Dogg

I feel for you completely. I more or less heard those words disguised as "I feel that something is missing." She never came right out and said that she didn't love me anymore, in fact she said the opposite, said that she needed time to figure things out, low and behold , I have not seen her once since she broke up with me. Everyday I ask myslef what happened for her to feel this way after being together for three years, but of course it is to no avail. I may never really know the truth. you should not question yourself in any way is something that I have learned, it is our ex's that have the problem for whetever reason they may have it, it is their issue not ours. I know that it is much easier to say that than it is to actually believe it, I too struggle with that thought every day. Believe me, you did all that you could, we can not make our ex's love us the way that we loved them, it just doen's work that way.

thnxs lil punkin, I am alot better than I was a few weeks ago, I think that the last couple of days I just "fell off the wagon" a little bit due to the anniiversary thing. Again, I will say that I am glad that I wrote her the email that I did (see previous posts on this thread), if nothing else, it will give me closure that I thiink that I needed if she does not respond which again, I am not expecting her too. like someone mentioned in earlier posts, if after what i wrote to her, she does not feel something, anything at all then maybe I do not want to be with this person anyway as hard of a realizatin as that may be because if she is that cold hearted that after three years she feels nothing for me and for us and can not look at all of the good that we had together over all that time then screw her, I deserve better and I am on the path to possibly discovering that "better" with this new girl that I have been seeing. I have talked with her (new girl) about wanting to take things slow becauseI have just gotten out of a pretty tumultous three year relationship recently and although I could tell that she was a bit unneasy about that she had no choice but to agree to9 try to move slowly. I don't know how things will pan out, what I do know is that i am OK with knowing that I took one final shot with my ex by writing that email and laying my cards on the table one last time so to speak. Nothing she can do can hurt me anymore than what she has already done so in that aspect I am safe. again, I'm curious to see if she will respond to the email, and what if anything she will say, but I am not letting that anticipationo ruin me, in fact, I don't really anticipate anything. If I get no response from her, then I can finally tell myself that its time to move on and do whatever it takes to forget as impossible as that may be. thanks to all for your support, I would not have made it through any of this if not for you all, and for that I will be forever greatful! I'm still treading in deep water, but I have the confidence now that I can and will eventually make it back to shore!

poco, I am a pretty good writer, its one of the things that I went to school for, that is the way that I am best at expressing myself, I feel that it gives me the time I need to fully process thoughts rather than just opening the flood gates of my mind and heart and letting the words flow freely from my mouth, when I do that I have atendency to trip over words. Anyway, my ex knows that I am much better at writing than I am at speaking so again, I hope what I wrote is and will forveer be appreciatred by her as it was so very heartfelt, but I do not know as I have not received any response.....yet?..........

thnx annie I too hope that she appreciates it because it took a lot for me to express those feelings to her once and for all, especially knowing that this could be the very last time that I ever have any contact with her at all forever. WOW, thats hard to think about....never again.....but that is the way that it will have t be if she does not respond with something of good faith becaue I can not do this anymore.

thnx ocrob, yeah, I'm sure that I could have written pages upon pages of sh*t, but it would have all been pretty much the same things. I think that what I wrote to her says it all in not so many words and I think that the way in which that I put things sounded really good and semi-romantic and extremely heartfelt, which it all was. I have not yet received a response from her, adn I'm not sure that I ever will, but at the same time, it was never my intention or expectation that I would get a response. again, I just had things and thoughts to get off of my chest. If she is that heartless adn feels nothing for me and for us and chooses to ignore my letter, then I know once and for all that this is truly over and that I must move on, if she does resoind, then I'll have to take it from there but as of right now, I'm just looking to rid myself of these reoccurring feelings of heartbrokenness for her. I said what I needed/wanted to say, there is nothing more that I can do or say to her to let her know how I feel, it is on her once again. I am moving on, yet still in a way hoping for the best but expecting and anticipating nothing. keep me in your thoughts, as I have all of you in mine....happy holidays to all!

like i said earlier, I hope that this just makes her think a little bit about the good times. I sent it for no other reason than to comliment her adn tell her once and for all just how I feelo about her and the relationship we had (sob)! I have told myself that this is it, if she has any heart at all she will feel something, I do not expect a response, but of course would like and appreciate one. If she does not respond, then i must tell myself once and for all that this is over because I have been doign so well lately and just had a major slip up over the last two days due to this "anniversary" thing. if she does not respond, so be it, its done. I just had to get things off my chest and tell her exactly what she truly means and meant to me and that I will always have a place for her in my heart.

thnx again lady bug, I hope that she can see the good in it also and that it brings a smile to her face and at least makes her think a little bit. thats all I've got for now, I'll keep ya'll posted

thanks lady bug, that is and was my only intention, to try to touch her heart in some way even if it be from afar because she has touched my life in so many ways even if now she has also hurt me soooo much. What hurts me the most and has the entire duration of the breakup is that after three years nd so much love between us both, that she for whatever reason just cuts off all contact completely. that is something that i will never understand.

poco, if you think of it that way, I guess that it may have been selfish, but I wrote and sent that email to her for more than just to make myself feel better. I truly do love her with all my heart and I wanted to let her know that I am thinking about her on what would have been a special day. A part of me knows that maybe I did not tell her how much I appreciated her when we were together, I really don't think that anyone who would read what i wrote could take it as anything less than a major compliment to her. I hope that in some way, it makes her happy to know that she has had such a profound effect on my life, and that she is so very special to me. Hopefully, it makes her feel good! On the other hand, if, like you mentioned above she does have a new boyfriend and he sees this and gets mad...GOOD!!!! but I do not think that that is the case, nor do I actually care if it is. I hope that I did not make her upset in any way becvause that was in no way my intention, I actually just wanted to tell her that she means the world to me, and that i do truly care. I just want her to be happy.....

well, I knowingly went against everyones advice and wrote her an email, a well thought out and well constructed email that says all that I wanted to express. Writing it brought tears to my eyes more than you could imagine, but at the same time, I feel that a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Maybe you think I'm an idiot, maybe not, but I feel that this will make it easier for me to move on if that is the case which I think that it is. also, if she ever had any questions about what I was feeling or thinking she won't now. I said what I said, sent the email, I expect nothing in return so I'll post it here so everyone can read my heartache and throw thir opinions my way: XXXXX, I awoke today thinking of you. I remember what today is, and even though it may mean nothing in the grand scheme of things, it will always mean something to me. Today I am flooded with all of the memories of you and my heart swells. I will forever cherish the time that we spent together and look back on it as one of the best times in my life because I got to spend nearly three years with such a wonderful, caring person, whom I loved so very much and would have given the world and more to make happy. I sit here now, filled with thoughts about what might have been if I had done things differently, that maybe, just maybe, we could be as one, the way that it should, the way that it was. XXXXX, through thick and thin, through good and bad, throughout almost three years you never ceased to amaze me. I never lost that feeling that I had in the beginning of our relationship when I knew that I loved you and that I was in love with you, that feeling of butterflies in my stomach. I had that feeling everytime that I was near you. I will never forget you XXXXX, for nearly three years you were my everything, you stole my heart, you gave me all your love and devotion and for that I will be forever greatful! You showed me what real, undying love and devotion truly is and I hope that I expressed those feeling to you. I had to tell you this XXXXX, I don't know why other than the fact that I love you with all my heart and always have! I hope that you got the birthday card that I dropped off for you and the message from Streets who misses his mommy dearly. I hope that you have a wonderful Christmas and a fullfilling new year as I know that it is your favorite second only to the fourth of July! I send my best to your family and my love to your mother and father whom I miss more than you could ever know. I hope that everything is ok with your dad and the transit strike as I am sure that is stressful for you all. Just know XXXXX, I am thinking of you, and that December 20th will always be a special day for me. Love always, Dogg there it is. I think that it is beautifully written and says everything that I could ever want to say. I have nothing left......

I get what you all are saying, but I still feel that htere is just so much unspoken stuff I have in side me. I have been in NC for a while now asside from the b-day card, and your right in that she has not made an effort to contact me, but I love her, miss her and feel like I need to tell her how I feel even if it is in not so many words. I think that I may send a simplpe email to her today saying that: Today I am thinking of you, and I know you know why. love always, XXXXX what do you think

well, today is the day, our "would be anniversary". I am thinking about laying on thew line once and for all. Putting all of my feelings out there in a nicely written email. I will more or less state that since I hav the feeling that she just does not care anymore, and since she has not had any contact with me in however long, that this would be a good time to say that I have done all that I can to show her that I love her and how much she means to me, up to and including giving her her space when she asked for it. I will let her know that I have been thinking of her a lot, but at the same time I have been moving on. I am just giving this one more shot, on the day that started it all. I miss her and that I love her and always will but that I can not go on holding on to hope that is apparently getting me nowhere. today has always meant a lot to me, and I know now that it always will no matter what. I want you (her) to have a very good christmas and a happy new year and know that she will be in my heart throughout. that is basically it. I have tears in my eyes after just writing this to you all. fi nayone has anything to add, suggest or correct I am all ears. also, any suggestions as to things to say otherwise or things to wriet or how to write them would be much appreciated as well. I ma not sure whether or not I will actually do this or write this, but I have come to the point in which I more or less need to know for myself whether or not to fully give up hope of ever getting her back in my life. I know that in many ways, her lack of contact with me speaks volumes and the things that she stated in the beginning of our breakup should be enough, but maybe I am just a glutten for punishment and need one last final kick in the nuts to set me straight. I will say that I have not been sleeping well since sunday, adn that this is one of the hardest days that I have had in a while for whatever reason. My chest is tight, my heart is broken, but at the same time, I feel nothing....but pure emptyness. Dave, my christmas wish fi I had to choose just one, would be to have noone ever have to go through the pain and agony of loving someone so deeply that apparently doe snot love you in return. If anyone at all has something in mind that may better hlp to express my feeliungs in such a way that would still leave the door open, I wuld really appreciate it! one love! __________________

well, today is the day, our "would be anniversary". I am thinking about laying on thew line once and for all. Putting all of my feelings out there in a nicely written email. I will more or less state that since I hav the feeling that she just does not care anymore, and since she has not had any contact with me in however long, that this would be a good time to say that I have done all that I can to show her that I love her and how much she means to me, up to and including giving her her space when she asked for it. I will let her know that I have been thinking of her a lot, but at the same time I have been moving on. I am just giving this one more shot, on the day that started it all. I miss her and that I love her and always will but that I can not go on holding on to hope that is apparently getting me nowhere. today has always meant a lot to me, and I know now that it always will no matter what. I want you (her) to have a very good christmas and a happy new year and know that she will be in my heart throughout. that is basically it. I have tears in my eyes after just writing this to you all. fi nayone has anything to add, suggest or correct I am all ears. also, any suggestions as to things to say otherwise or things to wriet or how to write them would be much appreciated as well. I ma not sure whether or not I will actually do this or write this, but I have come to the point in which I more or less need to know for myself whether or not to fully give up hope of ever getting her back in my life. I know that in many ways, her lack of contact with me speaks volumes and the things that she stated in the beginning of our breakup should be enough, but maybe I am just a glutten for punishment and need one last final kick in the nuts to set me straight. I will say that I have not been sleeping well since sunday, adn that this is one of the hardest days that I have had in a while for whatever reason. My chest is tight, my heart is broken, but at the same time, I feel nothing....but pure emptyness. Dave, my christmas wish fi I had to choose just one, would be to have noone ever have to go through the pain and agony of loving someone so deeply that apparently doe snot love you in return. If anyone at all has something in mind that may better hlp to express my feeliungs in such a way that would still leave the door open, I wuld really appreciate it! one love!

what should I do about the ex though? should I try to make contact with her just for the sake of making contact? this is where I fail to understand what to do? how would this work, I'm thinking that if she wanted anything then she would have contacted me, yet she hasn't at all asside from the last text that she sent when I got her the birthday card. nothing more, not even a courtesy call! maybe that means that I should not call her or contact her and just do my best to get through the holidays and move foreward with things....I don't know, I'm going out with some frineds so we shall see tomorrow!

just one more thing, this new girl does know about my ex and how the relationship just ended recently. she does not know how much I love and care for this evil witch that ripped out my heart though. maybe, its just me hanging on to hope that is totally unrealistic, i don't know, but I do know that my ex has not even remotly thrown me any bones at all so maybe I'm just reeling over nothing in my own mind because of the time of year. I really don't know. I think that I have been more than fair to this new girl, i told her that i want and need to take things slow more than once or twice. i am repeating myself and I'm sorry! I want to die right now!!!!

if your would like a much more in depth descriotion of my ongoing agony and then rise back to power only to again crumble, read my other posts, if nothing else you sure as hell will be entertained...

how am i to know what will happen with my ex if I do NC? that is my major dilema! I'm also thinking that again, this is all coming out because it is our anniversary tomorrow, or it would have been. I don't know what to do. I'm thinking that my ex wants nothing to do with me because we have not talked in so long and it has been nearly 2 months since I last saw her face in person. i just don't know. i would never forgive myself if I did something and then when she wanted to come back and then she found out and it was over then. I know that I am being an idiot and creating situations that do not even exist in reality but i'm confused. I do liek this other girl and I do not want to mess things up with her, but I do not think that it is me that is moving to fast, i think that it is her. i feel that I have made it very clear that I just want to take things as they come and I feel that she is the one that is pushing and pushing and then pulling away at the same time. is there any logical way that i would be able to gage the "state" of my ex wihtout being an idiot about it? maybe i should just let this all go..... and see what happens with the new girl and hope that my feelings for my ex go away and that they did just arrise due to the holidays and the fact that tomorrow is our or would have been our anniversary. god I hope so!

thnxs lady bug, I know, I know, I know, but i think that the first thing that I need to do is to stop being a P*ssy and figure out what is goign on with my ex and my head!!!!! by the way, this new gilr is NOT my "girlfriend"!!!!!!!!! I just want to call the ex and talk to her about things, see what she has been up to, not so mych talk about the relationship, or antyhing ike that, but just try to gage her voice and tone try to see if I can get anything out of her at all in that aspect!! I know that this is a ridiculous thought, but I probably won't do it or anything for that matter. again, I just wonder why she doe snot talk to me or contact me anymore.....

another thing that I was thinking which may be an underlying problem that was affecting my subconscious is that tomorrow would have been my ex and I anniversary, 12/20. Now I know that her email still is "ex's email removed" I do not think that she has changed it. I just had a thought that maybe I should send her an email just simply saying "happy would be anniversary, thinking of you..." I know what the respnses to that from everyone will probably be, NO NO NO NO!!!!!!! but, what if doing somehting liek that helps to stir up the memories in her and makes her feel again? I just feel like she has forgotten about me and about us and it really worries me and scares me because again, I do have this new girl on my jock (I know thats terrible to say) but like I said, she is not my ex! woe is me? I feel like a huge loser alll over again!

I do not think that I explained myself clearly enough with whats going on. I have in no way shape or form given this new girl any reason to think that anything is the matter with me at all, she knows about my past relationship and how it just ended 2 months ago. she sys that she does not want to rush things and that she understands where I am coming from and that she too just wants to enjoy "getting to know each other" but then she also says things that seem to go comletely against this statement. for example: I got to work at 7:30 thihs morning and she began texting me, I have received 30 texts from her so far today they read as follows....keep in mind that we spoke on the phone last night at 11:00 and nothing was wrong at all. her - Morning, are u mad at me me - no why her - just had a feeling u were gettin sick of me. if you want we could spend time apart like not hang out as much, your call me - where is all this coming from? her - just thought that I was getting on your nerves. I am just starting to get back on my feet so I feel bad that I have no car and stuff, I know it bothers u me - again I'll say that if there was something bothering me you would know about it, I know that u are getting back on your feet. her - I was just saying that u seem a bit distant thats all. No problem here me - I am just really really tired and trying to sort out alot of things in my own head. I like haging out with you although at times I do feel as though things are moving along faster than I expected. I just want to take things slow and as they come and I have said that to you before so this should be nothing new to you her - oh my god, I am not rushing things, I think that we should stop having sex. (meanwhile we had sex twice) me - huh? her - and it is good then that I won't see you this weekend so u don't think that we r moving 2 fast me - this is just all new to me because you are the first person whom I like and have spent time with in a really long time her - I understand hun, take all the time and space that you need me - I hope that you know that i do like you and care about you and that kinda scares me but in a good way. I guess I may have some issues... me - I hope that you do not hate me now cause I truly do see good things for us, right now its just going to fast and so soon. I just need to get a lot of things straight in my own head before I can fully give myself to you I guess. I hope that you are stil;l gonna come with all of us for new years. her - No I don't hate you I'm just confused and I have to think about new years me - why are you confused? her - about what u want and what I want I guess me - Well how do you think that I feel when I have all of these strange new emotions flooding over me about someone I just met a week ago. it scares me her - it is for me to babe. I never cared about someone like I do you and I always feel like I am gonna throw up. me - WHAT???? her - You just make me feel things that i have never felt before... me - well what are you say9ing and what do you want? her - I don't really know babe, I know that I want you but I am just so scared that you are gonna hurt me. I have trouble getting close. me - well, apparently I am too even though I do really like spending time with you and I do enjoy your company I just have knots in my stomach always... her - ok me - so what now? I don't like where I think this is headed... her - and where do you htink this is headed? me - I'm not exactly sure, but I do not want to stop seeing you, I just want to take things as they come and I do not think that you can do that right now... her - I don't want anything... I just think that u r never gonna want us to be a couple in the future. I think that since we are not seeing anyone else, and that we are having sex that you have everything that you want! maybe it is good that we will not see each other this weekend. me - WHAT???? what are you talking about? Thats not whats this is abouot at all, I don't care about sex! Who is to say what will happen in the future, but come on, we have known each other for a WEEK!!!! me - I think I'm f*cken losing it!!!!!!! her - losing what??? You don't think that you are being distant, I do! I have never had these feeliungs for aomeone before this fast and I'm like freaking out! me - you!!!! I like being with you and hanging out with you. you are the first person I have hung out with asside from my boys since me and my ex. If anything, I think that you are the one pushing things and then pullng away for whatever reason while I'm just trying to roll with the punches and take things as they come and see how things will pan out. her - But I feel so comefortable with you, I feel likel I have known you forever! I have told you things that I have never told many poeple in the past. do ytou think that I don't care for you hun? I am not rushing to be your girlfriend, I just do not want to waste my time, I don't think that I am with you though. I guess I'm just nervous me - I don't even know whats going on anymore here! I think I'm truly losing it!!!!ha ha ha me - I am nervous to and I don't know what to say to you anymore. All I want is for us to take things as they come. Neither of us should be feeling this pressure! her - I know, I'm sorry babe her - well I am just so overwhelmed with feelings now good n bad. I mean I do want to continue things with you but I need to protect myself because I have a feeling that we are not goign to make it. me - What the hell are you talking about??????? her - I hope things do work out don't get me wrong I just have bad luck thats all ha ha ha! me - I don't kow what to say anymore. I didn't mean to be "distant" I'm just not used to this nor did I expect it. her - OK I guess I'll just talk to you later when your not too busy. me - I just want to stop freaking out and for you to do the same and to just relax and enjoy the ride with whatever happens with us without the pressure. her - I'm not freaking out, just protecting myself me - well your freaking me out!!!!!!! there is no reason for all this! her - how am I doing that? all I started saying was asking if you were mad thats it. fine lets just end it! me - I was never mad!!! I just hate all this drama, I don't need this!!! I hope you mean end this talk! her Yes end this conversation... me - thats the best news I have heard all day!!!!! sorry for that everyone, that has been how my day is going. Actually it felt really good to get that all out!!!! all that is word for word what was said between us today!!!! It took so long for me to get all that out and to continue looking at the phone to copy the messages, I forgot why I was posting to begin with.....I need a nap, aqnd a beer ha ha ha! All I know is that I do miss my ex, but I have been doing better asside from today and yesterday. I wish that I could talk to her, but I know that I really have nothing to say, I just wish that I could get a clue as to what she is thinking about, doing, etc.....and whether it is about me! I may never ever know those answers....

I think that I am losing it. again, I find myself inventing situations that involve my ex. for instance, I was getting pains in my chest earlier today when i thought of what she would say and do when if she ever asked me what I had been doing and if I told her that I had been seeing someone and that I had slept with that person. I think that she would never talk to me again and that it would be totally over for ever and ever. then I thnk about the fact that right now it is totally over and that she has not even tried to contact me at all anyway. why do I still feel so guilty? It has come to the point (which is totally ridiculous) that I feel that this other girl is wanting a relartionship and a commitment from me that I do not think that I can give because of all the thoughts that I still have and the utter love and devotion that I still have fro my ex. She (ohter girl) thinks that i am being distant and withdrawn (keep in mind we have only been hanging out for a week) that she is beginning to get all freaked out and she is saying some pretty crazy things. anyway, I do not ant to lose a great opportunity with her, but at the same time, I think that she is moving way to fast and expecting to much or at least more than I can give right now. I am just lost, I do not want to lose thins opportunity, nor do I want to possibly mess anything up that may ever happen between me and my ex as ridiculous as that sounds. I am lost, confused, heartbroken all over again and all for no reason. Why am I doing this to myself and worrying about the opinions of a girl that threw me away and told me that she does not want tto be with me anymore? Why do I care what she thinks? I do nnot know, but it scares me to death....I wish that I could just talk to her and see where she stands with everything....I know thats retarted to say the least!

I also feel like even though technically I have done nothing wrong in seeing this new girl and even sleeping with her, that if my ex ever found out, she would write me off completely and never speak to me again ever. I thiknk that she would be so hurt and angry that any thought that she may have had of ever rcconciling anythingwould be out the window forever. this really scares me and for no reason because I have no eveidence that this will ever happen, but this is what I have been thinking. I know its stupid and I know its wrong, but I do still love her so much even though we have had no contact. I feel like I let her down and hurt her and that if it ever came down to it, that I would have to lie to her and never mention anything about this ever in fear of lsing her forver....I'm pathetic.....

I am reeling yet again. I feel that after taking so many good steps in the write direction, that I have almost leaped back to where I was and I do not know why. My ex has not contacted me, nor have I contcated her. I sent her a birthday card on her birthday, the 8th of december and I received a text in return thanking me for the card. I did not repsond. that was it. I have been hanging out wioth this girl and having a great time, she is really into me, I like being with her, but she is not my ex. yesterday I felt like dog Sh*t all day for some reason and I could not get my ex out of my head and today it is the same. what is really bothering me though, is the thought that my ex may never want to get back with me because I have began seeing someone new and that we have kissed and slept together (not normal for me, nice and fun, but now I feel like crap) I know that I am jumping to conclusions on this because she may never call or contact me, but I feel so guilty all of a sudden and I do not know why. I feel like I cheated on her, and I never have done that to anyone before so I can only imagine that this is the way that it would feel. I am getting these strange urges to contact her just to say hello and hear her voice, but I know that I have nothing to say. I just don't know what to do. I really miss her so much all over again, and I wonder if she misses me at all, or what is goign through her mind for that matter. Is there any way that I can find this out? probably not right....man, I just want to talk to her......I think I'm losing it all over again for no reason. WHY????????????

I do not know whats wrong with me. I have been having fun, I have been hanging out with this new girl who really likes me, but today I can't stop thinking about my ex. I wonder what she is doing, if she is thinking of me. i have not had any contact from her since the text she sent me thanking me for the birthday card that I sent her (dec. 8) other than that, nothing. after three years, nothing....i do not know what to do. i know that I can do nothing, but I really miss her. I have not had a day like this in a long time, but today it just hit me like a ton of bricks and my whole chest hurts. I wonder if she is dating someone or if she has. I wonder what she thinks and if she thinks about me or us at all. why has she not even attempted to contact, could it be that I did not respond to her text thanking me? should I send her a text just saying "thinking of you"? probably not right.....I am liek dying inside right now, and all this came out of nowhere today....

Hello, this is the first time that i have posted in this section of the site. Long story short, was with a girl for three years, she broke up with me two months ago, I was heartbroken! I still think about her a lot but I have since moved on and am dating a really great girl who I like a lot. we have been seeing each other steadily for about a week now (not long I know) but we have made an effort to see each other every day for extended periods of time becaus we both can't seem to get enough of eavch other. She tells me al the time how unbelieveably into me she is, how she really sees this going somewhere and how I have already become someone that she cares about alot. This makes me feelo very good because I too have some of those same thoughts. I just want to try to take things as they come seeing that I have more or less just gotten out of a three year relationship (she is unnaware that my previous relationship ended this recently...) anyway she agreed but says that she muct tell me what she is thinking anyway and that she does nt care if I say anything in return at this point in time which is great becaus there is no pressure. I do really enjoy her in many many ways, and I too can see things goign quite well for us to be honest! anyway, the real reason that i am writing is becasue she has made it clear on more than one occasion that she is getting me something for christmas wheteher I like it or not because she really wants too. At first I said please don't becaus again I did not want to move to fast but she is insisting and has continually dropped hints to me about what things I may liek and what my interests are in clothes and jewelery and what not. anyway, I now have to get her something, not that I don't want to, but I just don't want to get her anything that seems like 1. I don't care and just threw something together, and 2. is not too ver the top. I was thinking a nice perfume set or something alonmg those lines but I don't know really....what do you all think?