Cherylyn

The thought of ending the relationship in your head is telling you to end the relationship. She dismissively and repetitively disrespects you. She's inconsiderate, very unreliable and doesn't care about your feelings. She lacks empathy. Either accept her and how the situation is or end it and hopefully in the future be with a woman who knows how to treat you as if you matter. Good luck! 🙂

No, don't stay. Do people change? It's highly unlikely. ☹️ "A leopard cannot change its spots." Either accept people as they are or dissolve and exit the relationship otherwise you're wasting your time, energy and resources on a person who truly does not care about you, does not care how you feel, exhibits all the traits of a narcissist, has no qualms consistently and endlessly disrespecting you. Save yourself further trouble by being smart with your immediate exit plan. Save yourself.

For you, turn this around: Spending time with him is a chore. Anytime you're dealing with complicated characters, it is a chore and a pain in the bleep. 😡 If you want to live a long, happy life, fill it with high quality people. The rest of the world can bleep your bleep. That's my attitude and it really works! 🤗 👍

I've discovered that many people weigh far more importance on others instead of themselves. It's ironic that those whom we think of a lot, really don't invest the same time and energy into you so return the favor by focusing on yourself. Do what makes you happy whether it's your job, taking care of your family or household, pets if you have any, tend to your physical and mental health for overall well being. Take it a step further if you can immerse yourself into hobbies, special interests, outings and surround yourself with very moral people as positive influences and role models. Be more individualistic and independent minded. This will elevate your self esteem, self confidence and self worth. It works wonders. 🤗 👍

She is insecure and I've found that if someone doesn't ring true, if there's something off with them and their character is put into question in any way, shape or form, pay attention to your instincts and intuition because it's there for a reason and always correct. These red flags are telling you to pump the brakes on the relationship and quite possibly come to a screeching halt because a relationship with her is unstable like a roller coaster ride. 😖 You decide if you can envision a smooth, long term future with her. I doubt it. 🙄

Is there a tipping point? Definitely, YES. 😒 Your tolerance and patience or lack thereof signals your brain to call it quits. Many people check out mentally or give up because all the talking in the world will lead to viciously endless, dizzying circles leading to nowhere. 😡 There are times when you're dealing with those with subpar intelligence so be prepared to come to this conclusion. Some people are narcissists (self important - don't care about your feelings - not about preening oneself in the mirror - I wish it were that easy!), lack empathy, have zero emotional intelligence and basically hopeless lost causes. ☹️ Some people shut down by enforcing strong boundaries within themselves. If some people have the option and convenient choice to leave, they do just that. 👍 The tipping point is when you ask yourself how much more abuse can you take? Either you'll have the patience of a saint or you bail.

What went wrong? Obviously both of you are incompatible; that's what went wrong just as you had described. Both of you have stark personality differences and personal preferences. Both of you do not have mutual characters either and that's ok because everyone is different. The problem is no matter how hard anyone tries, two people who behave differently will never get along. It's just the way it is. No sense getting frustrated over this. Block and delete her from your phone forever and block and delete her from all social media. Out of sight, out of mind. Before you know it, she'll become merely a distant blur and there will be days, weeks or months where you won't even think of her anymore. 😊

Block and delete those you have no interest in whatsoever otherwise you're just wasting everyone's time. 😣 Go no contact permanently. Block and delete all social media as well. Out of sight, out of mind. ☺️

I'm glad you don't have that nerve. This means you're not a narcissist. Narcissism doesn't mean preening oneself in the mirror. I wish it were that easy. Narcissism means when you don't care about how other people feel. Narcissists have zero empathy. Zero. I'm glad you have a conscience. This world would be a better place with more people who actually know the difference between right and wrong behavior when it comes to treating and mistreating others. 🤨

Yeah, it is sad. ☹️ People don't live forever. Treasure real life in person, important people in your life all the more. Or, if they reside faraway, you can still hang onto them preciously.

In your lifetime, you will constantly weed out the bad apples. Most people do. Get rid of rotten apples or people from your life, eliminate them completely and shop around for the best people who deserve to be with you. Any other way is a no go. 😒

Reply no thank you. Then it's better to go no contact. Next step: Block and delete her everywhere. She's not mentally healthy for you.

A lot of people use each other. It's the way of the world. You live in this world but you don't have to live of the world. A lot of dynamics are conditional or strings attached. I think it is ok as long as both parties know what they're doing to each other because it's a mutual agreement. The sneaky part of this arrangement is when there's deceit involved. For example, pretending to like someone or be their friend only because it benefits them. Those types of people are sociopaths. Not psychopaths. Sociopaths. Sociopaths cultivate, nurture and maintain friendships or relationships because they want something in return. Their so-called interest in you has nothing to do with you. It's how you are useful to them. Why do they do it? Because it works. It works as long as you are naive and don't catch onto their intent. It works because this strategy is highly successful so why fix it if it ain't broke? 🙄

If you decide to apologize, make sure your apology isn't merely "I'm sorry." Explain why you are sorry and make sure it's not a gaslighting apology which is worse than a so-called apology in the first place. In person is best for a humble, very sincere apology. Sincere apologies are a way to make amends and promote continued healing. No apology forthcoming? Then the wound continues to fester and the dynamic permanently goes downhill. ☹️

He said spending time with you is a chore. Well, turn it around on him in your mind. Spending time with him is a pure waste of your time and life. Dump the chump! 😒

You don't have to explain anything. Simply part ways peacefully. Text her all the best and sign off. Then block and delete everywhere permanently. Move on for real. 🫤

Don't feel bad. Don't care. When you don't care, you're no longer invested in her anymore. The more you think about her and her choices in life, the more bothered you will feel and you don't want to torment yourself unnecessarily. You're wasting your time and energy on a person who had no qualms obnoxiously disrespecting you. How evil can people be? How cruel can they be? How can they keep a person as friends like nothing happens? Ha! How long have you got? Welcome to the world we live in. 🙄 Grow accustomed to how many people in the world are @Patrick100. It's just the way it is. ☹️ Someday, your naivete will be no more. You'll come from the school of hard knocks. 😒

She has made it clear to you that she's only interested in friendship with you. If friendship is fine with you, then meet for lunch, coffee or a walk or something like that. If you want more than friendship, then don't waste your time going out. Since she wants to be friends and nothing else, you might want to curtail the long conversations whether in person or text (or email or electronically). She should be dialed down to an acquaintance level because once you get too personal about each others lives it can be complicated when you confide too much or she does. It could end up being very awkward getting too personal IMHO. 🤔

The best for you to do is not care. Don't even hope for her to find the perfect guy and it doesn't help to tell her that you'd never stay friends with your exes. To her or anyone, you're just hot air wasting your breath and energy. Other people do not absorb whatever you say. It's an act in futility on your part. Since other people don't care, don't care back. It works both ways. Always do likewise and you will feel more content and confident than ever. Good luck! 🙂

You can always ask her. The worst she can do is decline so be prepared either way.

Strip clubs are a business. It has nothing to do with acceptance. If you have money to give, this is all that matters because to a stripper or anyone working, you're merely "bread 'n butter" to them and not an ounce more. 🙄 Even though you live in a rural area, perhaps you can meet people through MeetUps, sports, church if you are faith based, that is, clubs or organizations. Volunteering in the community might be a start. Don't be a shut in. Or, you can focus on continuing self improvement and wait until you move to a more populated area for your career. Hope it works out for you! 🙂

Yeah, that's right. Unfortunately, it happens more often than you'd like to think. Trauma bonding, enabling and the like, it's all the same.

It doesn't matter why you were rejected. The fact is that she turned you down so get her message loud and clear and move on without her. She isn't worth dwelling upon. Return the favor by losing interest in her, too. 🤨

You can either remain with him for the sake of money or leave him despite him begging you to stay. If you can figure out how to survive well economically without him and ignore his pleas for you to stay with him, then that is your exit plan. He doesn't sound like a morally good guy so he wouldn't be worth keeping in your life. For you though, it sounds like money talks in his favor which is awfully expensive for you to pay on your part. Your part being in 'putting up and shutting up' mode which is a very high price to pay. He will not change for you. Either tolerate and accept how he is or do whatever it takes to leave.

My answer would be no, you can't trust her.