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  1. To be honest, No.I wouldn't be, i was very much interested in the other guy... But he left me for his ex & yes, this guy would have bene my second choice. Good point
  2. That's EXACTLY what it's felt like.. just a penpal. never giving me a specific date to hang out etc. just being very vague that he's "attempted" to ask me out which.. yes and no. You're so right... not wasting my time. ALSO he just unfollowed me on instagram so thankgod I didnt
  3. Hi everyone, I need a little advice, I matched with this guy 6 months ago who seems to be a really good guy. But because I was so focused on dating this other 34 four year old idiot who was waste of my time I potsponed this guy and put our plans on the backburner (he asked me to dinner and i said forsure but I'll let you know when) and kept using covid as an excuse not to meet up with him. He's my height.. has a handsome face & is the business owner at this place I go to eat at all the time in new york, he's a pretty cool dude overall I'm just now realizing I've been an idiot for not payi
  4. Yikes. This sounds like a huge turn off if he's that selfish to only care about himself getting off. Like If I were you I wouldnt want to neither be with that or be attracted to that.
  5. Sounds like you're not that into her, and you should politely tell her.
  6. I think you should try meditating at night, put some lavender essential oil drops on your wrist and breathe in and out. Try to relax, clearly you are dreaming of something that's giving you this unrestlessness due to some trauma or bad memory. Always remind yourself before you go to sleep that you look forward to new dreams and to new memories and the future, that the past is the past.Tell that to yourself over and over again till you fall asleep
  7. You need to ask yourself what it is YOU want and then go from there. It you want something more, or more commitment you NEED to address this. Communication is KEY. Don't ASSUME anything, it doesnt ever matter if he shows signs of jealousy you need to be direct and ask. "How are we both feeling about this? I've been feeling some feelings that I didnt expect to initially feel, and was wondering if you felt the same? Because I'd like for us to be exclusive." etc. That's a good start. I was in a FWB for TWO frekin years and I don't wish it upon anyone, most people who are OKAY with casual sex a
  8. That's exactly IT. Bingo, you nailed it. Thats how I've been feeling, he'll show up but only when I text him and then anytime he's with his friends who have girlfriends he'll invite me so he's not alone. only on THREE ocassions he's actually texted me first. The past two months the inconsistent texting has been going on and I addressed it with him but nothing changed. Time to move on
  9. The guy I've been talking to for 5 months and dating for 2 months, after wanting to see me on tuesday) and after having a spectacular date last saturday, dissapeared on my this weekend. We've had the exclusive talk.. and he told me "we aren't just a fling" & I was telling my friends this time I wasnt reaching out, I wanted to see if he would actually text me and make plans and he didnt.. he didn't even ask me what I was up to. This sunday, I noticed his ex (as I stalk her sometimes) posted they were out having drinks together, and he reposted it on his story. Did this a hole actually repo
  10. PREACH. wow...... yeah, i 100% agree with you. just an update, he asked me to dinner... we went out on a dinner date and he told me he saw this as leading up to something serious and defenitly doesnt see this as a fling. So thats a good sign but even that answer to me was unclear so I've concluded I'm just going to wait it out some more.
  11. This was probably my favorite answer, Thankyou for writing your perspective. Understand that him saying that was more so not an announcement (I feel) he was just letting me know because during our make out things got very heated at one point so he was just reassuring me, although I completely agree with you. I now after thinking through and reading what you have to say think it's best to just hang out and let things progress organically till it just ends up happening or not.
  12. Nothing casual. He and I both discussed we both don't like wasting our time and are interested in partnership at some point.
  13. Thankyou so much for your answer, I definitely couldnt agree with you more, It's just that It's been an extremely long time since a guy hasnt treated me like and was honest and passive about his feelings towards sex, but like you said that should be the standard! and nothing less.
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