Enthusiast

I dont' want to be crude so I won't describe anything. But there's no fear of contracting anything. Nothing internal. In fact, they may be no touching at all. But it does involve a sexual act. As for being addicted, I noticed with my other fantasies that once it's satisfied, I move onto something else. Which is why I'm in this state. I'm all done with the other stuff and this is what's left.

I have the usual porn movie fantasies. My partner doesn't share the same interest in them. The desire to satisfy them have been getting stronger over time. I'm thinking of whether I should seek them elsewhere to get them satisfied. Once satisfied, I'm thinking that the fantasy would go away. However, that might take a while to happen. Should I do this or not?

Moan or Scream? I've had the pleasure of having both (though not at the same time). The screaming got so loud, I had to stop and shush her. It's the positive feedback that counts. Had one where she barely made a sound. I thought I was doing it wrong so I stopped. She told me that she was in the throes of the best orgasm of her life and was barely breathing , hence no sound was made. My reply was how the %$#@ was I to know one way or another???? I encourage my partner (who's a soft moaner) to "let go" and be loud, but it's not going well. Now, I use a mirror so I can see her facial expression, which is dynamite, when we're in the act.

To answer Morky's question, I've had one fantasy where the wifey is with a stranger while I'm watching with the stranger's wife (or some other lady). Mirrors work well with this fantasy as we can watch our bodies in motion. Of course, I'd never tell her that I'm imagining her with another guy.

Talking about dreams. Last night, I dreamt about a friend (female) that I'm not even interested in! Well, I may have something for her when she has her boots on. But talk about being a lil freaked out. Don't think wifey will want to hear about what happened. Dreams aren't controllable, however fantasies are. I'd be more worried if she were fantasizing (and pleasuring herself) to somebody else... within reason of course.

Scarface, I hear what ya saying and have felt the same about my wife. We talked calmly about it. She knows my top 3 fav fantasies that involve her. I have other fantasies that it would be better if she didn't know about. Never cheated on her but sometimes I really have to get my needs satisfied. Even considered calling on one of those escort ads. But I can't bring myself to do that to her. Love her too much. So, the result is a compromise. A lady friend suggested doing a quid-pro-co thing - I do something nice for her, she does something nice for me. That didn't work, btw. So, I'm stuck, biding my time, gently encouraging, waiting for her to mature sexually. Think about how far your g/f has come since you met her. Women's sexual peak is much later than a guy's, though some exceptions exist. I've come to realize that no one person can satisfy every aspect of your life. So, if you're going to stick with one person, there's going to be some compromise. Can you imagine what's she saying about you to her friends? "He's so nice and romantic but why can't we just have plain vanilla sex? Everything else is good but he's so demanding. I give in sometimes but it's never enough."

I wish I could talk about my past sexcapades. Not to compare but to do things with her that I did with the ex's. But basic survival instincts kick in... as in, I betta keep my mouth shut unless I plan to be celibate.

I think people would catch on eventually if you two keep staring at each other. Personally, I've refrained from dating anyone from work. It's tough 'cos there are so many good-looking people at my workplace. But it's always for the better not to do so.

Rosex, I don't think you can change the type of guys you go for. I mean, you're attracted to whomever you're attracted to. You could try to make an objective choice but in the end, if there is no chemistry, there is nothing you can do about it. Speaking as someone who is older, you're still young. Enjoy all the fun you can. IF you're not ready to settle down, you can't force the issue.

Michelle03, I think David Shade hit it on the nose. Speaking as a guy who fantasized about seeing his g/f with another (man or woman), I can say that the fantasy is very exciting. Reality, however, is something completely different. Feelings of jealousy, awkwardness if I saw the other guy, word getting out to other friends, etc. I read in a thread somewhere that the reason some guys like it is that they always imagine going out with someone like a stripper or porn star. And seeing/imagining their wives/gf's with other men (especially) satisfies that need.

As the receiver of such a bj, I can't imagine feeling much with the condom on. Instead of doing that, you could try gulping some cold cider and letting it drip out of your mouth onto your b/f's penis while you masturbate him slowly. No actually physical contact (apart from the hands), no risk. ONly advice is to place a bucket underneath him - tis a mess to clean up!

An ex used to talk about 'internal' stimulation and orgasms. I can only imagine she was talking about the g-spot but never got the chance to find out for sure. Anyone heard about such a thing?

yeah, I get the shakes from time to time. It's a whole body shake like I'm shivering but I'm not cold. I don;t think it's anticipation. Could be a temporary chemical imbalance at that very moment. Doesn't happen all too often and it doesn't seem to get in the way of performing. Just irritating. Maybe try eating a muffin and drinking hot chocolate to calm the body down?

Hmmm, using a condom while giving bj. I say, might as well toast up a bagel and use that instead.

Slimgym, As someone posted earlier, there is no difference between the two drives. I masturbate everyday, in fact, twice a day. It's great to wake up to and a great way to fall asleep after. I do this 'cos I know my partner can't keep up. I don't begrudge her and I don't seek other partners. So, I do it in silence and sometimes, not so silent, so she'll wake up and join me. Hope things work out for ya.