Mistymo

Well it is summer and no kids. We have moved to another town to a better job. We have ups and downs with the two of us as well as the kids. We were going to get married this summer but are holding it off tell - maybe Christmas or next summer, not sure yet. We tent to argue a lot about my chile. Maybe I am overpertective and but I put up with his 2. They are at their mom's and do not know for sure if they want to come back to live here. They never phone their dad to say hi how are you - only when they want something (money) This makes my man sad. I seem to be picky and argumentive a lot more. I do not know how to fix it. Some days I want out of the relationship. He want to have a baby - I am not sure that I do any more. I misscarried a month ago - didn't like that to much, and I am not sure I want to get married if I am having douts. I do not want to let my child down again as well as my family. I am very lost and confused. HELP!

Wow I feel for you. I have been through a relationship where I new there was cheating going on and either the guy gets upset and makes you the bad guy or the total opposite and that is that everything is just wonderful in the relationship….he is all smiles as if the would is rolling along perfectly. The calling card, the receipt for the non existing flowers, changing an account that was being used by both of you for your life long future together al add up to…he found someone else. Yes I am fairly new here but I have seen it all. Sometime we have to be a little bit of a Bi***. You are young take some time for your self and just have fun. There are lots of great fish in the ocean.

I am in a now one year relationship with an older man. We have had ups and downs but he would very much like to have a child with me. Well A few days ago I went to the doctor for my Pap test I haven't been on the pill for about 5 months now and I spot in between my period here and there. So the doctor found on my right side of my uterus, a fiboid, which is a muscle tissue that builds upon the lining of the uterus. Well I have been bleeding like I have a regular period(some cramping) since I came from the doctor two days ago. Not sure what is going on for I had my last one two weeks ago. The doctor gave me no contern tell we get the test back. But why would I be bleeding so much and yes it is heavy. I just want to know if anyone can relate to this and tell me should I be concerned? The doctor didn't say I would bleed this much. Is my body out of wack? Maybe I am getting m enopause early. Should I keep trying to have a baby. Doctor said it would be alright but I read that it is harder to get pegnent and I am 37. HELP Lost Mistymo

Well as for how I get along with his kids- they are in the teens and they are good kids but they (or should I say I thingk they) think I am picking on them when I ask them to do something, or not to pick on my younger son who is 9. The 14 year old girl get jelous because I make my son's lunch and not hers. Those twoe tend not to get along much - she is a different girl. The othere teen, whe is a boy is a really great kid. My other half is kinda stern with my son. I had been raising him on my own for the most part of his life but is involved with his dadjust about every weekend. The othere two - their mother lives far away so they do not visit much. It is a chalenge for the both of us. Some days I want to pull my hair out. It will take time and patients. It is different for all of us.

Well thank you to both above replies. We are now engaged as of Aug 2005 and will be getting maried in Aug 2006. He has lots of energy and we have many things in common such as music, computer stuff, movies, the great outdoors, we are both very romantic and even sex is not a problem. The biggest challenge I find is our combined families (his 2 kids and my 1. I am hopping that will get better with time.

I am engaged to a man that I met through the internet. He is 11 years older then I – I am almost 37 and he just turned 48. We have no problems with our age difference but do however have children. I have one and he has 2 living with us. I find that to be the biggest challenge in the relationship. We have a lot of things in common and we have learned new things from one another. We are getting married in Aug and met on the net in Feb of 2005. Oh I hope you kissed the guy by now....Smile

We all want what we can't have. Meeting her in March will tell you everything you want to know but if there is someone you meet in the meen time , check it out - she could be the one. Right? Happy New Year to you and good luck!!

Sorry Yes he has 3 kids but only 2 live with him the other one is 17 and lives in another town. Your right he will be easy to talk to about marriage and having a child but then I have to remember that this is a new relationship.

Thank you for helping me I thought it through and told him that we should hold off moving tell my son is done school. He was very understending about it. Reasons why: he wants to get a better job to suport us and a bigger home for us to live in so by July he will be ready for us. I said that I love him for the first time today. He is the greatest guy and I do not care about the age difference. I do on the other hand have not talked about having any more children. He has 3 and I have the one. I would like to have one more but I do not know how to bring that up also he has been married 2 times and I have never been married. How and when should I bring that up. I am so happy but the distance and the not knowing is going to drive me crazy. Need advice PLEASE

This guy is no good for you. Who cares that this guys is a doctor he seems odd. I myself was with a guy that drank beer like it was water and smoked. It was all about what he wanted - well sometimes he was convincing but in the end he assulted me because I didn't want to fit in his world. Your young and there are a lot of really good guys out there. I say go get em.

I am a 36 year old single mom of one. I met a man who is 11 years older just over a month ago throught a singles internet dating service. He also has two kids that he is rasing on his own. I think that is wonderful of him to do so. He he lives in a town where I am planing to move but it is 10 hrs away. I am not moving tell my child finishes school. He has come to see me and we hit it off. Now we have fallen in love and he wants us to move in with them before July. I feel that its right in my heart and so does he. He has been out of a marrage that went bad for about 10 months(she cheated on him) and I was assaulted just 2 months ago by a man who i thought loved me. So I do not know what to do, it is hard to wait tell July. I do not whant to rush this relationship but on the other hand I do not want to waist another minute without him. He is the most thoughtful caring man I have ever met.