TiredMan
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I would "see" a stripper but I would not "be with" one. If I am just messing around with someone, I don't care what they do as long as I don't catch anything. If It's someone I am with and care about and they want to strip, I am gone and hope they catch a disease lol.
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This is true which in turns makes so many women think they are actually good at it. You can tell when you question it and you get the "well i haven't had any complaints" response. Of course you would not have. The guy won't risk losing the BJ by telling you that it is just mediocre.
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Ask him what he likes and have him tell u or show u in detail. Tell him you want to make him feel good. At the same time, I wouldn't just disregard the intercourse part. Being good at THAT takes as much work from the woman as giving oral does.
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If someone goes out of their way, then yes I do think it is kind of accusatory and/or showing the person is self conscious. Tone has a lot to do with it as well. Adding the questions to her walking out to the car AND the stuff she has said to him, I'm sure it came off that way. It would for me.
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Umm so if a woman gives you head, it is gay as well since a guy can do it too? Cmon! If you are with a woman and you guys trust each other, experimenting in anal with her can be fun.
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Not what I was saying. I'm saying she is wrong on her end. She made this decision and needs to find someone in the same boat as her.
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It's kind of the same thing though. And when you went out and asked him "who is that?" it does come off as accusatory. At least it does read that way here lol. It's tough to say as I don't know all the details of the relationship and this situation.
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I agree with the post above your response. Many people stay with or get with someone because of lack of options. You are young, like I said. You are curious about sex. This girl told you she doesn't want sex until marriage anymore. From her POV, if she doesn't want sex anymore, she shouldn't be with someone who has never experienced it and wants to. She should find a guy who feels the same way about sex (has had it and doesn't want to until marriage) as she does.
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Well it's not really the butt. The part above it. Lower lower lower back. It's from running I know. Just icing which sucks. My butt cheeks are COLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Well, are you sure about this or could this be you putting together things because of own insecurities or something? I'm not judging but I believe if someone thinks something, "proof" will always fit or be twisted to fit. I'm not there so I can't tell though I do know of some signs, I don't know his. He may have been talking to his brother or some girl, no way to really know. But I DO know if I"m him and I"m not cheating and someone I'm with asks me "who's that" it would build resentment on my part.
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I bring this up because over the years, I have hurt myself more times than I would like to admit. In fact, I hurt my butt muscle today running for 4 consecutive days on the treadmill. Now I have to take 3 days off. UGH!!!
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I get the vibe you are settling though for lack of other options. What would happen is if someone else comes along, you would probably leave this girl. You are young. You haven't experienced sex and the connection that you can have. If it's something you want to experience, by all means, go out there and experience it. Especially if this girl doesn't want to do it until marriage now.
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Well the reason for this is that usually women get more emotional. There are exceptions but that is usually the case. So when you tell a woman something negative (no matter how you phrase it) she usually can't handle this. Probably because growing up, guys have been always been nice to her, trying to "get with her". So when you get the opposite of what you know, you don't know how to handle it. I can't even tell you how many things I have heard over the years. About lousy BJ's mostly. And every time I ask, the answer has been the same. They think just because of the result, that it was a good one. Funniest part is that I thought they were all good until I went out with someone who was so good at it, I could have taken 40 of them a day. I was just in shock. I later asked her about it (year after we were dating). Her ex and her watch many many adult movies and she tried out everything she saw until she got it lol. Anyway, back to the point. If the woman you love or are with isn't good, a guy won't risk telling her because they wouldn't want to risk losing what they have. It's that simple. Of course, some women would understand and everything but they don't want to take that risk. I have noticed a change in your tone. Are you thinking your guy is cheating on you now?
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Compromise is always good and I am a big believer in that. have you gotten the toy thing then to use during to show YOUR part in the compromise to him?
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So what you are saying is that you had no idea that men are unhappy about these things too? I'm glad I am not in a situation like this anymore but over the years, I can't tell you how many things guy friends have told me that they would NEVER dare say to the women they were with because they knew if they did, whatever sex they were getting (no matter how lousy it was) would end. And ok sex is better than none from their POV.
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You seem motivated to get in shape. Just don't overdo it and end up hurting yourself. So many people want it so fast and so badly, they do more than they can handle (especially after a hiatus from the gym) and then get hurt which causes a long delay in a return.
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Why should he use desensitizing creams? Why not use a toy on yourself to speed yourself up during sex?
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Well it's true whether you or anyone agrees with it. In many cases, it's the guy's rhythm that decides this. In almost every single position (other than woman on top and variations of that), it IS the guy who controls the rhythm and all of that. There are plenty of women who usually only like it missionary where it's all in his hands. Back to what i said. The responsiblity does fall on the guy. He doesn't LET IT become hers. There are so many women out there (whether they are shy, really inexperienced, brought up religious or whatever reason) that just lay on their back and that is intercourse. What I'm saying is that if it takes the guy let's say 10 minutes to finish and the women 25 minutes to finish. Why is it that the guy is too fast rather than the woman being too slow? I'm sure there are plenty of women out there not satisfied but there are just as many, if not more men unsatisfied but they will never bring it up for fear of losing whatever they are getting at the time.
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See for me personally, making someone wait until marriage is unreasonable. It's not as if she is a virgin and doing it for religious reasons either. And if she was, she should be with someone who shares that same view on sex and marriage. But she is basically telling you that you won't be having sex with her unless you get married. This is something that I don't think will work to be honest. Either it builds resentment, fighting, cheating or worse, someone who proposes WAYYYYYY too soon for that reason.
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Not as easy to do all the time. Some women get defensive about not being "good" and the guy won't want to risk losing whatever they have lol.
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Are you interested in him?
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It was just to illustrate the point that if one person wants to do something and the other doesn't, it doesn't work. Even one person sacrifices what they want anyway, it DOES build resentment unless they have low self esteem. If they do, they are willing to take anything. I believe he said he never has had it and he would like to.
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I can't even begin to say how many times I have been in this situation. Out of all the BJ's and HJ's I've gotten, I would say about a handful would be what I would consider really good. The others just were ehhhhh (though they felt good) or bad. I think most guys are afraid to be honest because they feel the girl would stop if they complain lol. Or they say they stuff you said because they are just so happy just to be getting any lol. But back to the point, there have been many times, I have to almost meditate or something to get myself over the hump to ejaculate. Squeezing of the muscles down there too. To the OP, you can always ask him what he likes though he probably would just say you do it fine (for the reason I said). Or if possible, watch a bunch of adult scenes of them. Many of them aren't good either but there are some that are and after a while, you can tell which are and aren't.
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The one thing I do have to say I enjoy about giving oral to someone I care about is when it starts to pulsate down there when she is orgasming. Then the whole body seems to pulsate. It's kind of nice lol.
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But if one person wants it and the other person does not, they should not be together. It's not amazing, IMO, to give up something like that. Would you want to be in a relationship where you and the guy do everything together but he wants you to respect the fact that he wants to kiss other women,.
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Thank you. I know there ARE guys out there who will wait as long as the woman wants (up to many years) but that doens't mean the other guys who don't aren't "good guys". There are women who will let me cheat on them all day and night without leaving too, does this mean they are any better than the one who would not? I totally agree with the compromise statement. Anyone who reads what I write can probably (lol) tell I feel that it's all about compromise, equality, fairness, trust and communication when it comes to relationships. If one person doesn't want to have sex and the other person wants to, it shouldn't work. And if they guy just waits, it builds resentment, as it should. I guarantee you that if I went into a relationship and I wanted to have sex but didn't want to kuiss for about a year or two, how many women would settle for that lol?