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yeah...well in your eyes that may be the case...but you know what...im my own person and everyones relationships are different! He needed to see what he was doing to me was wrong...and he did...so until he proves me wrong...then i will move on.... But as of now...hes doing a hell of a job and things are GREAT! Its the best they have ever been... everyone deserves second chances!!!!!!!!!!

well my success story is titled in love and confused...not ne more...read it its got its all in there for ya.. everything worked out for me...and we got back together...each relationship is different and it all depends how bad the breakup was on how long things will take to work out, or not. my break up was pretty bad and it took him 2-3 weeks to realize what he lost...we played the nc thing and i got another boyfriend...he didnt like that too much...just relax and have fun...be yourself and if he loves you he'll come back... just read that article...its got some good stuff in it... thanks and good luck!

well...im really glad that things worked out for you... i had posted some things when my boyfriend and i had broken up...maybe you might want to check them out...they're titled in love and confused.. well as for you...everything worked out...and the most i can say is to take it slow and everything will fall into its own place...give her the space she needs and maybe just give her a call every now and then and say...how ya doin or did you have any plans for the night...just take it slow and dont push yourself on her.. As for me...well my break-up was a pretty harsh one and we managed to rekindle our realtionship and get back together...its going the best its ever been... maybe read my success story...its title in love and confused...not anymore... Well im really glad things worked out for you and you need to keep us posted...good luck for what the future brings...i hope the best for you as do I

well, i dont know if this relationship is the best i can get...but i do know that he has made many changes to prove to me that he really does love me and want to be with me.... All i know is that if it works...then it works...if not...then oh well...hes at least making the effort to be a better person and treat me better and try to make up for his past mistakes...so im going to take advantage of it while i can. Hes a really nice guy deep down...and he never really was mean or whatever to me till the whole incident of me telling him that if he didnt shape up that i was going to ship out...and i did...so then he was the one who needed to realize that he was in the wrong and be the one to make the mends...and he did... As far as its going as of now...everythings going GREAT and hes been really good to me...we never really fight or ne thing...the only time we really ever fought was with the whole kimmy situation...but thats in the past now and everyone deserves second chances to prove to you that they can make things better then they were before...and as far as i can see... hes doing a hell of a good job... I love this guy to death and hes the best thing that ever happened to me...i dont know if you have ever had anything like this happen to you...but really...hes a great guy... everythings working out GREAT right now...and we are on a level where we talk about things now instead of holding them in...that was one of the biggest problems in our relationship...so its all going good and i hope it continues to...i will keep you posted...thanks for your insight!

hey all...its been a while since ive wrote back...im really sorry... Just thought id update you all and tell you that things are going much better for me now. I played the no contact thing for about 2 weeks and the whole thing of getting another boyfriend to make him jealouse, and he came crawlin back...appoligizing to me for everything that he put me through and sayin that he still loved me and it killed him to be away from me and see me happy with other guys...little does he know i wasnt happy with other guys at all...he was the only one that i wanted. But anyways... everything worked out for the best and i found out that he raelly didnt cheat on me...it was just a thing to make me jealouse so i would go crawling back...but it didnt work...hes the one that came crawling... Anyway.... everythings going great and we are the best that we have ever been... its going on 10 months...and we havent fought since we got back together...and everything is GREAT!!!! i love it! thank you all for your wonderful advice...and i look forward to hearing from all of you... i wish you all luck for the best and i hope things work out for you all... as they did for me...

hey all...its been a while since ive wrote back...im really sorry... Just thought id update you all and tell you that things are going much better for me now. I played the no contact thing for about 2 weeks and the whole thing of getting another boyfriend to make him jealouse, and he came crawlin back...appoligizing to me for everything that he put me through and sayin that he still loved me and it killed him to be away from me and see me happy with other guys...little does he know i wasnt happy with other guys at all...he was the only one that i wanted. But anyways... everything worked out for the best and i found out that he raelly didnt cheat on me...it was just a thing to make me jealouse so i would go crawling back...but it didnt work...hes the one that came crawling... Anyway.... everythings going great and we are the best that we have ever been... its going on 10 months...and we havent fought since we got back together...and everything is GREAT!!!! i love it! thank you all for your wonderful advice...and i look forward to hearing from all of you... i wish you all luck for the best and i hope things work out for you all... as they did for me...

thank you all for your wonderfull advice! I Finally worked up enough courage to tell him that he needed to frow up and that when he could treat me right then i would talk to him. he told me that he started to develope feelings for that kimmy girl....a few days ago he said it all started...but whatever i dont even care ne more! Im giving up...if he really loves me like he says...he will come back to me! He said that he still loves me and cares about me...but his depression is kicking in and its making his feelings go wacko...whatever!!!! Im moving on now... if he loves me... itll work... if not... then oh well!

just to update you all... umm... the guy that i was with for 7 months finally called me up last night and appoligized for everything...then he showed up at my friends house appoligizing and saying that a little bit of time apart made him realize what was lost... he said he misses me and everything else... Well...i stayed at his house...but we honestly didnt do ne thing except kiss and talk... but we are trying to work out our problems...and im going to play hard to get... i guess the ignoring him thing that everyone was telling me to do...and that i read about with other people actually worked! Hes the one who cam crawling back to me... and im SO HAPPY!!! We arent back together officially but we are working on things that we need to get straight in our relationship thanks everyone for your advice...please keep me posted on stuff thanks again!

yeah, its not that easy though! Ive been with him for 7 months, and he telling me that he wants to get back together.... I still havent talked to him and its been 3 days now! havent talked to him, seen him or called him! Im trying the no contact thing. The thing is, no one really likes him, hes not the greatest looking! Hes cute, but alot of people ask me why im with him becuz of his looks! But i look beyond that. he used to treat me so well. he did everything for me and he gave me the world, ne girl would love to have that! But then like i said, it all went down hill the last month! What do i do? How can i tell him how i feel and that i want him back without sounding like a pitty case?

thankyou for your reply! Yeah, i thought he was cheating on me too! I talked to the girl last night and i appoligized to her for everything that happened. She proceeded to tell me that she doesnt like him at all, and that shes still in love and waiting for her x to get back from the marines. I really dont know what to do. She read me a note that he wrote her and it said that he was really sorry that she got hurt and that he never meant for anything bad to happen to her and that it was all his fault. He said that he knew she wasnt going to believe him that we were done, but we were done for good this time.Then he said that he would give derek his number and then she could call him or stop over sometime. But, hes been telling me that he just needs time, and that he wants to get back together! What shoould i do?

Well, lets see here.... My situation is really weird. I've been with this guy for 7months now, it was the best relationship ever. He treated me so well and he always did everything for me, up until a month ago. Everything seemed to go down hill. He started lying to me, pushing me away, spending time away from me, leaving me at his house while he went out, etc. I confronted him and asked him what was going on with everything and why he was pushing me to the side! He said that he wasnt meaning to, and that I was everything that he ever wanted and that he was so happy with me. He said that he waited for a long time for someone like me to come along. Then all of a sudden one weekend at the club(my boyfriend, well x now works there) and he was drinking. I didnt think anything of it. But there was this girl there that liked him, named kimmy. I didnt think anything of it and i just went about my business, trying to have a good time. Well then I got a phone call from a friend on my cell phone who was looking for him. So i went looking for him, and to my surprise, he was in the back room. Well, the girl that liked him was back there also, and I walked in and he was untieing her top. I got so pist and i walked out crying. Well, i forgave him and he said he was just screwing around. I thought that it wasnt worth wasting all this time fighting over something that i would never know if he was messing around or not, so i just dropped it. Well then sunday, the next day, i went to work. I got done at 6 and he picked me up. He told me he was goin to the bar with some friends and that he would be back in and hour or two. So i just went out to a friends and was sitting there, when i got a phone call and they told me that i should check up on my boyfriend because he was at the Kimmys house. Well, his friend derek is going out amanda, the girl that kimmy lives with. So i went over there, and i asked him what was going on and why he had to lie to me and tell me he was going to the barwith some friends and then ended up at her house. He swore up and down that nothing happened and that he didnt like her anymore than a friend. But things just got worst. That night, he told me that he needed a break and that he was really stressed out. He is bipolar and has a severe case of depressiong. He said that he wanted to get some things straight in his life, but that we would remain together. He said that he just needed a few weeks to get on medication and go to counseloing so that he didnt end up hurting me because he "loves" me. So I tried to understand where he was coming from and i tried to give him his space. Then tuesday came around and I found out that he had picked kimmy up from a friend of mines house and brought her home, and ended up watching a movie with her. He said that she fell asleep, but i will never know. She wont tell me anything! Then thursday i stayed at his house and everything seemed to be getting better. He was actually making the initative to call me and ask me to do things with him. But then saturday came and he had a Gig to go to. He called me and said that he promised that we would spend time together on sunday when he returned. So i left it at that, and i called him sunday evening on MY cell phone, and he never answered. So i waited for him to call, but he never did. Well finally i got sick of sitting around so i went to the mall with a friend of mine. Applebees is hooked onto are mall, and we went in and we were going to go to the body jewelry store, but it was closed. Then we decided to go to Applebees to eat, and i had just went to walk in and my friend goes, "isnt that your boyfriend, hes with kimmy, eating dinner. Wasnt he supposed to call you when he got back." So i got pist, and i waited for her to come outside. And i hit her, not once, about 15-20 times. I was so upset, i was shaking and everything. I warned her over and over again and she never listened to me. Needless to say me and my boyfriend got into a big fight and he said that we werent working out and that he needed his space. What can i do to get him back? please help me! I love this guy to death and i dont want to lose him