friendly feel to it--there was an attraction, but not sure if we were compatible in terms of having similar interests or personality types.. Also, should a woman ever contact a guy after the 1st date (under any circumstances)? I'd especially like to have a male opinion on this question..