CantReadTheSigns

Thanks, Lost But I am not trying to control the future. Just trying to understand her behavior. If we were friends for a long time, I wouldn't have asked about it. But because we are so new to each other I thought I would ask. It seems this is more common than I thought Which is an answer to my original question Yes, having a female friend like this is a good thing I will keep it simple and fun And enjoy the journey

Thanks for the detailed response. I see the parallels,for sure. But she actually does make it a point to find me...I go into the area to clear my head, etc...and she can see me from her place...it's not far but most of the chats happen when she sees me and comes over to talk...the others when one of us lets the other that they will "be around tomorrow"..while they aren't "excursions", they are private as there rarely is snyone around

I live in the area. She knows my mother.That is how/why I spoke to her now and then before I started taking care of mom...she knows that I never lived with her

I don't think you're missing anything. Meaning I think you're right as to where she is. The confusion, I suppose, is more like "are the chances of things changing from friends to interested higher than usual given how much we talk"? Remember, we weren't friends before this started. Is it more common than I thought for a woman to have four and five hour conversations with a man she doesn't know that well while thinking this "this is far as it will ever go"?. Don't get wrong...I am not making a case for myself or asking "she must be interested, right"?. Thanks to all that have helped so far.

Thanks for reaching out. To answer your questions. She lives in the building on her own. 51 years old - 4 years younger than I am. Not in a relationship. Suggested an afternoon in Manhattan. Lunch and a drink and taking it from there as there are many options if we chose to continue given how much time we talk. To give more context, she is a widow. Lost her husband 7 years ago and didn't date for 5 years after he passed. Which makes me wonder if she just moves slowly and cautiously when it comes to dating and how that might factor into things here.

Hello All Here is my situation. I have been caring for my mother and staying at her place for the past month. One of her neighbors and I have been talking in the common area after Mom is settled in for the night. (I have interacted with here and there for the past two years or so. Always friendly conversation but no more). A half dozen times or so, our conversations (which are about anything/everything) have lasted four hours or more. So even blind me can see she likes me - but I don't know on which level. She has only touched me a couple of times while talking, FYI, I finally asked if she would like to have some fun away from the apartment building. She said "yes" but prior plans kept things from happening this week. So why am I here? Two reasons. One, she didn't commit to an actual day it would happen. Two, I felt bad blindsiding her with the offer (there was no build up to it) so after some more chat, acknowleged the blindsiding and asked "are you sure you want to go? seems I caught you off guard". She said "it's ok. we're going as friends. don't feel bad about asking". She mentioned "going as friends" but didn't specifically say something like "sure. but just so you know, this is only going to be a friends' thing". Or did she with spelling it out to someone that is admittedly often obtuse in situations like this? So you know, from what I gather, she is not someone that is constantly pursuing dates as she is fine living alone and she is on one dating site but said she has backed off from using it. Thank in advance