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I would be a bit turned off if the guy asked me out on a date msn....I would feel that it was a bit disrespectful like what? I'm not wortha phone call? Dude! Pick up the phone and call her! Start this off on the right foot!

Calling all guys!!! Is there any sure fire way to test a guy to see if he acts a certain way around a girl b/c he is shy or not interested? How can you tell if avoiding eye contact or avoiding the girl altogther or being nervous and uncomfortable around a girl is b/c he is shy or just not interested? TIA!!!!! You guys are the best!

How do I know what is considered a "shy glance"? I initiated a conversation with a guy who could not look at me , would look down the whole time except for one second when he turned his head and peeked at me with this little smile and than trurned back to his floor. Is that a shy guy or one who is just not interested?

Well, the reason i got frustrated is b/c i was still trying to figure out if he really was shy. I mean he only was around me,I know he's had girlfriends and when he's liked a girl in the past he goes and asks her out but so why all the games and excuses with me?

Dude, you must calm down. Take a breather and relax b/c if the girl is picking up on any of these intense vibes, she'll run like the wind. Just take it easy and let things happen...

Ok, listen...there is just way too much mind games here. Not very fair to you...if you like her just come out and say it to her and if she says ok i like you too than great and if not than leave her alone and don't piss her off any more than you already have...You've been really giving it a good try and she doesn't seem to be helping you out at all. She's sounds like either she's confused or not interested b/c I'm shy but I would never throw a note a guy gave me who i liked. Thats just not nice and I think you deserve a lot better.

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A guy was really bugging me to go out with him,I mean really and I kept saying no b/c I couldn't see myself being attracted to him but than I caved in and we ended going out for a month. My attaction to him grew from a 3 to 6 out of 10 but not enough to warrant going out with him much longer...having sdaid that I know a lot of my friends for whom attraction really built by learning more about the guys personality so yes, it could happen.

Kevin, you are awsome...an inspiration to us all...keep us all up to date..I'm dying to know how it goes!

Kyoshi _DO SOMETHING DAMNIT!!!! She is maybe getting annoyed that you haven't done anythinh yet and yet and never will and she is starting to back away..been there and done that!!! NO REGRETS ,MAN!!!!

So last week, I was at a party and went over to shy guy who gave off signals that he liked me and I started talking to him to which he didn't make any eye contact at all except for one quick shy glance and than excused himself and turned away for a second . At this point my insecurities overcame me and I felt rejected that he turned away and quicky left and ran to the opposite side of the room. I saw him again recently and he seemed a bit less warm than usual and than I was standing talkiing to a guy friend (he likes me and was flirting a bit with me but i'm not so into) and Shy Guy comes and sits near us all by himself not talking to anyone and not looking too happy...I went over to him after and said hi and he said hi back but with no warmth and i walked away... Whats with him? Does he like me? Or just not into me? I would maybe be a bit braver if I could understand whats going on in his head...Thanks in advance...you guys have been great!!!!

Tell me if this makes sense...if a guy is not interested in you, and you come over and talk to him, he will look at you a bit 20% and 80% of the time be scanning the room as if he is bored, if a guy likes you but is shy he will look at you 5% if your lucky and at the floor 95% of the time. Does this make sense? I'd also like your input on how much eye contact a shy guy can actually make when he is around a girl he likes...Thank you!

Thanks so much guys!!!!! Until the next installment.....

Soooooo......if shy guys can't make eye contact and run away from girls they like how do guys act when they are not shy but just not that into you? How can a girl know the difference?

Still on the shy guy topic.... what does it take a girl to do to make a shy guy approach her and relax more? Especially if they run away when you approach them? Thank you!!!!!

i agree with brahman.. but .balls in her court now , you put yourself out there and asked her out, she knows you are interested, its her turn to maybe ask you out or inform you she is single or not...good luck!

Well, he did walk past me afterward and said some offhand remark to the person standing next to me..but i was just so embarrassed i didn't acknowledge him and besides, he didn't say it to me...any more opinions? By the way, you guys are great..thanks you for helping me figure this out/

Shy guys, please help!!! I like a guy who i thought was shy (eye contact from afar but not up close, hanging around my vicinity but not able to talk to me). Anyways, I decided to start a conversation with him tonight and he got all flustered and wouldn't look at me and gave me these short answers and than he said "....." and turned away to get something to eat at which point i felt stupid and turned away myself and went to the other end of the room. Shy guys: have you ever run away from the girl you like when she approached you or should i just assume he doesn't like me?

Here's the sit. You like a girl but never made a move b/c you are both too shy..you start dating a different girl who u don't like as much but is less nervewracking for u to be with..while you are with her, your crush tells u she likes u and asks u out..you are completely caught iff guard and tell her your seeing someone...she is humilated and avoids you completely...a month goes by, you and the girl break up..here's the question: What do you do about the girl you had a crush on? Do you try to apprach her or do you you figure forget it she's never want to go out with u now? What would u do?

Honey, when he bumped into you he most definitely knew u were there - he is shy and has no idea how to get into contact with u, he is awkward b/c he likes you!!!! Make it easy on the poor guy and start a conversation with him, helo him feel at ease...let us know what happens!

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