archiphile

Leave this guy as fast as you can honey. I'll quote from a recent song. "Shoes don't stretch...And Men Don't Change" I have found all of the post quite prophetic. This "man" only loves you for what you got between your legs. Not for what's beneath your breasts. I to find the fact that he is a Drunk to only be icing on the proverbial cake. Get out as fast as you possibly can in fact stop reading my stupidly repetitive post and start packing your bags. Or if the tables are turned change your locks and get a restraining order. I am a former Marine...I am not a drunk....I'll admitted to having a good time now and again but. That doesn't get me off the hook for all of my actions in this life or the next. I and only I am 100% accountable for my own actions. If I have the wear-with-all to get a woman pregnant. Then I have the responsibility of taking care of that human. Sadly Manny people don't see it that away. They think that it's a woman's responsibility. I repeat do not pass go do not collect two hundred dollars JUST GET AWAY FROM THIS "MAN" AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!!!!!!!... Your still reading why aren't you packing... P.S. I wish to express my deepest regret to you w/ the diagnosis of the cervical cancer. Be strong!!! Fight!! Be a true GRUNT!!!

"It's okay to interview several before you commit to one. If in any way you feel that the counselor is cold or uncaring, keep looking for someone who better fits your needs."- smallworld- A bit of advice; Do not confuse "cold or uncarring" w/ not tellimg you what you wnt ot hear. Make sure that the LPC that you choose willnot let fall into old patterns of behavior. Make sure that this is absolutly clear from the beginning. It is extramly important that you make this clear from the very start! You must take a proactive approch to your own mental health. Some examples of working proactively; Change your phone number(s) take her OFF of your contacts list on all of your e-mail accounts. Have your address unlisted. Make it clear to her that you do not wish to speak to hear anymore. If necessary file for a restraining order. This will give you aleg to stand on w/ the courts if things turn violent. (not saying that they will) But some ppl do this inorder to retain control of the other person. These are of course only suggestions. The ball is in your court. Only you can change the way your life is going. You must make a commitment to move forward whatever the cost. You must realize that you know yourself better that anyone else!

truthfully it sounds as if you need to look in to some therapy. To elaborate, three years ago I was involved in a very unhealthy relationship w/ a woman. Aftr five yrs we finally decided to call things off for good. I was at frst relived that I had all of that negitivety that we shared out of my life. She and I had had child together and so I knew that it was really improtant to keep in good realtions despite our differances. I was not in agood place things turned for the worse I ended homeless and jobless. I tried to commit suicide and damn near succeed. I finally got the heck out of there and move to my current stae of res. I feel that by removeing myself fr the sit completely that I made a definate break w/ the past. All of this was deffinatly a good thng. Anyway bck to the point. I was distaught, depressed, thought about this person every day thought that my life was over all of those negative things. Until I could take a objectve look about what all had transpired of the past five years and just plain get away from it. While I would not necessarilly recomend a geographical change as the answer. I think that a good therapist could help youu brainstorm some of the possabilities that would work for you. Because in truth, we all have the answers to many of r own "problems" inside of ourselves. They sometimes just need some coaxing to be brought to the surface.

I have to agree with SummerLove on this matter. You are young and have alot of time to have sex in the future. You only increase you chances of getting prego, or other issuses if you continue down this path. I am not telling you how you should live. But am only expressing my own personal views on the matter.