truthfully it sounds as if you need to look in to some therapy. To elaborate, three years ago I was involved in a very unhealthy relationship w/ a woman. Aftr five yrs we finally decided to call things off for good. I was at frst relived that I had all of that negitivety that we shared out of my life. She and I had had child together and so I knew that it was really improtant to keep in good realtions despite our differances. I was not in agood place things turned for the worse I ended homeless and jobless. I tried to commit suicide and damn near succeed. I finally got the heck out of there and move to my current stae of res. I feel that by removeing myself fr the sit completely that I made a definate break w/ the past. All of this was deffinatly a good thng. Anyway bck to the point. I was distaught, depressed, thought about this person every day thought that my life was over all of those negative things. Until I could take a objectve look about what all had transpired of the past five years and just plain get away from it.
While I would not necessarilly recomend a geographical change as the answer. I think that a good therapist could help youu brainstorm some of the possabilities that would work for you. Because in truth, we all have the answers to many of r own "problems" inside of ourselves. They sometimes just need some coaxing to be brought to the surface.