floridaguy

My wife ignores the problem. I think she doesn't even care about our sex life at all anymore. I have told her to see a doctor and shown her websites that discuss similar problems but she acts uninterested. She doesn't think a lack of sex as that big of a problem. I hope the drugs will reduce my libido so this will help me with my constant frustration I feel.

Does anyone else feel like they are losing it after not having sex for awhile? Hello everyone. I am 37 and my wife is 43. We have been married for 4 years with 2 small children 2 and 3. Our sex life was fantastic the year before we were married but soon after she became pregnant and things have been steadily worse since then. After our first was born we had sex for a few weeks and she became pregnant again. Since our second child was born our sex life is almost non-existant. She keeps telling me its not me and it is something medically wrong with her desire to have sex. She keeps putting off going to the doctor for one reason or another. Her latest appoiintment is in June if she does finally go. In late march we went on a week long cruise with just us together. She told me it would be a great time to rekindle our marriage. We had sex a few times and it was very awkward and then she said it was that time of the month. She has had problems with dryness and she didn't let me please her with my hand or orally. Since then it has been back to normal. I have had sex 4 times with my wife in the last 2 years. After our trip she said I didn't perform very well sexually. No kidding since I haven't had sex in so long maybe I was out of practice. I have become very depressed because of this and keep my feelings and emotions locked up inside. I have told her I want to be more intimate and I miss holding her and kissing her not just the sex but she doesn't seem to care. I find myself like I am going to lose it any day now. I made a doctors appointment to get some medication for depression. Hopefully this will make me feel better and take some of the pain and anxiety away. I should be on med by wednesday this week. I think she is depressed as well but doesn't do anything about it. If it wasn't for our kids I would have been gone long ago. I have thought about cheating just for sex but haven't yet. Sometimes I feel so desperate and lonely. Our communication is a big problem we both don't share our feelings very well. We usually have sexual conversations through email. We argue sometimes over stupid things. She refuses to even give a hand job anymore. I don't even try to make a move on her because whenever I try its always an excuse. Usually the tv is on and she is busy watching it. We moved to florida 3 years ago and we haven't met anybody at all. My wife works at home and I just work with a few people at work. We haven't met any true friends yet. I have read all the posts on this website for sexless marriages and it has helped me greatly to see i'm not the only one or to suffer through this situation. I guess I'm just venting since I don't really discuss this with anyone else. Any suggestions or advice would be appreciated. I feel like i'm going insane. Thanks everyone.

heavensent, I have had experience with both sides of your situation. My exgirlfriend tried to initiate sex with me but I turned her down because I didn't love or want her anymore which is different from your situation. I wouldn't worry about one night to much he might have been tired. Now I am married and my wife never initiates sex and I am turned down so much it is driving us apart. We have had sex 3 times since August. I just thought I would share some of my experiences. Your boyfriend is a LUCKY guy. You please him even if your tired or not. I would love my wife to just please me somehow even if she is to tired or not.

Your a beautiful woman. There are a lot of guys who would love to go out with you. Don't give up. It will get better with time.

I think he's only interested in having sex with you. Especially if he keeps talking sexually to you. Thats what I did in the past anyway.

I have been married for 3 years with 2 young children our sex life is now nonexistent and have been thinking about cheating. So I can understand if he just wanted sex.